Post: #1

I've been banging this girl for quite some time now. The thing is, she's hinting at a relationship now. Most of the stuff she does gives it away but she also says things like:
What do you want?
Why are you so complicated?
Decide on us already.
What are we?

So far, I've been giving her vague ass answers to stave her off of me in the meantime.

I'm used to dating girls and fucking them right after. I figured after doing this sometime, a relationship is established. No verbal re-assurance needed. But apparently, this girl needs it.

How would I go about this? (establishing a b/f and g/f dynamic)

If it helps, she's 19.


P.S. I forgot to mention, I fuck her every single time after a date. Should I chill out every now and then by abstaining from fucking her?

Post: #2

Why buy the cow when you're already getting the milk for free?

Post: #3

(05-30-2013 04:29 PM)Dulceácido Wrote:  Why buy the cow when you're already getting the milk for free?

True that.

As of right now, I wouldn't mind a relationship though. Besides, I need to work on my relationship game anyway.

Post: #4

You don't ever discuss the "relationship" talk. When girls are interested the will annoy you to death so that you commit to them.
If you do the "What are we" talk, then lemme warn you that you will have ones fuck buddy.

Post: #5

What do you want?

Post: #6

Nothing but headaches man.

Post: #7

"right now i'm really enjoying getting to know you. as soon as i know you well enough that i know that i want to commit you'll be the first one to know. as soon as i know you well enough that i know that i don't want to commit you'll be the first one to know too. but right now i'm really enjoying the process"

Post: #8

I still say there's no reason to commit to being exclusive when you're knocking the bottom out of her every date already. What's the best that you could hope for??? Don't do it. Avoid it at all costs.
When she starts with the typical questions just put her on ice: " Awww, come on, Babydoll... You know how deeply I care for you; why get hung up over silly definitions and labels? Surely my actions demonstrate my feelings for you much more than any verbal acknowledgement ever could. A relationship is more about the journey than it is the destination. As long as we're both happy, which is what is really important, does it really matter what kind of naming conventions we use to describe how we feel for one another? I wouldn't get wrapped around the axle about it, just go with the flow and enjoy the journey."
Throw it back on her and make her feel like she's being superficial and you don't appreciate it, you won't entertain the notion, nor will you be drawn into her drama. You will not submit to these little shit-tests of "what are we? you have to decide about us! why are you so complicated? etc..." Just refuse to participate on that level of bullshit. She's already letting you do whatever you want with her. Keep it that way. Be bold. Be decisive without committing to anything. Commit to not committing under any circumstances and commit to not being manipulated by her immature behavior. Use the fact that she's 19 against her and say that in mature, adult relationships, labels aren't necessary.

That having been said, it sounds to me like you want to date her. If that's the case, then I don't really understand what your question is. She says, "What are we?" You say, "You're mine. We're dating. Boyfriend and girlfriend." Obviously, that's what she's dying to hear, so if that's what you want, you could hardly go wrong with just being direct.