Post: #1

So, I'm posting this here because you guys always have great advice on the topic of game, women and relationships.

Long story short, this guy I considered a close friend in my grad program is being very difficult in working with us on our group project. This project is time consuming but something that needs to be done in order for us to graduate. What happened was that he was being indecisive as the leader for the project, so I took over and now we are almost finished(was I wrong in doing this?) However, he became really upset when this happened. Nevertheless, it was a really great feeling on my part because this so-called friend of mine acted(and is still acting) like a crazy ex, sending us these passive aggressive emails how our project would be "soooo embarrassing." He also made it extremely stressful for the rest of the people in the group by not participating more in the process and making us do more shit.

I'm not sure what to do about reconciling with him. I don't think I was in the wrong by taking over(correct me if I'm wrong. I'm open to constructive criticism.)And it seems like I'm the only one that wants to talk it out between us.

So, what is the alpha way to deal with this? I don't like all this fucking high-school drama shit, but I feel like I need to deal with it in a certain way.

Post: #2

Does this person have any good reasons for procrastinating on the group or for being angry? I would forget about this person as the adult child they are if not.

Post: #3

The way to handle it is just let it be. You decided to take over, don't apologize for getting it done. He's probably butthurt that you did it better. Drop the issue and then there won't be one.

Post: #4

Stop using the word alpha, for starters.

Post: #5

I have written endlessly about this:

How do you deal with blame-game in an organization, and the consequences of handling it poorly:
/thread-25624-...#pid486113

How do you deal with lazy, good-for-nothing boss:
/thread-25624-...#pid490316

How to balance strong work ethic versus being a stupid tool at the workplace. Lessons from the trenches:
/thread-25624-...#pid486437

How to deal with status jockeying/teasing in a social circle: (destroy it merciless. retaliate. show you have zero tolerance for it. dont try to be cool. take no quarter, show no mercy. dont agree/amplify. that is for idiots. the people in that social settings do not give a bloody fuck about your feeling--to them, you are just an entertainment; as such, dont give a bloody fuck about "spoiling the party" for them or any such nonsense. dont be the butt of jokes, let some other tool/idiot be the butt of jokes. Anyways, here is more about social circle game:
/thread-34576-...#pid690386

Gaming and white-knights in a organization with pro-women and all sorts of faggotry:
/thread-29705-...#pid570827

You said the person is your friend.... Is he really? Here is my selection profile for friendship:
/thread-33997-...#pid676645

/thread-33997-...#pid678488

There are a bunch of other posts on this subject by other people... dont know your specific situation... if you do a few word combination searches, i am sure you will find solid advices.

regards,

Nemencine

Post: #6

(04-07-2014 06:15 PM)Nemencine Wrote:  I have written endlessly about this:

How do you deal with blame-game in an organization, and the consequences of handling it poorly:
/thread-25624-...#pid486113

How do you deal with lazy, good-for-nothing boss:
/thread-25624-...#pid490316

How to balance strong work ethic versus being a stupid tool at the workplace. Lessons from the trenches:
/thread-25624-...#pid486437

How to deal with status jockeying/teasing in a social circle: (destroy it merciless. retaliate. show you have zero tolerance for it. dont try to be cool. take no quarter, show no mercy. dont agree/amplify. that is for idiots. the people in that social settings do not give a bloody fuck about your feeling--to them, you are just an entertainment; as such, dont give a bloody fuck about "spoiling the party" for them or any such nonsense. dont be the butt of jokes, let some other tool/idiot be the butt of jokes. Anyways, here is more about social circle game:
/thread-34576-...#pid690386

Gaming and white-knights in a organization with pro-women and all sorts of faggotry:
/thread-29705-...#pid570827

You said the person is your friend.... Is he really? Here is my selection profile for friendship:
/thread-33997-...#pid676645

/thread-33997-...#pid678488

There are a bunch of other posts on this subject by other people... dont know your specific situation... if you do a few word combination searches, i am sure you will find solid advices.

regards,

Nemencine

Yeah... This post is going in my favourites for future reference.

Post: #7

The ultimate question is do you really want to emulate alpha behavior i.e. be a charismatic but selfish jerk just so you can please men/women enough to get your way?

Alphas may inspire confidence in men and women but do you really want to be one of these people or spend much time around them? I have friends who are alphas but I can't count on them in a pinch or if there is any conflict with their own self interest.

It is more about past shared adventures or memories than a solid 2 way friendship.

Post: #8

Another place to get some workplace advice is askamanager.org The blogger there gives great advice on workplace problems and the commenters there are good as well.