Post: #1

(Brand new member. 1st post)

Have you ever dealt with or tried to get with a girl that was purposely distant or gave you a harder time because she felt like you were too much of a player or had too much social proof?

For instance, I have this chick that Ive been trying to put on my team for about 2 months now. I met her when I first moved to DC but she was already involved with some other guy so I just kinda blew it off once I saw it wasnt going to go anywhere.

About 3 or 4 months after meeting her, I saw her at this strip club in DC while I was there with another girl and some friends....she saw me and was giving me the eye and everything.

However, I didnt try and holler at her again for another 2 or 3 months because I was doing my own thing and wasnt really trippin.

Fast forward to the past 2 months or so and we've been kicking it. Have went out on a few dates. Went to some little bullshit club in some small town in VA with her, a Wizards game, and the Warf in DC.

I havent tried to kiss this girl yet or make any major physical move on her cause she hasnt really giving me that comfortable vibe that I usually get....even tho the last time I saw her was when she came to my house just to chill and left at like 3 am. I told her she could stay but she didnt fall for it.

Anyway, she is always bringing up how Im always going out with girls and how Im young and in my prime and all that. She was like, "im usually more skpetical with more attractive guys because they usually play you cause they can"

Im a pessimist by nature tho and always feel like a girl is full of shit until proven otherwise. So part of me wants to believe that she may really feel that I may end up playing her if she really opens up and falls for me and another part of me feels that she may just be using that an excuse because she's still on the fence about whether or not she even likes me like that.

I let my nuts hangs recently tho and told her that I want her to spend the night this weekend and surprisingly, she agreed to saturday. Of course I plan on going all out. If she flakes out Im just going to blow her off and move on.

But, have you ever dealt with a girl that was reluctant to get with you because she felt that you were only going to play her because you had too much social proof? How did you handle that situation? What was the outcome?

Post: #2

First, welcome to the faction, you'll find some good info.

Second, you did a few things wrong. When she was eye-fucking you you should have went over to say hello. Also, you should make a move when you get her on dates.

As for a girl thinking you're a player, there are a few ways to handle it, though I find either ignoring her objections, being earnest but unbothered ('I have a lot of friends, nothing wrong with that.') and agree-amplify ('My harem is huge, but I don't have a (her race/age/whatever here) in it yet').

Post: #3

The only reason I didnt say anything to her that night was because I literally was with another girl and honestly wasnt really to pressed to talk to her at the time. I was moreso on some "yea bitch, Im still out here in the world doing my thing....all in VIP at the strip club...you see me....you missed out" LOL

In retrospect, I probably should have been a little more aggressive when I was around her on dates but I hate feeling like I have to bulldoze my way into a chicks personal space. I guess I bought into the "dont bring up sex and act super icy and theyll be salivating over you later" idea. I mean she's still been giving me play so, I dont think Ive really just missed out.

But like I said, I got bold with her and told her that I wanted her to spend the night and she agreed. She's supposed to come through tommorow. I plan on going from zero to 160 on her ass. If she flakes out or acts shitty or whatever, Imma be done with her.


Preciate the reply tho

Post: #4

Nothing is better than being seen with another chick, so you have covered that base already. Girls talk alot of shit and yes your are right when you say you do not buy into it.

I say make a physical move on her and see what the reaction is, the way you are going it seems like you want to "wife" this chick or something.

I hate the line about harem as well, certain girls would get turned off by that. The best response is a smirk or do not respond/reply to it.

What is she doing at a strip club?

Post: #5

(12-31-2010 05:02 PM)Nonpareil Wrote:  ('My harem is huge, but I don't have a (her race/age/whatever here) in it yet').

BRILLIANT! I'm using this one! haha

Post: #6

(01-01-2011 05:22 PM)MiXX Wrote:  

(12-31-2010 05:02 PM)Nonpareil Wrote:  ('My harem is huge, but I don't have a (her race/age/whatever here) in it yet').

BRILLIANT! I'm using this one! haha

I actually bit this one off of Roissy (I forget the post), and it does work fairly well. Agree-Amplify is something that never fails to amaze me in just how well it works.

In the spirit of this thread though, when a girl accuses you of being a player and a random girl slayer, you don't want to assuage her objections; girls love players and a girl thinking you're a player is almost always a good thing and is certainly better than her thinking you aren't a player. Sure, the odd girl will drop you if she thinks/knows you're a player, but most often these girls are either lame or girls that have fucked a lot of players in the past and want a faithful provider boyfriend.

You're really just deflecting, neither confirming or denying if you're a player and letting her imagination do the work for you, that's what the OP should glean from this.

Post: #7

they all want the cock especially one all the other vags want too. Logically she might have some hesitancy but women are more emotion than logic, get her emotionally excited. (i.e. build her state) and she will fuck you no problem.

girls calling u a player is simply a shit test. So you either just ignore it or agree and amplify. As long as you're unreactive and dont get defensive about it it will not be problem.

Post: #8

I just remembered on thing I say when I get accused of being a player, or asked/accused of having a girlfriend.

"Naww, Girls don't like me."

Post: #9

Exactly. Girl calls you a player, itøs because she wents to see if she can pussify you. If you have tight game uber alpha-game, you will not get this one. If you seem like a nice guy, but obviously rolling in pussy, her poor hamster will be going into over-drive trying to figure out what you are about.

If you fail the shit test, you will be packaged and sealed for cuckold city. She will fuck you and her subconcious will compell her to destroy you.

Post: #10

My second favorite response by way of Roissy, behind the 'My harem is huge, but I don't have a (her race/age/whatever here) in it yet':

Please, do I look that easy (with a shit eating grin on my face)?