Post: #1

I found RooshV 2.5 years ago and dove in as a "serious video gamer" with a shitty IT job that paid peanuts and a pretty crippling porn addiction. I spent more than I earned, was never outside of the state I grew up in, and definitely never got laid.

Within two years, I've done what I think is a lot to improve myself. My goal originally was just to improve myself to the point where I'm an independent man who can pick up women, earn his own way, and lead an interesting life. The problem is, I think I'm well on my way, and I don't think doing more of the same is really going to cut it for me. Here's what I've done so far:

• Increased my gross salary to 70k/year and save 45% of that
• Paid off $25k loans, credit card debt, etc
• Racked up 300k airline points to travel in the future
• Have a notch count of 10 and I approach 10-15 girls a week
• Am learning an instrument and foreign language
• Traveled to 10 different countries
• Started lifting--improved my squat from 90 to 225 lbs
• Eat an 80-90% paleo/low-carb diet
• Improved style
• Learned how to cook for myself
• Got on accutane to get over my teenage acne problems
• Read 1-2 books per month
• Cut video games out of my life completely
  

The point of my list is not to brag, I know most guys here already are way beyond my notch count, salary number, etc. It's just to illustrate how far I've come and where I'm at.

I guess I just feel a bit empty, like I'm not actively working towards something short term. Yes, my ultimate goal is to retire early after banging a ton of hot women and spend my time reading books and doing some of the things I really love. But that's 15-20 years away with the fairly high savings rate I'm at now.

My goals right now are to keep reading, keep improving my spanish, keep earning money, and bang hotter and more women. But it's just more of the same. I would like to start a business but just don't have any real ideas. I would like to pick up a hobby but with lifting, learning Spanish, reading, and learning my instrument I really don't have much time to do much else.

Do you guys have any advice? Maybe I should shut up and be content with how I'm doing, but I feel like I haven't hit any sort of passion or hobby that I live and strive for (beyond just general self improvement).

Post: #2

plot twist: your passion was video games and you have strayed away from what you loved!


Seems like you have done everything to be a true renaissance man except learn a martial art for self defense. Every man should know how to fight/defend himself.

Post: #3

That is some awesome accomplishment bro.

I come from a similar background (never really left my hometown, paper just isn't where id like it to be, "up and coming" in my carreer).

This post gives me mad encouragement to persevere.

Post: #4

Sounds like you're looking for a life purpose outside of yourself. The traditional answer is wife and kids, but it's not the only route. Give back in some form. Ideally, the way you give back utilizes your unique skill set and interests.

Post: #5

(12-05-2013 10:21 PM)apoclater Wrote:  Do you guys have any advice? Maybe I should shut up and be content with how I'm doing, but I feel like I haven't hit any sort of passion or hobby that I live and strive for (beyond just general self improvement).

You might consider developing a portable income, so that when you discover your passion you are not constrained by geography. Life is about options.

Not having a portable income is something that many men come regret, for a variety of reasons. If the worst ever happens and anyone targets you (crazy ex-GF stalker, judgment creditor, government agency, encroaching police state, etc.), you can simply pack up and move to another country.

P.S. -- Change the title to this thread. It sucks. Try "Setting And Achieving My Life Goals" or something even better. Sell your thread like you sell yourself.

Post: #6

- Have a notch count of 10 and I approach 10-15 girls a week
- Am learning an instrument and foreign language
- Traveled to 10 different countries
- Started lifting--improved my squat from 90 to 225 lbs
- Improved style
- Learned how to cook for myself

With these skills, I may have something that interests you.

A certain financier from California, you may know him, you may not, has a friend. This friend is in a spot of trouble involving certain unsavory types from the former Soviet Union.

That being said, your skill set would be most valuable for shall we say a negotiation and extraction.

Can you drive a stick shift?

WIA[/align]

Post: #7

(12-05-2013 10:21 PM)apoclater Wrote:  I found RooshV 2.5 years ago and dove in as a "serious video gamer" with a shitty IT job that paid peanuts and a pretty crippling porn addiction. I spent more than I earned, was never outside of the state I grew up in, and definitely never got laid.

Within two years, I've done what I think is a lot to improve myself. My goal originally was just to improve myself to the point where I'm an independent man who can pick up women, earn his own way, and lead an interesting life. The problem is, I think I'm well on my way, and I don't think doing more of the same is really going to cut it for me. Here's what I've done so far:

• Increased my gross salary to 70k/year and save 45% of that
• Paid off $25k loans, credit card debt, etc
• Racked up 300k airline points to travel in the future
• Have a notch count of 10 and I approach 10-15 girls a week
• Am learning an instrument and foreign language
• Traveled to 10 different countries
• Started lifting--improved my squat from 90 to 225 lbs
• Eat an 80-90% paleo/low-carb diet
• Improved style
• Learned how to cook for myself
• Got on accutane to get over my teenage acne problems
• Read 1-2 books per month
• Cut video games out of my life completely
  

The point of my list is not to brag, I know most guys here already are way beyond my notch count, salary number, etc. It's just to illustrate how far I've come and where I'm at.

I guess I just feel a bit empty, like I'm not actively working towards something short term. Yes, my ultimate goal is to retire early after banging a ton of hot women and spend my time reading books and doing some of the things I really love. But that's 15-20 years away with the fairly high savings rate I'm at now.

My goals right now are to keep reading, keep improving my spanish, keep earning money, and bang hotter and more women. But it's just more of the same. I would like to start a business but just don't have any real ideas. I would like to pick up a hobby but with lifting, learning Spanish, reading, and learning my instrument I really don't have much time to do much else.

Do you guys have any advice? Maybe I should shut up and be content with how I'm doing, but I feel like I haven't hit any sort of passion or hobby that I live and strive for (beyond just general self improvement).

These are just two really small suggestions, but they could be ways for you to set short term goals as well as apply your progress on two of the things you are working on.

Maybe join/start a band. How much of a commitment that would need to be could be up to you. Aside from actually being able to apply your new musical skills, you'd also get to be creative and meet some new people.

In terms of your lifting and diet, as has been suggested, try a martial art. That would be a great way to apply your new physical gains. Alternatively, you could try a very strength oriented sport such as rugby.