Post: #1

I've been a lurker here for about a year, gained some much needed red pill knowledge, used it to my benefit. I finally registered about 10 days ago because i was going to comment on the Elliot Rodger murders, but then this just happened last night....

back story: me, white, in my 30s, girl 21, works in bar/ lounge, tall, West African, pretty face, slamming body (32HH, legit), tight ass that only black girls seem to have. Every public interaction of her life is tinder for her. 8.5/10, 7.5-8 if you're not into black girls. Dating for three months, met on ok cupid, she didn't even have a pic, i figured what the hell, and it worked out.

So 10 days ago i go to her place, she says her period is irregular, might be pregnant, will go to doctor to figure it out. We smash, our best set yet, she says "no one has ever been able to do that to me with a dick". Next day, snap chats me she got her period, we're safe.

Last Monday night she got rushed to the hospital. I woke up to a text saying she was pregnant, might be ectopic pregnancy (egg attaches in fallopian tubes, potentially fatal to the woman). I get to the hospital as soon as i can, sitting with her in an emergency room bed, doctor tells us it's a bad miscarriage, she'll bleed out yadda yadda. Whole time i'm holding/ kissing her hand, she's looking at me-for lack of a better word-lovingly, i'm genuinely concerned for her, even after the danger passes. as there are psychological issues for women with miscarriages (she said she was going to abort if needed). We hang for a bit, effusively thanking me for `being there` for her, that i didn't avoid any responsibility etc. We watch a movie thursday as she's still bleeding out...

Last night, calls me to break up. Saying she needs to be alone, is very attracted to me etc. My instinct is she stared down the barrel of being tied down, at her age, and her hormones/ emotions have gotten the better of her.

Now, we weren't exclusive, we've both been with one or two others, she's positive the pregnancy was mine, time frame checks out. What insight i need is this: maybe reading all this red pill stuff has gotten to me, but she made a comment to the effect of `you have no idea how much it meant to me that you were there for me in the hospital. I've dated other guys who would have just said call me when the baby's dead.` Yet she breaks up with me 5 days after. Is there anything learnable in this? I mean if i ditched her five days after a miscarriage it'd be the biggest dick move ever in her mind, and somewhat legitimately. Further it seems it'd be taking the anti-blue pill/ beta thing way too far to not have "been there" for her, shown feelings/ concern etc in that moment...

anyway, excuse the length, glad to be aboard

Post: #2

Sounds like you dodged a bullet. She did the hard part, now it's time to move forward and start afresh.

Post: #3

After something like that she probably needs a break to figure out her life. When we go through intense experiences there is often a lot of need to reflect.

Give her space.

Post: #4

After an abortion/miscarriage breakup is nearly a guarantee

Post: #5

I agree. Look dude, her pregnancy by you nearly broke her vagina and nearly killed her. Probably for the best that you take the opportunity to be away from her. She may return but leave it be. It's likely it would've been better if you'd not been there holding her hand and all but live and learn

Post: #6

As cold as this sounds, you showed her you cared too much. A female herself once told me, "I hate it when guys act like they care about me, especially when other guys didn't. It tells me I'm too good for them."

Your situation might be a bit more serious but her actions speak louder than her words here. She may need some "space" but don't be surprised if she never contacts you again as a FWB.

Remember that with women, "the medium is the message." The medium here is the action of ceasing contact with you, regardless of her saying she "loves you."

TL;DR: Focus on what her actions say, not her words.

Post: #7

to be clear, it's not like i was falling in love or anything. I like her alot, we get along great, sex is mostly great, but i had been consciously doing the playing it cool, not getting too emotionally invested, not letting her get away with an abundance of shit tests etc.

another thing, her mom abandoned her family a couple years ago, she was in therapy for the depression/ shock, so she obviously has abandonment issues.

and she texted me today, "i already miss you so much...you always made me feel so special....can you give me time to get it straight" etc, i said i was uncomfortable with the idea of her finding herself the way that girls with these parental issues usually do-with cock. But yeah, i'm thinking give her space, see what becomes.

maybe naive, but why is a breakup nearly a guarantee after an abortion/ miscarriage?

and i get the caring too much thing, i've done that in the past and it blew up, but looking up ectopic pregnancy and seeing potentially fatal freaked me out. Red pill narrative aside, at what point are we okay to show feelings?

FWIW I've got a 19yo lined up for the weekend, so...