Post: #1

Under normal circumstances, I would have made a move by now and try to seal the deal already but if anything goes wrong it would jeopardize my internship.

Just a quick background, I have been working with this 20yo girl for a few months and trying to escalate things. She has a long distance boyfriend that she has been with for 3 years and sees him only every other month or so. From what I can tell she really cares about him but he's kind of a beta and is annoyed somewhat by this.

I have been getting good IOIs. I have been escalating physically with almost no resistance, I have touched her everywhere except for erogenous zones like breast, butt, and vag. She reciprocates but not at the same level as me and plays coy when I try to hug her. She likes it but pretends to hate it. She also practically begs me for validation. If I say something she is wearing is ugly she won't wear it again and the next day asks me what I think of her outfit. She asks me if she's the prettiest girl in pictures. She is even getting in shape for a marathon because she thought I implied she was out of shape. She always asks me to put her on the schedule with me when we work and always puts down any girls that I express interest in. She has also shared some pretty personal stuff about family and other things that most people would find bizarre so she is getting comfortable with me.

Some negatives I get from her. Whenever I frame myself positively with something like a skill or accomplishment she inserts her boyfriend into the conversation almost immediately and in a clunky manner and tries to make him seem equivalent or better than me. For example, we both played football and if it comes up and she always tries to make him look better. I called her my "main girl" one time, as a joke and she expressed that she was uncomfortable and said I should watch out or "her boyfriend will beat me up". I have also been trying to make are conversations sexual but she seems to dislike anything that's beyond PG.

The main reason I haven't gone for it is that she seems to think I'm a bag of disgusting germs and STDs. She has mild germaphobia do to ADHD and OCD and wont drink out of a bottle that I drank out f even if its been washed. So if shes disgusted by my saliva Im afraid to go in for a kiss and have it ruin my work environment.

The reason I'm still wondering if I can still seal the deal is I know she has at least kissed another dude, maybe more than one guy, when her boyfriend lived near her and it could have gone as far as sex but I dont know. But the dude she did this with was an ex-boyfriend who she's known her whole life and been best friends with since kindergarten.

How I compare to her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is half asian, 6'2'' and 220lbs its mostly fat not muscle, so hes rather chubby. I'm 6'1'' and in fantastic shape compared to him and better looking than him in the face. He is only getting a masters but the girl and I are both going be MDs, so I am smarter than him or at least have higher aspirations. She also talks about how her husband has to be rich since she will donate most of her salary to charity and never implies that its a possibility that he will be that husband.

So do guys think I have a chance and is there a strategy that I can do to seal the deal?

Post: #2

Here's what's happening:

Her boyfriend isn't around to give her validation, so she's letting you give her what she's missing.

In short, she's using you.

Also, don't fuck where you eat. If you did bang this girl and it went south, guess who's ass would be on the line? Yours.

Finally, "this one special girl" is not how the forum operates. Move on.

Post: #3

She's also a confirmed cheater. She doesn't have the guts to end a long term relationship that obviously isn't satisfying her enough so she's attempting to have her cake and eat it too. No matter how commonplace this is, it's a red flag. If she cheats on this guy she'll eventually cheat on you. If that bothers you at all, do not pursue.

Post: #4

(02-04-2017 01:33 PM)tedwaltmuf Wrote:  Under normal circumstances, I would have made a move by now and try to seal the deal already but if anything goes wrong it would jeopardize my internship.

Just a quick background, I have been working with this 20yo girl for a few months and trying to escalate things. She has a long distance boyfriend that she has been with for 3 years and sees him only every other month or so. From what I can tell she really cares about him but he's kind of a beta and is annoyed somewhat by this.

I have been getting good IOIs. I have been escalating physically with almost no resistance, I have touched her everywhere except for erogenous zones like breast, butt, and vag. She reciprocates but not at the same level as me and plays coy when I try to hug her. She likes it but pretends to hate it. She also practically begs me for validation. If I say something she is wearing is ugly she won't wear it again and the next day asks me what I think of her outfit. She asks me if she's the prettiest girl in pictures. She is even getting in shape for a marathon because she thought I implied she was out of shape. She always asks me to put her on the schedule with me when we work and always puts down any girls that I express interest in. She has also shared some pretty personal stuff about family and other things that most people would find bizarre so she is getting comfortable with me.

Some negatives I get from her. Whenever I frame myself positively with something like a skill or accomplishment she inserts her boyfriend into the conversation almost immediately and in a clunky manner and tries to make him seem equivalent or better than me. For example, we both played football and if it comes up and she always tries to make him look better. I called her my "main girl" one time, as a joke and she expressed that she was uncomfortable and said I should watch out or "her boyfriend will beat me up". I have also been trying to make are conversations sexual but she seems to dislike anything that's beyond PG.

The main reason I haven't gone for it is that she seems to think I'm a bag of disgusting germs and STDs. She has mild germaphobia do to ADHD and OCD and wont drink out of a bottle that I drank out f even if its been washed. So if shes disgusted by my saliva Im afraid to go in for a kiss and have it ruin my work environment.

The reason I'm still wondering if I can still seal the deal is I know she has at least kissed another dude, maybe more than one guy, when her boyfriend lived near her and it could have gone as far as sex but I dont know. But the dude she did this with was an ex-boyfriend who she's known her whole life and been best friends with since kindergarten.

How I compare to her boyfriend. Her boyfriend is half asian, 6'2'' and 220lbs its mostly fat not muscle, so hes rather chubby. I'm 6'1'' and in fantastic shape compared to him and better looking than him in the face. He is only getting a masters but the girl and I are both going be MDs, so I am smarter than him or at least have higher aspirations. She also talks about how her husband has to be rich since she will donate most of her salary to charity and never implies that its a possibility that he will be that husband.

So do guys think I have a chance and is there a strategy that I can do to seal the deal?

Newbie question.

Very first post/ thread is "There's this One Girl...."

there's tons of game advice on here already to read.

Post: #5

"....jeopardise my internship." No more need be said.

Post: #6

Don't

Post: #7

Not worth it.

Post: #8

As someone who has played Russian roulette with his career, don't.

The medical world is smalller than you think. Is it worth being blackballed (or worse, catching a case!) before you start your career for a transient piece of ass?

No fuckin way bro. Ignore this tramp.

Post: #9

Move on, don't give her any validation either. She's getting what she wants out of you without giving up anything.

Post: #10

I'd lose the arrogance. If you're so great you have no need to compare yourself physically, educationally, or any other way to this girls boyfriend.

Just because you might become a doctor doesn't mean you're better than someone working on a Masters degree. The whole idea of education isn't so you can act like you are better than others, but rather to expand your mind and make you a more complete, better than before individual.

Post: #11

As others have said, don't shit where you eat.

Post: #12

Dangerous grounds. As others have written before: She is using you for attention/validation.

Get out of this "relationship" as quickly as you can. Strictly business - no personal.

Dont shit where you eat - unless you're into masochism.

I know what I'm talking about - I have the almost same problem at work and it became quite ugly/painful. PM if you're interested in details.

Post: #13

not worth it.

Post: #14

(02-04-2017 01:33 PM)tedwaltmuf Wrote:  I have been getting good IOIs. I have been escalating physically with almost no resistance, I have touched her everywhere except for erogenous zones like breast, butt, and vag. She reciprocates but not at the same level as me and plays coy when I try to hug her. She likes it but pretends to hate it. She also practically begs me for validation. If I say something she is wearing is ugly she won't wear it again and the next day asks me what I think of her outfit. She asks me if she's the prettiest girl in pictures. She is even getting in shape for a marathon because she thought I implied she was out of shape. She always asks me to put her on the schedule with me when we work and always puts down any girls that I express interest in. She has also shared some pretty personal stuff about family and other things that most people would find bizarre so she is getting comfortable with me.

She's 100% certified nuts.

Post: #15

Ignore her royally. You can even be crabby around her. It works.

That said, at work? Come one man.

Post: #16

Just confirming what other gentlemen have already said:

1. Don't shit where you eat and
2. "There's this one girl" - she's never that special.

In short, don't do it.