Post: #1

So I was at a local starbucks working on my laptop and noticed a girl and her girlfriend sitting about 3 tables away from me. The table wasn't in conversing radius so if I was to approach I had to get up and walk over to her.

We made eye contact several times, for 3 seconds each time, a smile here and there. I knew I had to make the approach and noticed her friend took her notebook and went outside to study on her own.

I approached her and the convo went something like this

Me: Hey thats a nice laptop, do you like it?
Her: Yeah its cool, its my sisters.
Me: Is it portable?
Her: Yeah its kind of light, aren't all laptops supposed to be (in a smartass, but playful kind of way)?
Me: No, the one I got is heavy...blah blah blah
Me: That pink color on the laptop is cool, so I can assume you like the color pink?
Her: Actually no its my sisters, I dont like pink. The laptop I have at home is black.
....some more random small talk

Me: So you come here often?
Her: Yeah, I study here.
Me: You seem cool. Someone I'd want to hang out with. Whats your number?
Her: Why don't you give me yours.
Me: Sorry but I dont give out my number (I said it while I positioned my body to leave)
Her: Well maybe we can see eachother here again
Me: Maybe...

Mind you this whole time I was standing up with my laptop bag on my shoulder even though she was showing quite a bit of interest. (maybe one of my mistakes was not sitting down)

There were quite a few other girls there too who were showing signs of interest in me that day, eavesdropping from nearby tables, who possibly went to the same high school or college as the girl I approached and maybe she didnt want to seem like she gives her number out that easily. I get the feeling that the girls that go to that starbucks to study are very "clicky".

Post: #2

word of advice: don't think about it, don't over-analyse it...just go out and do more approaches

Post: #3

You should've just given your number and exited. What was the issue with that? Then if she messages, you can pursue; if not, then well...you should get so many numbers that it doesn't matter one way or the other.

Post: #4

You're asking too many questions. Make statements. Be pithy.

Post: #5

You could try:
Instead of asking for her number, take out your phone, hand it to her, and say "Put your number in my phone, we'll hang out sometime.".
I've had good success getting girls' numbers this way.

Post: #6

Sound to me more like a trial/desensitizing approach kinda like asking for time and direction. Theres nothing sexual or fun about this one. But this is not bad. If you are starting out do a lot of this actually, until you can walk up to her at the first eye contact.

Dont overthink it. Roosh cautioned that you should not analyze or ask for advice until you have done at least 100 approaches. Its bc you will get too analytical and will quit or make very slow progress. You cant become a player overnight. It takes a few hundreds approaches to do that.

Still feel like a wasted opportunity though. Her friend left so that you 2 could chat...

Post: #7

Try a little more banter to build comfort....remember women are wary like cats sometimes....make the cat feel comfy.

example. Her...yeah I study here.
You. Yeah I come here sometimes too....I work/go to schoil real close so its convenient. (Youre dropping bait about where u work or school for her to ask ....or at least you are "anchoring yourself" as paul janka would say so shell know ur a local who is safe )

Her: blah

You; so what are you studying?

Her: blah

Then u take what she says and elaborate on it...ie....oh so youre majoring in nursing. My cousin is an RN...she really likes it.

You get the picture....make lemonade from her lemon responses. ...then say you have to run but would like to text her sometime for a coffee or drink. I personally never use the word "number" when im going for the digits.

another tactic I have found good is ask her her name. When she tells you....shake her hand warmly and say " nice to meet you anna" but do not offer your name. Most of the time they will ask....sometimes even ask ur last name.

when they ask....the number is a foregone conclusion

Post: #8

focus less on what you are saying and focus more on how you are saying it. Think charm, confidence, cockiness and being fun

Post: #9

Thanks all, some great advice and techniques here.

I just need to do more and keep learning from it.