Post: #1

Ok, I have definitely used the search function and found a few articles that kind of related to me, but not completely.

I am still in the process of recovering from ending a terrible 4-year LTR 8 weeks ago. Thus I'm in the process of saving my money, and will move to a better location around April. I am sure many of us have gone through a phase in life like that.

For now, however I have a date thanks to my constant approaching, but I have the worst logistics imaginable.

-I live in a city with little, to no public transport at all despite being the 4th largest city in the USA. AKA Zero bus service for the majority of the city unless you drive to something called a "park and ride", so you still have to drive. No rails, No metro, and very little bus service unless you live in the tiny section of town inside the loop. We have a tiny surface rail in the small downtown and museum district in the city.

-I live in Suburbia.

-I live with my parents/mother. (again, until April).

-Due to my initial impression of her, she might live with her parents as well, but I plan to find that out on this date tonight.

So, through my searching of the forum, I never quite found something that pertained to all four of these points. But pulling from everything to kind of come up with a suitable approach, both for my newbie level and, allowing the cat is scared off from the second date , I may get over the 8 week no bed time hangover.

I am really going to hope she has her own place, or even a place with roommates. I can't remember the guy who wrote the thread about no sex on the first date methods. There were a few I read. But that is what I am shooting for due to my nightmare of logistics. First date, will be a coffee shop date, where will both meet in our cars. If she gives me enough cue that she is super into it, then I will suggest a venue change. Probably won't happen though. Just going to use this as rapport and trust building, and going for light kino as the purveyors of the non-firstdate-bang suggest. Oh she will no the friend zone is a no-no.

If all goes well, and she doesn't live with her parents then I will scheme my way to her place 2nd/3rd date after doing something interesting prior.

If she does live with her parents, well then hopefully she knows when they leave, because mine don't lol.

Post: #2

Dude, you haven't even went on your first date, and you are making plans about the spring? Bad form. Take it easy, and relax.

Just from you written, I can tell you are the type to stress about women. That is why it took you 40 approaches. So what if you live with your parents (assuming you are under 25). Tell her you are getting your finances in order, and take her out to the park, bowling or whatever. It don't matter. Main thing is way more important, DON"T GET HUNG UP ON ONE GIRL. That is for after you buy the ring, even then you don't follow her around like a puppy dog.

Take her out to a burger joint and a museum, and keep asking others. Women like competition, they will think you are more valuable if they think you are sought after by others.

Post: #3

(12-19-2016 12:42 PM)Jim Johnson Wrote:  Dude, you haven't even went on your first date, and you are making plans about the spring? Bad form. Take it easy, and relax.

Just from you written, I can tell you are the type to stress about women. That is why it took you 40 approaches. So what if you live with your parents (assuming you are under 25). Tell her you are getting your finances in order, and take her out to the park, bowling or whatever. It don't matter. Main thing is way more important, DON"T GET HUNG UP ON ONE GIRL. That is for after you buy the ring, even then you don't follow her around like a puppy dog.

Take her out to a burger joint and a museum, and keep asking others. Women like competition, they will think you are more valuable if they think you are sought after by others.

First off, that was priceless. Too funny, and too true. I appreciate it. That's exactly what I needed to here. Appreciated.

Post: #4

One thing you might try is doing goofy double dates with a friend of yours. Figure something out about two weeks in advance, then go ask a girl. If there is already a venue planned and they know it is with another couple, it will take the pressure off her. Back in my dating days, I had a 60-75% positive feedback from them. It was fun to see who could get the better looking date.

Just don't go paintballing....I shot my date (now wife) in the throat. She started crying and it wasn't several months later before she let me take her out again.

Post: #5

You can get teenagery creative or once you think you have the bang in the bag, you can book a hotel or b&b and make a weekend/ getaway date out of it.

If youre extremely sure of the bang you could get an airbnb, but i prefer the first optiom since when she says yes then shes already committed to spending the night. (As opposed to getting an airbnb and not bringing it up until the pull)

Post: #6

If she lives with parents too then go party together with your friends and ask your bro who lives alone to let you spend the night with her at his place. Proven to work.

Post: #7

(12-19-2016 11:48 AM)Anarchist101 Wrote:  Ok, I have definitely used the search function and found a few articles that kind of related to me, but not completely.

Not well enough

Post: #8

As others have suggested you are WAY overthinking this. You haven't even had a first date yet. Yes, your logistics suck for a first date bang so that probably will not happen. But hey, start throwing hints out to her (around date 2 or 3) that you need a night away at a hotel/airbnb, etc....Get that puppy booked and enjoy a night of carnal pleasures

Post: #9

It always cracks me up when single guys complain about "terrible logistics." You do realize some of us have managed to smash side bitches even whilst living with an LTR, right?