Post: #1

Just got back from meeting this tinder girl (HB7 22) for the first time tonight. Told her to meet me at a bar I've been to a couple times, 15 minutes from my place.

This bar has a very long bar with ample seating, as well as a shit-load of booths around the walls. Tonight when we got there the bar was packed 2-deep, with no open stools. The only option to sit was in the booths.

So we sit in the booth and i tell her I'll get the first round. She's a cool girl, and the conversation flows easily for a couple hours/ 4 beers.

The whole time we were there, a spot never opened up of us to move to the bar. This was the town over from where I usually go, and it would have been about a 20 minute drive to the nearest bar I knew was good to bounce to.

The night ended in a weak kiss-close, but she was vibing the whole time and I feel like theres a good chance o us getting together again soon.

Now my question is how could I have handled the kino situation better? Sitting across from each other all I could muster was a few forearm/hand touches. And I felt as though it would have been awkward for me to move across the table and sit next to her. There was also no dance floor.

What are some things you guys would do to move the date in a better direction? I'm almost certain if we had been sitting in bar stools right next to each other we would have at least had a good make-out by the end of the night.

Post: #2

Find an excuse to sit next to her, show her a cool picture on your phone or something, and because she can't see it clearly, now sit right next to her. Now she can see it clearly, and you can kino properly.

Post: #3

At some point when you get up, to take a leak or buy a new drink or whatever, switch to sit next to her. Even if it feels a bit tacky, if she's into you she won't mind.

Or just go all out, and at some point say there's something you want to do, move to her side and kiss her straight away.

Post: #4

There are a few bars in my neighborhood that I like, but I'll never go on a date there. Why? No sofas or any other places where I can sit next to my date. The layout with booths, though, is actually pretty good if you play your cards right.

I agree with previous posters that you should just find an excuse to move close to her. If she likes you, the excuse doesn't matter. If she doesn't, you've saved yourself some time.

Post: #5

Thanks for the tips. The switch might have been awkward for a second but if she's into it then it wouldn't have mattered. Just another lesson that its better to be too bold than not bold enough.

Post: #6

If you're really having a hard time with this move, try playing some type of coin brain teaser game that you 'need to sit next to her' in order to show her better. gives you plausible deniability and lets you build up courage to just up and do it over time.

Post: #7

You can always use your feet to test the waters.

Post: #8

offer to go somewhere else if the vibe at that place sucks, or if you are feeling her. would say though this didn't go entirely all that bad, in fact you probably set yourself up well for the next meet up if you didnt come off as thirsty. awkwardness is perfectly fine if the girl likes you, you can even fake it a bit to make her think you are holding back.

Post: #9

Go on a different date.

Meet up to play pool if she sucks at pool. You'll have to help adjust her hands to shoot straight. And her arms. And her back.

Meet up to ice skate if she sucks at ice skating. You'll have to hold her hands to keep her from falling and when she does fall, most of her body is on limits when you try to stop her from bringing you down with her and picking her back up.

Go dancing with her if she sucks at dancing...you see where this is going.

Wald

Post: #10

This happens to me from time to time. I always do the following:

"I can't hear you." As soon as the last syllable is out of my mouth I get up and go sit next to her. I do not wait for her to acknowledge what I just said much less respond. I don't even care if there's not enough room (i.e. other people at a table next to us.)

What can she do? Exactly nothing. The "worst" response I got was that she finds it awkward to sit next to each other in a situation like that. I just ignored her comment and continued with my story/the date and we still had sex after.

Post: #11

I ended up going out with her again last night. We texted a bit back and forth during the day, and we both had plans to go out in the same town (one closer to me) with our friends. I never usually see a girl two nights in a row when we first meet, but it seemed like she was feeling it and we decided to meet up when we got to the bars.

Her and her friends get there around 11, and I get there with my friend around 11:45. The bar is packed and I don't see her in there. Shoot her a text and proceed to drink with my friend and some other people we knew who happened to be there.

I don't hear from her for about 40 minutes and assume she went to some other bar by now, and am chatting up this thin brunette with a somewhat exotic look. I'm teasing her about being irish/dominican and looking persian, and how nobody's gonna believe she's irish on saint pattys day. She's laughing and touching, and I'm having a good time.

At this point I wasn't even thinking about the first girl, and she walks by with her friends. She says she was at the bar the whole time, and goes to get another round with her friends. The persian-looking girl wants me to go with her and her friends to another bar/club with more dancing, and I tell her I might head down there later but need to find my friends, and get her number.

Finally make my way over to Tinder girl again and it takes a couple minutes to warm her back up. We end up going to 4 different bars throughout the night, Me, her and one of her friends. No kino problems at all, and her friend wasn't a cock-block. We're all basically shooting the shit, having a good time, and her friend is periodically leaving to talk/dance with some guy.

Start kissing her towards the end of the night whenever her friend saunters off. Bars closed at 4 and I walked them to where we parked, and Tinder girl unfortunately had to drive her friend home. Kissed some more by the car and made plans to hang out again.

Thanks to all again for the good advice on how to handle booths, and other good kino ideas.