Post: #1

So, one thing I've been working on lately is to really pay attention to how many eligible women I see in a day, in an attempt to create more of an abundance mentality. This has worked, in a sense, because when I keep track of it I notice that there are really a decent number of attractive women out there.

The problem is, they seem somewhat unapproachable at the time. I have no concept of how to approach a random girl walking the other direction on a path way. I don't know how to approach a group of girls walking out of a movie theater. These sorts of approaches, if they were to occur, would be the coldest approaches possible. It would simply be me coming out of nowhere, jutting into the target's routine, in a non-social situation, and trying to make something happen.

I might be that I just need to man up and gives things a shot, but to be honest I can't even conceive of totally cold approach like that ever working. Do you guy make approaches in these sorts of situations, or do you just consider them lost causes? I'm really quite curious.

Post: #2

I was wondering the same thing last night. I was in walmart and I try to practice approaching everywhere I go, but just couldn't think of anything to say to any random HBs at walmart on a thursday night. I'm a lil curious as well.

Post: #3

(11-07-2008 02:09 AM)MasterOfNone Wrote:  I might be that I just need to man up and gives things a shot, but to be honest I can't even conceive of totally cold approach like that ever working. Do you guy make approaches in these sorts of situations, or do you just consider them lost causes? I'm really quite curious.

I've done a few, and they've gone well enough. (laughter, flirtations, phone #) But I think they're essentially lost causes, cause a phone # doesn't mean much to me.

Phone #'s got in the day time, typically lead to formal dating behavior which is very titled to a chick getting naked.

Post: #4

I've been in many of these "stone cold approach" situations and from what I've noticed, the best way to handle it is to train yourself to be more aware of potential topics for situational openers. If you're in the movie theater and you see HBs walking out of the theater, ask them how the movie was and make up some bs as to why you're asking, etc. The more of these you do, the easier it gets. I still freeze up in Walmart though. ;p

Post: #5

You guys are describing low success approaches. These are very difficult situations to pull, and i say that because I've tried them many times! Still if you're a beginner they are good to desensitize you to the approach.

Try this basic framework:

1. Ask for help. Directions, recommendations, opinion, whatever.
2. Use humor to get a conversation going. Have fun. If she bites then..
3. Say you actually didn't need directions and just wanted to talk to her.
4. Gauge her reaction. Positive?
5. "I have to run but you seem cool.. want to chat some time?"

Post: #6

I had some luck today with these. I saw a girl applying for a job on a computer-based application at best buy and struck it up with her. She asked if I wanted to apply and I went on how the military doesn't like for me to share their ownership of me with others. After a bit of talking, she asked if I needed to use it. I then told her that I just said that to talk to her. I didn't even have my phone on me and I got her number. She was gonna take my number on her phone and I told her to go ahead and call so I don't feel too much like a failure for forgetting a pen or my phone. So she called my phone and programmed my name into hers right there.

After getting my phone I stopped at taco bell with just the intention of getting food. The drive through girl was standing with the cashier when I walked up, she had a big smile on her face and asked me how tall I was. (I'm 6'4" so it happens, I now realize that it is a female approach) I went on about how I just got here and I'm already being questioned. I said I don't feel welcome and I had half the mind to walk out of here right then. I told her I'm insecure about my height and I feel like she cut me down a few inches right there. She knew I was flirting but was shocked that she may have hurt my feelings. We laughed and I told her my height, she told me hers. She had to go back to the window, but I called her over once she was finished. I told her that the only way I can enjoy this dining experience at this point is if she gave me her number, and I put the receipt down in front of her. She demanded my name before she gave me her number so we exchanged names first. I tried to make her guess what my name was first lol. She couldn't find a pen so I said I'll put it in my phone, then she gave it to me.

Post: #7

(11-11-2008 06:15 PM)mlucasone Wrote:  I had some luck today with these. I saw a girl applying for a job on a computer-based application at best buy and struck it up with her. She asked if I wanted to apply and I went on how the military doesn't like for me to share their ownership of me with others. After a bit of talking, she asked if I needed to use it. I then told her that I just said that to talk to her. I didn't even have my phone on me and I got her number. She was gonna take my number on her phone and I told her to go ahead and call so I don't feel too much like a failure for forgetting a pen or my phone. So she called my phone and programmed my name into hers right there.

After getting my phone I stopped at taco bell with just the intention of getting food. The drive through girl was standing with the cashier when I walked up, she had a big smile on her face and asked me how tall I was. (I'm 6'4" so it happens, I now realize that it is a female approach) I went on about how I just got here and I'm already being questioned. I said I don't feel welcome and I had half the mind to walk out of here right then. I told her I'm insecure about my height and I feel like she cut me down a few inches right there. She knew I was flirting but was shocked that she may have hurt my feelings. We laughed and I told her my height, she told me hers. She had to go back to the window, but I called her over once she was finished. I told her that the only way I can enjoy this dining experience at this point is if she gave me her number, and I put the receipt down in front of her. She demanded my name before she gave me her number so we exchanged names first. I tried to make her guess what my name was first lol. She couldn't find a pen so I said I'll put it in my phone, then she gave it to me.

Very cool dude I'll have to try out some approaches and probably read more stuff haha.

Post: #8

my advice is why make it damn hard for yourself approaching moving groups? But if you want a challenge go for it ! ! !

had a fri3nd who did this with women running in the other direction to him on a race tracki and 2wasn't much of a confidence builder because he often got blown out - its a bit creepy and not very socially 'calibrated'