Post: #1

Hi to all.

I just received and read Roosh's newsletter about never being too old to start using game. An email from a 31 year old was included.

I am 42, I got into game a year ago, and am still at a place in it I don't like. And I'm worried. I feel like most women think I'm too old. The women who do find me attractive are single moms or over 35, which I consider useless.

What are your thoughts on this?


Btw, Roosh, I enjoy your newsletters.

Post: #2

That's just the reality. Most people date people of a similar age and by 40, most people have had kids. Women in your age range who are back in the dating market are going to be mostly divorced and probably have a kid or two. It's not the end of the world. If you want a younger woman in her 20s, you can go for it. But I believe in any girl in her 20s willing to date someone way older than her probably has ulterior motives. Think Anna Nicole Smith.

Post: #3

(08-23-2008 12:25 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  It's not the end of the world.

It feels like it is. Think about it:
why would I want some woman who can no longer bear kids or doesn't want any more, has kids that are not mine, and has probably lost her shape?

Post: #4

I thought you said above that the women over 35 that like you are attractive?

Anyway did you have a question to be answered or are you simply ranting? Likes attract likes. Most people end up someone of similar age, someone of their same religion, someone of their same race, someone of their same economic class, political views, etc etc. You can try approaching and gaming 25 year old girls, but I can tell you, even at age 32, I find girls in their lower to mid 20s to be too immature for me at this point and can't relate to them. They are just in a different place in life. They want to club, party, are "finding themselves", trying to figure out their careers. I dealt with this stuff years ago, why do I want a woman who is still in that mode. Of course that mode is perfectly normal for someone at her age, but I'm past it. I'd say at this point, your best best is to look abroad. The women in more traditional countries that are younger are less likely to be about partying and trying to "find themselves" and the whole flaky, wishy-washy personality that comes along with that mindset. Find yourself a 22 year old Thai, Ukrainian or Columbian girl. I think that's what I would do if I was a 42 year old guy who wanted a young woman. Just do the mail order bride thing at this point. Of course consider the risk that she may divorce you the second she gets citizenship, but there's a risk to everything in life.

Post: #5

(08-23-2008 10:40 AM)franje123 Wrote:  "I am 42, I got into game a year ago, and am still at a place in it I don't like. And I'm worried. I feel like most women think I'm too old. The women who do find me attractive are single moms or over 35, which I consider useless.

What are your thoughts on this?

franje123, if you continue this belief that younger women will only find you a guy that's too old, then that's how they'll view you. You need to get that idea out of your head, and believe you're a fun, interesting, and mature guy to be around so your conscious and unconscious behavior dictates the same, and the ladies won't care what your age is.

There are younger women out there who are gold diggers or just out to settle with someone who's mature and financially set, then there's women in their late twenties who are amiable to dating older guys, and hot older women who were too busy with their career or school to settle down. What I'm saying is you have a lot to chose from without having to go the mail order bride route. Change the belief you have about yourself, then go out there and have fun.

Post: #6

If you accept you are old you have two ways of approaching it...

Feel sorry for yourself, and make no attempt to get what you want.

Curse your bad luck, how much harder it will be than a 21 y/o stud, and go out there and try anyway.

I know what I will do.

PS. Moving this to the Girls forum.

Post: #7

(08-23-2008 10:40 AM)franje123 Wrote:  Hi to all.

I just received and read Roosh's newsletter about never being too old to start using game. An email from a 31 year old was included.

I am 42, I got into game a year ago, and am still at a place in it I don't like. And I'm worried. I feel like most women think I'm too old. The women who do find me attractive are single moms or over 35, which I consider useless.

What are your thoughts on this?


Btw, Roosh, I enjoy your newsletters.

Some 42 year olds get with some younger chicks all the time - all you're trying to do is break into that demographic.

Study those players, and incorporate their methods into your own.

If one man can do it, another man surely can.

Post: #8

I know a ton of mid-late twenties girls that are just coming into their own "sexual persona" and happen to love older men... I would take this unique opportunity you have as a single 40 yr old and bang as many younger girls as you can. I guarantee that you will not be feeling "so old" when you have that tiny little college girl ass with her dirty little back tattoo putting on a show for her favorite daddy. (damn, that was kinda hot...)

Go for it.

Post: #9

(08-23-2008 12:25 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  That's just the reality.

I think we all make our own reality to a certain extent. Are there regular 40 something guys out there that get with much younger chicks all the time? Sure there are. So, why cant he be one of those?

Quote:But I believe in any girl in her 20s willing to date someone way older than her probably has ulterior motives. Think Anna Nicole Smith.

I think that is a huge, huge generalization and from what i have seen it is not the norm at all.

Post: #10

My coworker is 42 and his fiancee is 27. They seem happy, it's not impossible.

Post: #11

Most of the replies above have touched on what I'd say too... I'm 37 -- was in your situation as well. Really down & frustrated about it - but I thought I would at least try.

And I did.

I landed an attractive 25 y/o when I did try. She was exceptionally mature for her age.. fun in bed - but just not my type (she was a bit on the heavier side -- just enough so that my non-bedroom interests wouldn't jive with her abilities - so, it ended up we parted ways due to other incompatibilities for ltr potential -- wow, for a 'thicker' chick, was she ever 'tight', lol).

Since then, I've tried that age range again, but like others are talking about, finding issues with 'mental' maturity, etc. Now I'm sticking in the 29-32 ish age bracket.

Chin up though... I know a woman who I would have sworn was ~30ish - great body, face, maturity level etc. She has a child, (not a problem, imho) - turns out she is 41 now... and single and looking. I'm sure there are lots more equal to her out there.

Anyway... don't feel down about it -- just get out there and try.... you just might surprise yourself!

Post: #12

(08-24-2008 09:52 PM)Roosh Wrote:  If you accept you are old you have two ways of approaching it...

Feel sorry for yourself, and make no attempt to get what you want.

Curse your bad luck, how much harder it will be than a 21 y/o stud, and go out there and try anyway.

I know what I will do.

PS. Moving this to the Girls forum.

Spoken words of wisdom

Post: #13

(08-23-2008 10:40 AM)franje123 Wrote:  The women who do find me attractive are single moms or over 35, which I consider useless.

What are your thoughts on this?

My thoughts are that there is great, and I mean GREAT action to be had in the 35+ range. Really truly GREAT sex.

You sir need to take YOURSELF off the pedestal!

But if you really have an issue with 35+ year old women because internet nerds told you to have an issue with it, then there is nothing stopping you going for young chicks either. Are you hot (to a young chick?) Do you have anything to offer? Are you a leader of men or master in your field, a situational Alpha? Are you loaded with cash?

IF you do have yourself on a pedestal then I assume answers to the above questions are some form of yes and yes... in which case you simply have an approach or confidence problem of some sort...