Post: #1

This is the situation:

Girl in my class. She's like a 6 but this shit is the math deparment. I've been chatting it up with her for some classes now and we made a bet to see a movie (I won, so she paid the tickets). We went after school but right before we did she mentioned that she had a boyfriend (it came up in conversation) I thought; well fuck but it was worth a shot and henceforth I would completely ignore any mentions of boyfriend and carry on as if she hadn't said anything.

Movie is pretty good, I'm trying to escalate and doing it a little slow I feel but in the end I drop her off at her dancing classes and try to go for the kiss. She's like a statue and I stop like 2 cm from her lips. "No?" "No." "Ok."


I still feel like this chick digs me and maybe alcohol is the only missing ingradient. Anyways, I'm inexperienced so taking another dude's girl might be above my current skillset still I want to ask you guys what do you think?

Is this thread dead after a failed kiss attempt? If it's not then what should my next move be?

What should I have done differently? (Movie date came up to organically I feel, still maybe should have pushed for something else yadda, yadda.)

Let me know what you think.

Post: #2

(08-26-2013 09:08 PM)Spikeball Wrote:  This is the situation:

Girl in my class. She's like a 6 but this shit is the math deparment. I've been chatting it up with her for some classes now and we made a bet to see a movie (I won, so she paid the tickets). We went after school but right before we did she mentioned that she had a boyfriend (it came up in conversation) I thought; well fuck but it was worth a shot and henceforth I would completely ignore any mentions of boyfriend and carry on as if she hadn't said anything.

Movie is pretty good, I'm trying to escalate and doing it a little slow I feel but in the end I drop her off at her dancing classes and try to go for the kiss. She's like a statue and I stop like 2 cm from her lips. "No?" "No." "Ok."


I still feel like this chick digs me and maybe alcohol is the only missing ingradient. Anyways, I'm inexperienced so taking another dude's girl might be above my current skillset still I want to ask you guys what do you think?

Is this thread dead after a failed kiss attempt?

What should I have done differently? (Movie date came up to organically I feel, still maybe should have pushed for something else yadda, yadda.)

Let me know what you think.

if she is going on dates with other guys, she could very well be looking for a way out. Yes you should have kissed her, hell you probably could have fucked her.

I am confused what happened, you got in her face like you were about to kiss her and were asking her to tell you "no"?

I would have just kissed her and said "bye"! We live in a hook up culture, even if a guy has a girlfriend, or a girl has a boyfriend, they will likely still go on dates and hook up with other people. I would say you blew this one but to learn from it, in the future, just kiss them and don't ask for permission.

Honestly, If she isn't that attractive, I would put your energy towards women that are more attractive. It is still august, and now is one of the best times of the year to be hooking up with new students, you will get a lot less resistance than normal. Sheesh, if the women are that ugly in your department, get a meal plan with your school at the dining commons and do some approaches there.

Post: #3

I didn't ask for permission. What I did was get really, REALLY close for the kiss. At the point where I was I would usually see some reaction from the other person since she just stood there paralyzed it felt a little weird. That's when I asked. "No?"

As for the second point. I will soon broaden my horizons

Post: #4

(08-26-2013 09:27 PM)Spikeball Wrote:  I didn't ask for permission. What I did was get really, REALLY close for the kiss. At the point where I was I would usually see some reaction from the other person since she just stood there paralyzed it felt a little weird. That's when I asked. "No?"

As for the second point. I will soon broaden my horizons

She stood there as if paralyzed because she was unsure about her emotions. She definitely wanted you to kiss her otherwise she would have stopped you much earlier but her little hamster stopped her from playing an active part...
Just be self-confident and go for the kiss next time - it is expected of us as men and she gave you every sign to let you know that she is ready - so just do it...

Post: #5

UPDATE:

She asked me out 2 day later and flaked, and again she asked me out yesterday. I was wary but it ended in a blowjob. Sooooo, I probably could have kissed her haha. Anyways, good result for me in the end.