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Hello Gents

I was unable to find a thread on this topic and thought it would be interesting to discuss. A little about myself, My early experiences with girls were much like your average blue pill teenager I got laid sporadically and never with the kind of quality i was really happy with. At 20 i started reading up and internalising game and the quality and quantity of girls I was able to attract improved. I got married for a green card to a 8/10 girl that I do sincerely love and I want to be the mother of my children I have no intention of ending the relationship. However at 26 I feel like I am finally just starting to hit my stride and I feel although their is a lot of catching up to do, for me to feel happy with the standard of my notch count.

So that said I have been banging this really hot girl I met through work. she knows I am married and parrots the usual feminist bullshit of oh i only want sex. Anyway I just am looking to discuss maintaining a mistress/girlfriend. I would like to keep banging her and filling up my rolodex of memories.

I feel like this is the next natural level of advancement to my game I just do not want it blowing up in my face.

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Post: #3

Ok I have spent a lot of time on this forum. Mostly the everything else section. But if I have broken a rule then please delete the thread. However this is a topic I am sincerely interested in.

Post: #4

You just need to get a divorce since there is no child involved in the marriage yet

Post: #5

(09-08-2015 08:11 PM)djk100 Wrote:  You just need to get a divorce since there is no child involved in the marriage yet

My feeling about this is that I want to have my cake and eat it too. I really enjoy being married and love my wife. But sincerely feel like getting action on the side makes me not only happier. But a better husband to my wife. I am more passionate in our lovemaking. I do not get as irritated by her annoying behaviour and weird as it sounds I feel grateful to her for not nosing into my business and allowing me the space to do what I need to.

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(09-08-2015 07:57 PM)Loki Bachus Wrote:  Ok I have spent a lot of time on this forum. Mostly the everything else section. But if I have broken a rule then please delete the thread. However this is a topic I am sincerely interested in.

There's your problem.

Post: #7

(09-08-2015 08:36 PM)redbeard Wrote:  

(09-08-2015 07:57 PM)Loki Bachus Wrote:  Ok I have spent a lot of time on this forum. Mostly the everything else section. But if I have broken a rule then please delete the thread. However this is a topic I am sincerely interested in.

There's your problem.

Yes but I have read Chateau Heartiste everyday for years and I have been actively learning game for a long time. Perhaps I should have posted more in other peoples threads before starting my own, and I understand that things are a little rocky on the forum at the moment. But I feel like anywhere game is discussed this is a reasonable thread. But like I said if a mod see's this as not kosher then rules are rules and bin it.

Post: #8

How does a 26 year old know what a Rolodex is? Are they still around?

Post: #9

(09-08-2015 07:57 PM)Loki Bachus Wrote:  Ok I have spent a lot of time on this forum. Mostly the everything else section.

Go to a forum about banging women to...... read the everything else section only?

Strike one.

(09-08-2015 07:44 PM)Loki Bachus Wrote:  So that said I have been banging this really hot girl I met through work. she knows I am married and parrots the usual feminist bullshit of oh i only want sex.

So you're banging a feminist you work with and you trust her with the knowledge of you being married?

Strike two.

(09-08-2015 08:44 PM)Loki Bachus Wrote:  Yes but I have read Chateau Heartiste everyday for years and I have been actively learning game for a long time.

If you've been learning game for a long time, you should know the general gist of spinning plates. There is a TON of information about that on here already. The search functions works.

Strike three.



Edit: More relevant gif.

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(09-08-2015 07:44 PM)Loki Bachus Wrote:  So that said I have been banging this really hot girl I met through work. she knows I am married and parrots the usual feminist bullshit of oh i only want sex. Anyway I just am looking to discuss maintaining a mistress/girlfriend. I would like to keep banging her and filling up my rolodex of memories.

I feel like this is the next natural level of advancement to my game I just do not want it blowing up in my face.

How could we miss this gem? A married man banging a feminist he met through work. Even if you don't work with her, she knows where you are and what you do. Huge mistake.

If you have been banging HB8's for a while now you would know how to manage dating a few women at a time. You should also know to keep your mistresses away from your wife.

Doesn't Heartiste talk about this kind of plate spinning? I don't know I haven't studied the blog.

OP - pick a path. Father or player. You're 26 and married. Maybe fuck a few floozies on the side but nothing serious.

Post: #11

I have learned from the years that is generally hard to have your cake and eat it to. It is the young ego that thinks it can outsmart the world. Maybe for a little while.

But often it is like the little kid peeing in the pool thinking it is funny because he is peeing on other people. But doesn't realize he is also peeing on himself.

This was a general comment not trying to say the OP is a kid.

Post: #12

Yeah, i'm in agreement. Divorce your wife as there are no kids involved. The problem is is that you got married in there first place and still wanted to be a player. If girls in the future know you're a divorcee, you're gonna struggle to explain your way out of it.

Have you floated ideas to your wife about swinging or inviting other girls in?

Post: #13

Sounds like you'd get good advice from the show Madmen. That's basically what he does. I think his wife eventually leaves him though, but I only saw the first few seasons.

Also a bit hair-trigger on the ban demands aren't we? It doesn't sound particularly far fetched, and his account has been active since last year.

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(09-08-2015 07:44 PM)Loki Bachus Wrote:  Hello Gents

I was unable to find a thread on this topic and thought it would be interesting to discuss. A little about myself, My early experiences with girls were much like your average blue pill teenager I got laid sporadically and never with the kind of quality i was really happy with. At 20 i started reading up and internalising game and the quality and quantity of girls I was able to attract improved. I got married for a green card to a 8/10 girl that I do sincerely love and I want to be the mother of my children I have no intention of ending the relationship. However at 26 I feel like I am finally just starting to hit my stride and I feel although their is a lot of catching up to do, for me to feel happy with the standard of my notch count.

So that said I have been banging this really hot girl I met through work. she knows I am married and parrots the usual feminist bullshit of oh i only want sex. Anyway I just am looking to discuss maintaining a mistress/girlfriend. I would like to keep banging her and filling up my rolodex of memories.

I feel like this is the next natural level of advancement to my game I just do not want it blowing up in my face.

There is no "next level". You're married. Start taking the vows you made in front of God seriously or divorce her like 50% of every other couple. You shouldn't have married her if you wanted to be a player even if it was for a green card.

Not to mention, the whole point of spinning plates is to keep them apart. You're shitting where you're eating. What a great way to ruin your professional reputation at work and run afoul with HR.

I suggest you start back at zero with your "game internalization" (seriously who the hell says that).

Why don't you take a "business" trip to SEA or South America, get a pro, have fun, and then fly home? You certainly wouldn't be the first married man to do that.

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Ok ok is my behaviour immoral? yes defiantly.

However many men throughout history and into modern times have overcome the guilt and decided that a girlfriend or mistress while married was just too much to resist. For goodness sake, the prime minister of France was buried with his wife and mistress grieving side by side. I am sure there are countless other cases where a girlfriend knows you are married and in fact may even know your wife yet keeps tight lipped about the whole thing. We only hear about affairs when they go bad.

Anyway I will keep everyone posted on how this goes and if it does all blow up in my face then the members of the forum can learn from my mistakes.

Post: #17

You're already playing with dynamite since you're currently banging this girl who you work with. You've got the grenade in your hand with the pin pulled. The thing is, how to eventually get rid of the grenade without blowing yourself and your marriage up.

If you were going to mess around on the side, you should have done it with another woman with whom you didn't work with. Obviously, it's too late for that. You should try to slowly , over time, to get rid of this woman you work with. Maybe you start acting really beta and needy or whatever to get her to dump you. That way, she's less likely to hold anything over your head and potentially threaten your marriage.

You're 26 so you've got plenty of time to find action on the side if you want.

A single man can think a lot more with his small head when he engages in affairs and be much more directed by his dick than a married man can. He can, essentially, be more reckless.

As a married man, you need to think more with your big head as you've got a lot more at stake than a single guy. A married man has to be more shrewd if he's going to have affairs.

I disagree with the guys saying divorce your wife. If you love her, keep her and make the marriage work/have a good family.

If you're going to have affairs, make them more discreet than a woman you work with and see every day.

Post: #18

(09-09-2015 06:26 PM)robreke Wrote:  You're already playing with dynamite since you're currently banging this girl who you work with. You've got the grenade in your hand with the pin pulled. The thing is, how to eventually get rid of the grenade without blowing yourself and your marriage up.

If you were going to mess around on the side, you should have done it with another woman with whom you didn't work with. Obviously, it's too late for that. You should try to slowly , over time, to get rid of this woman you work with. Maybe you start acting really beta and needy or whatever to get her to dump you. That way, she's less likely to hold anything over your head and potentially threaten your marriage.

You're 26 so you've got plenty of time to find action on the side if you want.

A single man can think a lot more with his small head when he engages in affairs and be much more directed by his dick than a married man can. He can, essentially, be more reckless.

As a married man, you need to think more with your big head as you've got a lot more at stake than a single guy. A married man has to be more shrewd if he's going to have affairs.

I disagree with the guys saying divorce your wife. If you love her, keep her and make the marriage work/have a good family.

If you're going to have affairs, make them more discreet than a woman you work with and see every day.

Thank you for the detailed and well reasoned response the hand granade analogy is perfect, however for me that is part of the excitement I think I my be kind of fucked up like that. A couple of details I would like too add that will make my situation clearer.

1. While we work for the same company we are at different locations so I only see her for work related things once in a blue moon.

2. I have explained to her that I love my wife and this is just a sex thing, however I do hang out at her apartment for many hours at a time usually 4-5 when I do see her, which is about once a week. So we certainly chat a lot and have a good time. I think it is just a matter of time before she catches feeling so I am maintaining a dialogue with her and explaining that she cannot fall in love with me and to let me know if she thinks she is.

3. As far as letting her go by turning beta it is interesting that you bring that up because I used that same tactic on another girl hb5 that I work with at the same company I never had sex because was too creeped out by her behaviour. so she just sucked my dick a couple of times. She was giving me seriously crazy vibes begging me to stay the night and whatnot so I got really freaked out and started pretending to cry saying how terrible I felt and started asking permission to use her bathroom etc… worked like a charm and 5 months later no fallout from that. Although this girl is so much hotter it is going to be more difficult to let her go.

4. Finally human resources are non existent at the company I work and I do not intend to stay their much longer. So as far as problems arising from the higher ups I do not see a problem.

5. finally I live in a massive metropolitan city and schedule my own hours so these two factors also keep me safer.

6. Seeing her tomorrow

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This is why a man should satisy the lusts of the flesh before even considering getting married and contemplating family life. Perhaps some political "alphas" can pull it off throughout history , but for your average joe it doesn't work that way.

A boy and a girl can take an oath, it takes a man and a woman to keep it. If you do this still when children come into the picture, absolutely shameful. This is something you need to get under control if having a family is in the horizon. If you continue it will only be harder to be stop. And it will blow up, leading to the destruction of your family. In a world where marriage and family is mocked and not taken seriously, we need to be better than that should we choose this path.

Even if you use protection, there are health risks of course with extramarital affairs. If, God forbid, you gave something to your wife, that wouldn't exactly be honoring her like you swore to do.

have willpower my friend. Good luck.

Post: #20

#2:
If you believe that she hasn't caught feelings for you during your 4-5 hour hangouts at her place you are living in a fools paradise and will sooner rather than later find out the truth.

All the while you are telling her how to feel she is two steps ahead of you and envisions you leaving your wife for her. In her mind she knows that if this was only about sex you would be doing a better job covering your tracks. Your actions speak volumes.

You are the one who is playing in her game.

Post: #21

(09-11-2015 02:00 PM)Dino Wrote:  #2:
If you believe that she hasn't caught feelings for you during your 4-5 hour hangouts at her place you are living in a fools paradise and will sooner rather than later find out the truth.

All the while you are telling her how to feel she is two steps ahead of you and envisions you leaving your wife for her. In her mind she knows that if this was only about sex you would be doing a better job covering your tracks. Your actions speak volumes.

You are the one who is playing in her game.

You are 100% correct I know she already likes me. I am fooling myself and I need to grow up and end this. What makes you think I am not covering my tracks correctly though?

Post: #22

The fact you picked a woman you work with and see every day is not covering your tracks. Use burner phones, game girls in the next town over, use hotels and a fake name. That would be covering your tracks. Also, try reading the game forum instead of everything else.

Post: #23

I like this thread, cause It's hard to find a situation on this forum where a man loves and cares about his woman and doesn't want to leave her. There is nothing wrong with having casual sex sometimes, you can still love your wife. Here are several rules that you should keep:
1. Pick wisely the next bitch if you care about your wife. Bitches can be dangerous.
2. Use protection.
3. Make her to break up with you and not the opposite. Tell her that you are broke, gay, obsessive and weak.
4. Keep this shit to yourself. If you lie to your wife, be man enough to keep the secret to yourself. Never tell your friends.
5. Respect your wife and treat her better than you treat the casual bitch.
6. End the casual thing soon enough. Don't let the bitches ruin your relationship.

Good luck amigo.

Post: #24

Here's a good question. Tell us what you are getting from her but not your wife...other than different pussy of course. Are her tits bigger? Cuter face? A better cock sucker?

Post: #25

Curious if you got the green card yet or if you are at risk of deportation or ICE issues if you are unable to put that pin back into the grenade.