Post: #1

A group called 30s/40's Social has to have restrictions on the number of self-styled MILFs that can join their functions:

Quote:This is a social meetup for the fun & young at heart 30/40 folks in Northern Virginia. If you are an upbeat person that enjoys new activities and making new friends then we are the group for you! The majority of events will take place in, but not limited to Fairfax, Falls Church, Arlington, Alexandria, Sterling, Reston and Washington DC.

Events will consist of happy hours, dancing events, dining out, live music, karaoke, comedy shows, sporting events, beer/wine festivals, local day trips, occasional weekend travel out of the area, hikes, walks and whatever else we can think of. Let's get together, create fun memories and enjoy our lives!

Respectfully, please be within the 30-49 age range, fill out the questionnaire and provide a clear and recent photo of yourself so we can recognize you at events. Please, no sunglasses in your profile picture. We keep the group balanced with an even ratio of men and women. At this time, there is wait time for women to join. If you recommend a male friend to join, you will skip the wait time in pending.

This is an activity based, social meetup group with the goal of creating new friendships. Drama, bullying, harassment or creepy behavior will not be tolerated. Any member exhibiting inappropriate behavior or creates problems within the social dynamics of the group will be removed.

We look forward to seeing you at an event and celebrating good times!!

Post: #2

This is extra interesting in light of this thread that was just posted: /thread-55195.html

... how women in their 40s no longer hit the same kind of wall re: SMV thanks to dating apps and social media, etc.

Maybe the men aren't interested in attending actual in person meetups with older women but are still willing to stay home and work and Tinder bang if nothing better to do?

Post: #3

Basic numbers -- Single men heavily outnumber single women until age 35 in almost every metro area. That changes at age 35.

http://jonathansoma.com/singles/

Twenty-something women in the DC metro (That group linked is actually specific to Northern Virginia) complain that there are SOOOOO many more single woman than men -- which is true, if you include 64-year-old widows in your reporting. But in the prime marrying age, she actually has many more available single men to choose from.

http://www.citylab.com/housing/2015/02/w...en/385369/


The problem is that women only see 20 percent of all men as attractive, so they FEEL like there are no men -- because the vast majority of men are invisible to them.

No one in society (it used to be fathers and grandmothers) is telling them that they need to consider looking beyond initial perceptions and marry smart and young while they still have options.

Thus, we have large cities filled with single alpha widows.

Post: #4

(04-16-2016 02:52 PM)R_Niko Wrote:  This is extra interesting in light of this thread that was just posted: /thread-55195.html

... how women in their 40s no longer hit the same kind of wall re: SMV thanks to dating apps and social media, etc.

Maybe the men aren't interested in attending actual in person meetups with older women but are still willing to stay home and work and Tinder bang if nothing better to do?

This is very interesting...you would think that with the amount of online "thirst" out there, that real life with be on par, but it's not.

Post: #5

There's a ton of these meet-up groups that cross sell dating events. In cases where they're trying to keep equal ratios at events, they're always advertising for more men. Pre-screened, quality men.

There's a particular one in thinking of which advertises dating for singles 30-40 with advanced degrees. Any man with an advanced degree in that age range is likely clearing 150k, and would do better with girls in their twenties.

Post: #6

Quote:Events will consist of happy hours, dancing events, dining out, live music, karaoke, comedy shows, sporting events, beer/wine festivals, local day trips, occasional weekend travel out of the area, hikes, walks and whatever else we can think of. Let's get together, create fun memories and enjoy our lives!

Sounds like what women consider "fun & adventurous"... no surprise no man wants to join.

The problem is not with the activities themselves but with the structure of it. Women like do to things in organized groups because they are like sheep that need to be herded. Which is why almost never attended campus 'activities' back in college & company "fundays" right now. They also always have rules on these types of events. Fuck 'em. If i want to drink before dinner i will. 0 chance some 45 year old head bitch and her organizer up-and-coming sluts are shaming me out of that.

It usually involves a bunch of women & betas doing some cookie cutter shit and then taking pictures like this ...



Men like like to do these things by themselves. Mainly because whatever activity it is ... the focus is the activity itself, not the social aspect of it.

Besides, these bitches don't seem to understand that without the prospect of immediate pussy, we don't really like hanging out with them.

Post: #7

(04-16-2016 03:26 PM)polar Wrote:  There's a ton of these meet-up groups that cross sell dating events. In cases where they're trying to keep equal ratios at events, they're always advertising for more men. Pre-screened, quality men.

There's a particular one in thinking of which advertises dating for singles 30-40 with advanced degrees. Any man with an advanced degree in that age range is likely clearing 150k, and would do better with girls in their twenties.

These types of groups have "speed dating" events all the time.

Usually with a headline like this:

"30s-40s Speed Dating *** NEED MORE WOMEN! SIGN-UPS FOR MEN ON HOLD TEMPORARILY ***"

Post: #8

The two on the right?

Just asking...

Post: #9

(04-16-2016 06:01 PM)sylo Wrote:  The two on the right?

Just asking...

I'm having trouble believing the two on the right actually live in this area. Possible, but not at all likely.

Post: #10

I think because online there's little to no time/energy/dignity approach. I've definitely hit up girls on Tinder I wouldn't bother with in person.

Post: #11

I would avoid meet ups like this even though I am 40. I went to something like this in Atlanta 3 years ago, a "grown and sexy" party- it was awful, older chicks are not worth the time and effort, they care to much what other women think, they don't get drunk or really party, and they were all older than they claimed.

If you are going to go to social functions to meet women outside of the nightclub scene, aim for social functions that have college girls in their junior/senior year and recent college grads in my personal opinion. Education related conferences, Legal societies, Music festivals ect. Ect.

Post: #12

Anyone remember those "discos" kids used to go to, where parents literally lined the walls and the chances of having any real fun were close to zero?

This event sounds similar, like some sort of voluntary concentration camp for betadom.

Post: #13

(04-16-2016 08:49 PM)Leonard D Neubache Wrote:  Anyone remember those "discos" kids used to go to, where parents literally lined the walls and the chances of having any real fun were close to zero?

Were you subjected to Blue Light Discos too, or was that just a local thing where I used to live?

God save us from people who mean well. -storm

Post: #14

(04-16-2016 05:22 PM)Anabasis to Desta Wrote:  The problem is not with the activities themselves but with the structure of it. Women like do to things in organized groups because they are like sheep that need to be herded. Which is why almost never attended campus 'activities' back in college & company "fundays" right now. They also always have rules on these types of events. Fuck 'em. If i want to drink before dinner i will. 0 chance some 45 year old head bitch and her organizer up-and-coming sluts are shaming me out of that.

The guys I knew, including myself, took special pleasure in violating the spirit of such events by pre-gaming the shit out of them. Fun times.

Post: #15

I'm glad that most 30-49 year old guys in the DC area generally aren't interested in joining a group that consists of 30-49 year old women.

For now, anyway.

But as we all know:

Post: #16

(04-16-2016 03:08 PM)trian1 Wrote:  The problem is that women only see 20 percent of all men as attractive, so they FEEL like there are no men -- because the vast majority of men are invisible to them.

No one in society (it used to be fathers and grandmothers) is telling them that they need to consider looking beyond initial perceptions and marry smart and young while they still have options.

Well, Mike Rowe did (almost) tell one woman that, once.

Quote:...I had drinks last night with a woman I know. Let’s call her Claire. Claire just turned 42. [EDIT: Claire is probably 44] She’s cute, smart, and successful. She’s frustrated though, because she can’t find a man. I listened all evening about how difficult her search has been. About how all the “good ones” were taken. About how her other friends had found their soul-mates, and how it wasn’t fair that she had not.

“Look at me,” she said. “I take care of myself. I’ve put myself out there. Why is this so hard?”

“How about that guy at the end of the bar,” I said. “He keeps looking at you.”

“Not my type.”

“Really? How do you know?”

“I just know.”

“Have you tried a dating site?” I asked.”

“Are you kidding? I would never date someone I met online!”

“Alright. How about a change of scene? Your company has offices all over – maybe try living in another city?”

“What? Leave San Francisco? Never!”

“How about the other side of town? You know, mix it up a little. Visit different places. New museums, new bars, new theaters…?”

She looked at me like I had two heads. “Why the hell would I do that?”

Here’s the thing, Parker. Claire doesn’t really want a man. She wants the “right” man. She wants a soul-mate. Specifically, a soul-mate from her zip code. She assembled this guy in her mind years ago, and now, dammit, she’s tired of waiting!!

I didn’t tell her this, because Claire has the capacity for sudden violence. But it’s true. She complains about being alone, even though her rules have more or less guaranteed she’ll stay that way. She has built a wall between herself and her goal. A wall made of conditions and expectations. Is it possible that you’ve built a similar wall?

Even though he may not have told "Claire" (assuming she is not just a plot device), he did indirectly tell thousands of readers who were either like Claire or knew someone who was. So it isn't like the message isn't out there, it's just being selectively heard.

Post: #17

Oh look, I found a picture from their latest meetup: