Post: #1

I searched and couldn't find a similar thread devoted to this topic.

Can the established forum members on here give some advice on meeting other members for the first time?

I get a lot of people with a small post count asking to meet up when they move out to the west of Canada. I have been lucky so far in that everyone I have meet up has been cool.

Given this recent post by NN I am going to tighten up on the personal info I give out before I know a person well etc.

It is hard to balance the pros of meeting cool, driven, likeminded guys with getting fucked over by some weirdo.

Can people drop some data on what they think is the best way to go about meetups and things to avoid etc. A lot of it will probably be common sense but I think it will be good for everyone to revise.

At the moment I NEVER mention where I work and hardly ever give out my Facebook details.
I do give out my number quite a bit and also my Skype every so often.
I usually try meeting somewhere I don't go too often so I don't burn a spot if things go bad.

Post: #2

Just saying I think skype has a vulnerability where they can see your IP or doxx you or some shit like that if they know your username. Also I think they can add you to random chats/groups(probably only if you are friends witht hem) which can spam the fuck out of you.

I havent actually met anyone yet but when I do I would be more comfortable in large groups and public places and check them out in person.

Post: #3

Phone numbers are dangerous. A long time back I made a point of catching an ex in a lie when she asked for money by proving that her ex was still paying her phone bill. Simple number look up on a website and name with address included was given.

Post: #4

I think using a burner number bought via an app like Hushed would be ideal.

Post: #5

If you don't know the protocol, it's best not to try. The consequences of incorrectly giving the Sign are horrific.

Hint: the Third Rune must be drawn in FRESH blood. I nearly blew it when I used a day old supply.

Post: #6

I've met a couple dozen or so members and have had no negative experiences. In fact every member I've met has been in one way or another a positive experience. Everyone I've met has had something positive to offer.

That said, I am careful about who I meet and don't meet.

I ask myself:

Has this person met other members?
Does this person post frequently?
Do their posts represent a man I would want to have a conversation with?

I can weed out weird PM's or people asking me to meet up pretty quickly based on the posts they have, or haven't made and whether others can vouch for them.

I've said before and I'll say it again, it's essential to rep people you have met in person, just to validate their existence as a living, breathing human being. I've long thought this forum could use a more substantive 'who's met who' section beyond sifting through rep points and the 'What forum members have you met' thread. It's important to meet other goal oriented men from this forum, and it's equally important to know that other people I trust can vouch for that person.

Now this makes it hard for a new person to 'get in the loop', but so be it. I personally did not seek out members to meet until I had posted a good docket of information, allowing those people to look at my posts and judge for themselves as to whether I was worthy of meeting.

In wake of NN's outing, I'm certainly going to be more careful about attending wide-bodied RVF meet ups where I might not know the identity of who is going to be there.

Hell, I was with NN last weekend. Cool dude. The fact that someone would try to out a man living life on his own terms is as low as it goes. What's even worse is that NN is a wildly insightful man with much more depth than just hitting on women.

Haters should stop looking at others with envy, take a fucking look at themselves in the mirror, and ask how they can improve themselves.

Post: #7

(06-12-2014 06:56 AM)Valentine Wrote:  I think using a burner number bought via an app like Hushed would be ideal.

Dude, he's talking about meeting other members not buying three kilos of cocaine.

Post: #8

I have been fortunate to not have met any bad eggs from the forum. The topics that are opened from a shared interest in the forum are far and wide.

I'm fine with publicly meeting and discussing forum topics rather in-depth, but private information should be shared as much as you would with a stranger: none. At least, until an extended period of time has passed and past interactions prove that the person is likely not crazy.

Just because you agree on critically important life topics does not mean the person doesn't value benefiting his life over the costs his actions may have on yours.

Post: #9

I organized a meetup recently in LA. I got a couple PMs from guys who were unknown commodities, who had no reps or one rep from someone else equally unknown. I didn't give them the meetup details. The people that did show were fine, most of whom I had met already anyway. There was one weird dude who PMed me with interest, with a brief bio yet he had zero posts or reps. I ignored him entirely.

Use a Google number.
Don't be afraid to give an alias initially.
Look for reps and posts.
Don't invite complete unknowns to meetups.

Post: #10

I can see some losers out there using meetups as a ploy to "out" us to the world instead of being cool
and actually learning something about life and banging women.

Post: #11

Ever since the fiasco with the PUAIdiots, I've tightened up my process.

-If a member has not already met a member who is highly repped and been vouched for, then it's not happening.

-Also, I've tightened my circle with members I'm already friends with. It's not to be a dick, but obviously there's some real psychos circling around this forum looking to do harm.

As far as precautions:

-Fake name or use your username only.
-Burner number: Google or throwaway phone.
-Never meet at your house obviously.
-Don't bring them around your other friends until they've been vetted.
-Never discuss your place of employment, or anything that could reveal your identity.

Post: #12

Make sure any bio you give out passes the LinkedIn test.

Could someone ascertain your identify from searching [your name and college site:linkedin.com] (especially when doing a Google image search)?

In truth it's easy to out anyone here. Some reasonable precautions may be necessary, but a dedicated hater will out you.


There's nothing I've said online that I haven't said in real life, so no one would be shocked if someone laid down "dirt" on me. They'd just laugh.

And since my income is not dependent on The Man, what are they going to do? Blast my name on Google? So what. It's a waste of their time.

It also helps to know a little SEO. What is someone trashes your name? There are ways to handle that. In fact, I keep an updating and older blog of mine because it has a high PR This allows me to maintain control of my name (and the name of adversaries) that show up in Google.

That said, I'd offer three pieces of advice:

1. Be yourself. Stop living a lie.
If friends and family don't like it, whatever. Move on, as you're living a lie. They love you for who you're not, which means they don't love you.

2. Make your money "off the grid." / Learn marketing.
I'll be making enough money off of savings and D&P to live entirely off of the blog by the beginning of 2015.

3. Don't be a mindless consumer.
I talked to a guy at NYC meet-up who saved his money and is going to go teach English. Think anyone cares if somehow his name shows up on Google?

Save your money as a Freedom Fund. I stashed a bunch of money away so that I could focus on making money online without having to worry about job fallout.

So now I'm untouchable.

In fact, I invite haters. Haters just means more traffic and more readers.

Once I start selling eBooks, I will even pull a stunt or two.

Remember the Rule of the Silent Middle. Lots of men who are told to "look at how stupid/fucked up this guy is!" are going to agree with you.

Have a product or service to sell those men and then hate is just marketing for you.

Post: #13

(06-12-2014 04:12 AM)Atlantic Wrote:  I searched and couldn't find a similar thread devoted to this topic.

Can the established forum members on here give some advice on meeting other members for the first time?

I get a lot of people with a small post count asking to meet up when they move out to the west of Canada. I have been lucky so far in that everyone I have meet up has been cool.

Given this recent post by NN I am going to tighten up on the personal info I give out before I know a person well etc.

It is hard to balance the pros of meeting cool, driven, likeminded guys with getting fucked over by some weirdo.

Can people drop some data on what they think is the best way to go about meetups and things to avoid etc. A lot of it will probably be common sense but I think it will be good for everyone to revise.

At the moment I NEVER mention where I work and hardly ever give out my Facebook details.
I do give out my number quite a bit and also my Skype every so often.
I usually try meeting somewhere I don't go too often so I don't burn a spot if things go bad.

I don't think you have to worry too much about weirdos from the RVF guys who move to Alberta, they're too busy trying to find work or actually working to fuck around on the internet, at least they should be anyway. I can't see someone moving all the way out there and then pulling some malicious shit, if they ever did, I"m sure we could assemble an RVF Oil Sands crew and dole out a good beat down if need be. The last meet up we had back in February was pretty good, I think about 15 guys showed up and someone paid my bar tab, I should probably organize another one soon.

As far as the stuff I've wrote on here goes, I'm not too worried, my family and friends are aware of the things I do while traveling, namely partying hard and chasing women. If someone were to show my parents what I've wrote on here, they probably wouldn't be surprised and would likely be proud of my oil sands data sheet. As far as work goes, the things I've wrote on here pale in comparison to the things the dirt bags I work with do on a regular basis!

Post: #14

^^Good points scotian.

Ya everyone who moves out here has been cool to meet. We should get another meet up going soon.

Maybe just start an edmonton thread (is there one already?) cause I think a lot of guys arnt checking the oil sands thread too much.