Post: #1

Hey guys-
I'll try to keep this brief - but I'm curious how married guys are landing college girl FWBs. The logistics are a bitch. So is the trust/discretion factor. I'm 40+, good looking and need variety - especially of the younger sort. Caveat - if the morality of this offends you please skip this thread - thanks.

Case in point - recently I placed a online ad - your basic older man for younger woman. Lots of BS this route but I've had some surprisingly good successes, too. Anyway I got a response from a senior at a local college. She actually super girl next door beautiful and has an awesome young body - and she is dirty and has a thing for older men. Perfect. I could see a regular thing happening here. Not just one time.

First obstacle was texting - kind of. I use a texting app which was fine until the topic of pics came up. Can't receive them unless both are using the app. Did mange to get past his obstacle - said my phone was work supplied and has shitty data package.

Next was she wanted my real phone. I happen to have an untraceable prepaid phone in a drawer at work so I used this as my "real number"

Next she asked if married. I posted about this a few days ago. I make a joke and dodge. She said she was just curious... She also asks my age - I say 35 - which she likes.

So we meet in person for a coffee. She is awesome - see description above.

No bang - we had a drink but it was midafternoon and we both had places to be after.

Texting ramps up big time. Its getting dirty. We're talking about getting together again asap with full intention of fucking like crazy. She asks my last name. I try to joke but she says flat out - she isn't going to sleep with somebody whose last name she doesn't know.

So now I'm like fuck - this chick is young, hot, dirty, likes older men.
IF I tell her my last name she googles me and there goes all sense of anonymity. She'll figure out I'm married and true age. I had a feeling she didn't care if I was married based on her "just curious" response (in hindsight I should have fessed up right then in this case) and she said a few times the age gap turned her on a lot. So I fessed up to the two things. Told her I understood if she told me to go fly a kite. We talked a little more. I apologized. She still wants last name. I said think about it over night and if she's ok with things in the morning I'll tell her. We talk more and she's says it's ok, with some reservation. I think hard and against my better judgement (using little head) I tell her.

Today she says she can't get past the dishonesty. So I've given my last name and it still went nowhere.

Knowing what I know now I should have told her upfront I was married. I guess that's the best policy - and you'll win some lose some.

What do you do about last name question?? I tried to think of a way to create a fake LinkedIn or facebook or???? but you'll have no (or very few friends/connections) Or just give a fake?

Give a fake first name that is "short" for your real name (that you don't tell?? Or use your middle name as your first??

Maybe with college girls you just need SDL/one time thing or else it's too complicated?? For me I can't go to bars and take them home. So it's day time stuff 99% of the time...

Constructive criticism appreciated.

Post: #2

From personal experience - most of the time they won't goggle you anyway...besides I've given a faux name like Cory Smith before and you can imagine it's like finding that needle in a haystack. They are lazy and won't do the leg work.

Sounds like she was on the verge and she just wanted the 'comfort' of knowing your last name, which if you think about it doesn't constitute 'knowing" a person in any shape, fashion or form

But I digress...You can choose to go the honest route but if the situation goes sour you risk exposure no matter what she says upfront

For trying times like this, I've created a fake FB account for the younger set of chicks I encounter along the way who I don't feel like self-disclosing with. Equipped with fake friends (aren't they all anyway) and my favorite team logo as the main pic. If the question of why you have so little friends arises - tell her you have to deactivate because of a past stalker issue and proceed from there. That generation of girls have been programmed that if you have an active fb/Twitter/Instagram - then you MUST be an alright guy. That is as good as a driver's license/birth certificate for most of them from my personal experience.

Next time, you can't let her hamster fry overnight like that. You want her to act quickly and without reflection so you need your backstory already in place.

Any hesitation and you won't get your dick wet.

Post: #3

Lie away in the future, even if they find out the name you gave was fake, as long as they don't know your real name you're fine.

Even if a girl suspects lying they seemingly seem to enjoy being in the dark. Or they enjoy being upset at being in the dark, but same thing

Post: #4

Unless you have a unique name that's going to be easy to find then telling her your name won't blow back on you as no way will she find you amongst all the others who have the same first and last name.
Even if you do have a unique last name just come up with a fake last name, google your new fake name and see what comes up. If it's just a confusing mass of 30 different guys then happy days, roll on with this fake name and even if she does actually bother to google you or Facebook you it won't go anywhere.

On the married thing I say go with it up front. Unless you have a job which means you travel a lot then a marriage is going to constrain your time and you need a girl who's going to understand that. I'd say you're better off having a flexible girl and missing out on the few who turn you down because you're married.

As for your age, just keep lying about that.

Post: #5

Thanks for the responses so far - appreciated. And sorry for all the typos - thought I caught them all.

I think unless it's the rare occasion (traveling) when I can get a same day lay - yeah be upfront about the marriage and some will be ok, others not. I can live with that. Good call Roardog.
My name - while not a crazy unique name it is not common at all. A quick google search and I come up within top 5 results. With a link to my company website - which says I'm married and year I graduated from college. My thinking has been I like to use my real first name because what if a waitress or somebody says "thanks, (insert my name here)" or something it would get real awkward real fast?? I'm thinking I should come up with a new last name. Problem is I'd say my last name is more common than first. Again for a SDL I could use a fake first name - but if I want repeat bangs then that potentially gets complicated.

I'm sure I'm over analyzing - or maybe I should give a fake first name (and real last if/when it comes up again) and if she found out just say I don't like that name, so all my friends call me X....
That could be the way to go. By then I'm exposed of course, tho...

Come up with fake first and last. Have you had girls ask to see you drivers license? I did once....man she had big big titties.

How do you get friends on a fake FB page? We should have a thread where we announce a fake FB page and we can have all our fake profiles friend each other LOL. Create a few fake girl profiles, too. Maybe not a horrible idea....

I have to admit - this sucked - she was exactly what I was looking for. A true hottie, smokin' young body, dirty... Damn. Oh well I found her I'll find another - will probably take a while.... And learn from my mistakes. Hopefully ;-)

Any more constructive criticism or tips regarding 40 yr old married guys gaming young girls appreciated - lol. Gotta get 'em while I still can.

thanks guys-

Post: #6

(10-23-2014 04:46 PM)bradz Wrote:  Thanks for the responses so far - appreciated. And sorry for all the typos - thought I caught them all.

I think unless it's the rare occasion (traveling) when I can get a same day lay - yeah be upfront about the marriage and some will be ok, others not. I can live with that. Good call Roardog.
My name - while not a crazy unique name it is not common at all. A quick google search and I come up within top 5 results. With a link to my company website - which says I'm married and year I graduated from college. My thinking has been I like to use my real first name because what if a waitress or somebody says "thanks, (insert my name here)" or something it would get real awkward real fast?? I'm thinking I should come up with a new last name. Problem is I'd say my last name is more common than first. Again for a SDL I could use a fake first name - but if I want repeat bangs then that potentially gets complicated.

I'm sure I'm over analyzing - or maybe I should give a fake first name (and real last if/when it comes up again) and if she found out just say I don't like that name, so all my friends call me X....
That could be the way to go. By then I'm exposed of course, tho...

Come up with fake first and last. Have you had girls ask to see you drivers license? I did once....man she had big big titties.

How do you get friends on a fake FB page? We should have a thread where we announce a fake FB page and we can have all our fake profiles friend each other LOL. Create a few fake girl profiles, too. Maybe not a horrible idea....

I have to admit - this sucked - she was exactly what I was looking for. A true hottie, smokin' young body, dirty... Damn. Oh well I found her I'll find another - will probably take a while.... And learn from my mistakes. Hopefully ;-)

Any more constructive criticism or tips regarding 40 yr old married guys gaming young girls appreciated - lol. Gotta get 'em while I still can.

thanks guys-

First of all yes, you are over analyzing this. Stop. Take a deep breath.

Preferably keep using your real first name. Unless you're a good actor or used to responding to a different name (I have an identical twin so I answer to his name as well as mine as I'm used to that) then it's going to come across as fake and you'll get caught out.

Another option is to use your middle name as a fake first name. Plenty of people use their middle name as their preferred name so you have a legit excuse if she happens to see your credit card/drivers liscence/other ID.
Also, this way if she googles you (middle name + last name) you won't show up.

If googling your name brings you up within the top 5 results then you've got a unique name. However, remember that google is personalised so it could just be that you're logged into your google account and it knows you're googling yourself. Try searching for yourself from a computer that you aren't logged into and see what happens.
I cannot believe that your first name is so unique that you can't find a fake last name that won't show you up in the first 2 pages of google.

Lastly, don't even worry about Facebook. Why would you want to add a girl on Facebook? Especially if you're married? I've had one girl try and do that and I just ignored her request and she hasn't brought it up since.

Post: #7

Keep in my with my earlier comment, that I was referring to my personal experience and how I've handled SOME of the social media crazed hotties I've encountered. When I say "fake friends" it should be prefaced by the fact that A) I originally set up the fake page as a back story for some out of town chicks I bagged some time back. Of course FB recommends friends of friends etc, they add me based on that simple commonality B) I rarely use it and 99.9% of my posts are links to interesting articles etc all linked back to a rarely used email. C) As I mentioned when I am gone, it gives me a way to keep in touch without my phone blowing up.

Some guys are using FB for swooping new freaks but that's another thread entirely.

Ideally - you want to shame her with a response like 'You mean you STILL use FB'...?

Redirect, tell her don't have one whatever you need to do to not go down that road. It's true - especially since you were open about your age and intent, if you told her straight that you graduated from that type shit she should go along. Older guys have bigger priorities.

That's another way to spin it

You are overthinking this, but I understand being that you were in the red zone going in for the score before the wheels suddenly fell off.