Post: #1

Ive been wondering this for a while. I can think of reasons why girls who attend those events could either be dtf or not.

Post: #2

I attended one before, and based on anectodotal evidence from one in NYC:
1 old woman (like 60-70 years old)
best looking girl was 6/10
3-4 girls who just came around for like 30 minutes and left
A lot of indian dudes, and dudes in general.

Male:female ratio is like 70:30

Post: #3

I always think getting into a scene is a better use of time if you are trying to use new social circles.

Yoga, art, music, beach volleyball, wine and tennis all attract good looking chicks. Outdoor groups that do hikes, backpacking, climbing, rafting etc... also tend to have their share.

Unless you are really interested in what the meet up group does for the activities, I would think just going out for a couple hours and approach 10-20 girls would be a better use of time.

Post: #4

Forget that. I went to one last year, it was 80M / 20F ratio. Mostly fat chicks, single moms, and just plain ugly.

Post: #5

I went to one once. Not that many males, but the women were around wall hitting age and horrible. Only one bangable young Asian chick but she was weird as hell.

Post: #6

(10-28-2014 11:39 PM)enderilluminatus Wrote:  Ive been wondering this for a while. I can think of reasons why girls who attend those events could either be dtf or not.

Not if your sole intent is to run game.

The way you approach those kind of things, is by commandeering the group. And then you let power be your aphrodisiac.

A thing that is much easier said than done.

WIA

Post: #7

(10-29-2014 01:44 AM)WestIndianArchie Wrote:  

(10-28-2014 11:39 PM)enderilluminatus Wrote:  Ive been wondering this for a while. I can think of reasons why girls who attend those events could either be dtf or not.

Not if your sole intent is to run game.

The way you approach those kind of things, is by commandeering the group. And then you let power be your aphrodisiac.

A thing that is much easier said than done.

WIA

the group I remember was full of weirdos, I remember one chubby glasses wearing C++ programmer who was just sitting there the whole time texting on his phone, and while i was talking to 3 taiwanese girls (all 5/10), a dude busted into our group, started talking about his town as the porn capital of the USA, and then blew himself out in like 2 minutes and left shortly afterwards. One fresh out of bootcamp PUA dude who was a PF Changs manager was the only dude who had some remote sense of game.

And a white girl with a super shrilly voice with a name tag that said "please be my friend", weird personality.

I'd be interested in seeing what you could say or do that could unite all of these people, let alone commandeer them.

Post: #8

I'm not surprised by the responses. There are a few activities that seem interesting, I think I'll attend those and cross my fingers for a stray 6+

Post: #9

(10-29-2014 02:26 AM)enderilluminatus Wrote:  I'm not surprised by the responses. There are a few activities that seem interesting, I think I'll attend those and cross my fingers for a stray 6+

The language exchanges usually have a lot of hot foreign girls, plus you get to learn something. I highly recommend those, since even if there's nobody to game, you're still learning something.

Post: #10

It looks like its mostly for older people who want to have second chance or third chance (divorced before)
It would work better if you live in a big city since they have more specific groups. I saw youg asian professional group in la. I can never see such niche group in a small town.

Post: #11

I've heard that young professional meetups are good in big cities. I've joined a few in my city on meetup.com but haven't had time to get out to an event yet. Can anyone who has experience with these YP meetups provide some data on how to work these scenes? Can you go to them alone or do you need a friend/wingman?

Post: #12

Echoing the previous post somewhat, what have your experiences been with these 'young professionals' meetups but with no explicit mention of 'singles' or a dating agenda. For the most part, it's just meeting up and drinking. Have you guys tried approaching within these events or used it as a springboard to approach others outside the group? What's the best way to go about it?

Then, there are the other types of day events like going for festivals, museum exhibitions, nature walks etc. These have more girls in them. How do you go about it if you are interested in one of them for instance?
You mess up a date and it might get awkward to go for some of the other meetups.

Post: #13

(11-26-2018 07:18 PM)Hazaer Wrote:  Echoing the previous post somewhat, what have your experiences been with these 'young professionals' meetups but with no explicit mention of 'singles' or a dating agenda. For the most part, it's just meeting up and drinking. Have you guys tried approaching within these events or used it as a springboard to approach others outside the group? What's the best way to go about it?

Then, there are the other types of day events like going for festivals, museum exhibitions, nature walks etc. These have more girls in them. How do you go about it if you are interested in one of them for instance?
You mess up a date and it might get awkward to go for some of the other meetups.

I've been to a young professional meetup. The people there totally sucked and were boring, and I eventually ditched. Which was sad because I was hoping for a more "wall street playboys" vibe. But the people there were relatively dead/soulless. I do believe the main thing is that it's NZ though. No one in their right mind with a choice would stay here(or worse move here), therefore anyone successful who stays here is out of their mind.

re: Festivals/Museum exhibitions/Nature walks

Forgive me if I'm mistaken but aren't they one-offs?

But yeah be a lot more low key there if you'll see regulars and it's more of a cliquey social circle vibe.

Post: #14

A meetup with non-athletic activities will attract non-attractive women and men.

Unless you're going to an ethnic event or festival.

Post: #15

I haven't had much luck meeting women via Meetups, but I have had fun at a number of them and made some good contacts. The "singles" meetups usually leave a lot to be desired, but the general social ones can be fun. I also go to a number of tech meetups and while I haven't gotten any dates out of them, pretty much all the female recruiters now remember me, and not in a negative way.

So, go to the meetups you're interested in.

Post: #16

I like most men, became over reliant on dating apps and decided to use the halfway house of Meetup as a quasi-online tool.

Avoid explicitly billed singles’ events.

Be very selective on which social event to attend.

Major on events based on some form of activity, which brings about self improvement in a group environment.

The run up to Christmas is the best time to socialise. It’s not just Game which has declined amongst men because of dating app self esteem killers, it is also social skills.

I sometimes think there should be a dating app withdrawal accountability thread here to join the anti-porn/ fap and alcohol ones.

Post: #17

I have been to a young professionals social which was slightly more fun and yes, the guys there completely lacked game and bored the girls out with their droning. Of course there were a few, probably the ones with some clue about things, who brought a girl they were dating.The night started ok with the organizer leading the group to different bars but eventually, most of the girls wanted to dance/step up the energy but the guys continued hitting up more bars that were about to close and lacked a good ambiance.
It seems to me that for these meetup socials, the chances are you might be the only guy there with game and you got to break away from the group after the convo/pre-drinking stage with a smaller group if the direction of the night is not going well. The other challenge is approaching other targets apart from the meetup group people at a particular venue. Hitting on the girls in the group obviously is not advisable but you can use them as social proof at the right venues. Easier said than done if some of the meetup guys start getting really drunk and do sloppy approaches.

With the day meetups, an activity or place that is fun is always good, you can build some friends that way. Maybe some daygame on the side (if you managed to isolate yourself for a bit from the meetup group)?

The real potential for meetups in terms of dating might be in branching out when you are out and about with your group. But I haven't tried it out much. Maybe you guys can share.

Obviously, this applies to medium to large sized cities.

Post: #18

I game at meetups on a regular basis. I go at least once a month (usually more).
My philosophy is that the meetup has to be interesting for me, and game is a side benefit.
That way, if there are no candidates, I still enjoy the event.
I found out that is sucks to go to meetups only to meet girls.

As per "Singles nights"/"organized dating events"
I have an innate repulsion for "paid" events. I don't like paying to meet girls. But that's me. I know other members have done so, some of them successfully.

Post: #19

(11-28-2018 01:20 PM)TheMaleBrain Wrote:  I game at meetups on a regular basis. I go at least once a month (usually more).
My philosophy is that the meetup has to be interesting for me, and game is a side benefit.
That way, if there are no candidates, I still enjoy the event.
I found out that is sucks to go to meetups only to meet girls.

As per "Singles nights"/"organized dating events"
I have an innate repulsion for "paid" events. I don't like paying to meet girls. But that's me. I know other members have done so, some of them successfully.

What kind of events with specific activities do you go on the regular? If it's yoga or dance kinda meetups, the ratio is good but then you approach somebody go on a date, and word spreads fast even though its pretty loose social circles. It would be pretty much the same people every time, you can't have multiple dates with different girls before somebody starts talking.

Post: #20

(11-29-2018 10:44 AM)Hazaer Wrote:  

(11-28-2018 01:20 PM)TheMaleBrain Wrote:  I game at meetups on a regular basis. I go at least once a month (usually more).
My philosophy is that the meetup has to be interesting for me, and game is a side benefit.
That way, if there are no candidates, I still enjoy the event.
I found out that is sucks to go to meetups only to meet girls.

As per "Singles nights"/"organized dating events"
I have an innate repulsion for "paid" events. I don't like paying to meet girls. But that's me. I know other members have done so, some of them successfully.

What kind of events with specific activities do you go on the regular? If it's yoga or dance kinda meetups, the ratio is good but then you approach somebody go on a date, and word spreads fast even though its pretty loose social circles. It would be pretty much the same people every time, you can't have multiple dates with different girls before somebody starts talking.

I go to events which I find interesting. Most are tech, but some are not.
Ratio varies - sometime way better, and sometime not that good. If the ratio is good (example - I use to go to HR meetup that has a lecture every other month. Great ratio, so I would be back).
I follow a few websites such as meetup.com and eventbrite.com as 2 examples. This way one can have a pipeline of lined up events.

Social events via loose social circle is not what I'm talking about. Those are different "category" of meetups for me. I game there, but tell the girl that we should not discuss it, as "we still don't know what will happen". This always works for me.
As per multiple dates:
It sometimes happens that I get several numbers out of one event. In that case I text game and make sure to "divide and conquer" - meaning I make sure that those girls are less related. If they are "friends" I use the "let's not tell untill we know" tactic.
Also, most of the time, even if I get the bang, I don't want to keep them in my harem. In that case, I keep them in orbit and ask them to match me up. This actually got me on dates sometimes.

Post: #21

Ab-so-lutely...

I was at a venue by chance where there was a speed dating event going on...

If you're not part of the event, but a cool guy who happens to be there, it's a gold mine and you're onto a winner.

A room full of women single and looking, and a bunch of dopes who paid for a ticket.