Post: #1

I am a 24 year old man and I still keep getting crushes. I don't like it one bit because it's emasculating. I've been like this since I was a young boy.

I suspect that there is a psychological reason behind it because I also suffer from anxiety disorder and depression. I addition to that my brain just chooses a girl that shows IOIs to obsess about without me having a say in it.

I currently have a total of 4 crushes.

Can I simply fix this with game? Or do I need to tell my therapist about this as it may have a deeper psychological reason?

Post: #2

These are girls you're not banging / dating? When I read the title, I assumed you meant you catch feelings for chicks you've been seeing for awhile, which is common. Happens to me too. It sounds like a notch count problem to me. Go out and bang a bunch of chicks if that's the case. It helps take them off the pedestal.

Post: #3

OP, how many women have you been with, in your life?
To me, having a "crush" is a combination of thinking a woman is special + scarcity mentality.

After nailing a couple dozen of them, you begin to see patterns, see they're all the same, wether it shows clearly or not.
When you don't get your dick wet enough, you obsess about women, creating a thirst obscuring your vision.

Post: #4

It's ok to get strong feelings for girls so long as you don't let it cloud your decisions. I don't see it as a bad thing. You are a romantic. Stay grounded in reality is all. Whenever I've had crushes on girls it's because there is something about that girl that resonates with a part of me. It's like you see a missing piece of yourself in someone else.

There is a lot of energy in that. You can take that energy and turn it into something positive. The more girls you interact with, the more you will realize that the special quality you are attributing to those crushes you mentioned aren't that rare. Most girls more similar than they are different.

Go approach more girls, and get a more variety of experiences under your belt. It will increase your sense of abundance and give you more perspective on what you are experiencing. Also, it's completely normal for a lot of guys to get those feelings. It's not a psychological disorder so much as it's just you being new to the game.

Post: #5

It's because you're emotionally needy. I see that you mentioned anxiety and depression. You need to have a fulfilled life yourself, be your own happiness, be your own emotional support. Pick up a hobby, hit the gym, get involved in boxing, mma, or any combat sport and raise your self confidence and testosterone. You're putting these women on pedestals because you see them as more than what they are. Get your self confidence up and go talk to these girls that you're interested and get to know them. Doing this you'll see that, spoiler alert, girls aren't something to be preoccupied with and obsessing in thought over. With the right mindset you'll start to see that they aren't nearly as perfect as you've been fantasizing about them in your head.

Post: #6

(02-20-2017 12:45 PM)soup Wrote:  It's ok to get strong feelings for girls so long as you don't let it cloud your decisions. I don't see it as a bad thing. You are a romantic. Stay grounded in reality is all. Whenever I've had crushes on girls it's because there is something about that girl that resonates with a part of me. It's like you see a missing piece of yourself in someone else.

There is a lot of energy in that. You can take that energy and turn it into something positive. The more girls you interact with, the more you will realize that the special quality you are attributing to those crushes you mentioned aren't that rare. Most girls more similar than they are different.

Go approach more girls, and get a more variety of experiences under your belt. It will increase your sense of abundance and give you more perspective on what you are experiencing. Also, it's completely normal for a lot of guys to get those feelings. It's not a psychological disorder so much as it's just you being new to the game.

dude welcome back

Post: #7

(02-20-2017 12:25 PM)Alexandrian Wrote:  I am a 24 year old man and I still keep getting crushes. I don't like it one bit because it's emasculating. I've been like this since I was a young boy.

I suspect that there is a psychological reason behind it because I also suffer from anxiety disorder and depression. I addition to that my brain just chooses a girl that shows IOIs to obsess about without me having a say in it.

I currently have a total of 4 crushes.

Can I simply fix this with game? Or do I need to tell my therapist about this as it may have a deeper psychological reason?

With all due respect my friend... with all the elements in Bold that I've highlighted from your post... Game should not be a priority on your list right now! You have to fix yourself first... and then you can focus on Women and all. Beyond this point, it's hard to give you any advice since we don't know what your issues are. One thing that I know is that if you state that your Brain chooses an emotion for you... then women will run circles around you and make your situation worse.

Post: #8

(02-20-2017 12:45 PM)soup Wrote:  It's ok to get strong feelings for girls so long as you don't let it cloud your decisions. I don't see it as a bad thing. You are a romantic. Stay grounded in reality is all. Whenever I've had crushes on girls it's because there is something about that girl that resonates with a part of me. It's like you see a missing piece of yourself in someone else.

There is a lot of energy in that. You can take that energy and turn it into something positive. The more girls you interact with, the more you will realize that the special quality you are attributing to those crushes you mentioned aren't that rare. Most girls more similar than they are different.

Go approach more girls, and get a more variety of experiences under your belt. It will increase your sense of abundance and give you more perspective on what you are experiencing. Also, it's completely normal for a lot of guys to get those feelings. It's not a psychological disorder so much as it's just you being new to the game.

THIS^

Nothing wrong, per se, with catching the feels. For me, it makes the the sex better. Often dramatically better.

If that's who you are, own it, find the strength in it and build on it.

That said, you may want to look into Attachment Theory. Excessive male neediness, from which I definitely suffered, particularly at your age, often has its roots in broken maternal attachment.

Good luck.