Post: #1

I looked for a thread related to this, but didn't quite find what I was looking for. If this is a dupe, just redirect me


Anyway, I've been having this issue where I'll meet a woman that is really attracted to me or what I have to say. She'll be responsive to all my messages, and seems over joyed by my attention, returning with equal or greater attention and responsiveness.

Then all of the sudden, things fizzle out. It's kind of like flaking I suppose, but i feel it's something different. These girls don't quite fail to show up for "dates" or change plans on me, they just kind of gradually become less and less responsive.

Even when I've tried to maintain regular communication, things fizzle out.

All I can think of to do is to return the favor, putting them back burner as they are doing to me. They're not responsive to me, so why should I give them more of my attention? Game 101, right.

I'm thinking, if I contact them months down the road, maybe they'll be more responsive, maybe not.

Post: #2

Before they become unresponsive have you Banged them already?

Post: #3

They've got too many options, man... combine that with the attention span of a squirrel, this is a fairly common occurrence. Charge it to the game and DGAF.

Post: #4

(09-09-2015 08:23 PM)CleanSlate Wrote:  They've got too many options, man... combine that with the attention span of a squirrel, this is a fairly common occurrence. Charge it to the game and DGAF.

DGAF?

Post: #5

Don't Give A Fuck

Post: #6

(09-09-2015 08:55 PM)HenryM Wrote:  Don't Give A Fuck

Yeah.

That's what I'm doing / how I'm feeling, but at the same time, doing nothing gets me no where.

Post: #7

(09-09-2015 08:23 PM)CleanSlate Wrote:  They've got too many options, man... combine that with the attention span of a squirrel, this is a fairly common occurrence. Charge it to the game and DGAF.

Ding dong.

What's funny is you can't really fake aloofness.

I find the more actually aloof I am, the easier it is.

Post: #8

(09-09-2015 09:20 PM)HankMoody Wrote:  

(09-09-2015 08:23 PM)CleanSlate Wrote:  They've got too many options, man... combine that with the attention span of a squirrel, this is a fairly common occurrence. Charge it to the game and DGAF.

Ding dong.

What's funny is you can't really fake aloofness.

I find the more actually aloof I am, the easier it is.

Heartiste style.

Post: #9

I think there is a fine line with aloofness however. Too much, and you risk losing the chick since you're not giving her the chance to become attached to you (and give her incentive to keep coming back for more).

Depending on your relationship intentions, aloofness will ping player vibes (or at least, disinterest) to the chick and you'll find it hard to get beyond the 2-3 month mark (if she's wanting more than a fuck buddy scenario).

Post: #10

^ Chicks will fire a warning shot though.

Usually 5-10 days of no contact... "hey wanna do something Saturday?" It is funny because I usually hold the frame of making all the contacts and plans to that point.

You usually have a way to back up and retune if she is in the game still and you haven't lost hand.

Post: #11

(09-09-2015 07:50 PM)deathtofatties Wrote:  Anyway, I've been having this issue where I'll meet a woman that is really attracted to me or what I have to say. She'll be responsive to all my messages, and seems over joyed by my attention, returning with equal or greater attention and responsiveness.

Then all of the sudden, things fizzle out. It's kind of like flaking I suppose, but i feel it's something different. These girls don't quite fail to show up for "dates" or change plans on me, they just kind of gradually become less and less responsive.

They're just not that into you. They have probably moved on to a more entertaining clown.

As others have said, there is not much you can do once things reach this point. And if this happens, it's usually because the chick just doesn't like you all that much (I know she gave all the signs that she liked you before; these were either false or she changed her mind--don't try to make sense of it). The way to prolong the relationship is to mix things up--keep her on her toes by being unpredictable, giving her dread game and drama, keeping her guessing. Basically the poon commandments. But for this to work she has to have a genuine liking for certain aspects of your personality or your game.

Yes, you can wait 4-6 months (no contact) and text them to try to restart things. It probably won't work but the investment is so low you might as well.

Post: #12

Always take it or leave it.

Post: #13

Think more in terms of are you going to flake when she doesn't respond to your next response.

Post: #14

I'm experiencing something similar. I'm taking time off from women to recharge. Shit test, and random goofy shit is getting to me when I could typically deflect it. I'm the problem, not them.

Post: #15

This happened to me recently with a 20 year old. But then i found out that she has 5000 facebook friends and over 1000 instagram followers. No wonder she flaked out and went radio silent on the day were supposed to meet.

The more mature girls are better 22-23. The 23 year old who relocated for a job type, and typically doesn't spread themselves thin on social media.

Post: #16

Girls lose interest and change their minds easily and often. They have a lot more options than you do. Imagine how aloof, uninvested, and jaded you would be if you had new pussy hitting you up 24/7. You may be into a particular chick one day then a hotter sweeter piece hits you up the next day. This is why girls are far more choosy than men: they can afford to be.

Essentially you should be angling for a date as soon as possible. You really aren't going to build much attraction over text - comfort sure, but not attraction. You can hurt yourself on text if you are too chatty. Makes you seem eager and too available, ie not challenging enough. If a girl is giving you a hard time about making plans in the near future then let her go. If you've built sufficient comfort and she isn't making it easy to make plans then she is wasting your time and most likely just chatting with you because she likes the attention, as girls are apt to do.

Freezing girls out only really works on girls who have already invested in you, as in you already met and perhaps banged them. They need to be sufficiently attracted in order for ghosting to be effective.