Post: #1

I noticed due to my parents giving me what I wanted as a child, it has affected me as an adult where I expect to get my way at times. I'm looking for a book on this subject via Kindle but I've only found one book for children. Can anyone refer me to one to understand and grow from?

Post: #2

My first thought about this is to read about WW1 trenches and Stalingrad etc. Gets one a true perspective.
Cant think of a book on the subject though

Post: #3

I don't know a book, but you may find this useful:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_gratification

This is a symptom that I have observed seems to occur with those who were pampered too much as children.

Post: #4

Something about dealing with bratty behaviour in children, perhaps?

https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B003F1WM9S

Post: #5

The first circle and the gulag archipelago by solzhenitsyn

Post: #6

I wish I had these problems...

Post: #7

https://www.amazon.com/Narcissism-Epidem...1416575995

Post: #8

I've a practical exercise that may be useful. It's called: Get a Job.

It sucks, trust me, but it'll give you infinitesimal things to relate to the rest of the world. The fortunate cure for "the job" is there is a social group that meets every day: we meet at a place called "the bar." There we hash out all these problems which you confess, only we don't have the social means to do anything about it. We just bitch and complain. It's liberating. By the way, don't show up to "the bar" to bitch if you don't have "a job." It won't work out well.

Post: #9

I'm reading a novel called Captains Courageous by Rudyard Kipling that may get the job done.

What I Believe, by Tolstoy would indirectly, but effectively lead you out of it, if it's mostly applied.

Post: #10

@debugiled's post

I think the whole narcissism spectrum thing varies. Theres different types (covert vs grandiose). Sometimes it can be good depending on how its brought out. If you believe you deserve the whole world and more its good aslong as you act upon it and realize you are what you do,and your delusions of grandeur are justified. If you wallow in self pity about how you deserve x but do nothing but complain its bad.

I'd actually be interested if someone could explain why narcissistic tendencies are often associated with success,power,etc and also being a whiny modern millennial bratt. An obvious case of someone we could call a narcissist would be Patrick bates in American phsyco yet a lot of millennials we call narcissists lack the discipline mental fortitude and ruthlessness of his character.

Maybe as a society a whole we have become more narcissistic in the sense that we are more materialistic and entitled,but maybe to a certain degree this is the result of it becoming more necessary to be this way in order to get what we want from this world. Being more into I vs we being a result of people being less tribal and more individualistic. In game terms it certainly helps to have the attitude that you absolutely feel entitled to swoop that girl....but its about if you actually act upon it vs wondering why you cant get any.

Post: #11

Put yourself in situations where you're quickly reminded that you are not a special snowflake and must work hard to overcome challenges. Obvious ones would be basic training for the military or intense sports like martial arts or wrestling - it's very humbling to realize how many other men in this world could roll you into a little defenseless ball if they really wanted to - and especially to realize that most of the time they humbly choose not to.

Less obvious would be simply a hard labor job like construction. Getting into long distance hiking may also be helpful. Anything that makes you depend on your own devices is great, but learning to work with others for a common goal may do you just as much good.

Either way, think of how to rob yourself of comforts that you haven't earned on your own accord and purposely expose yourself to intense adversity.

I'd also recommend reading Mindset by Carol Dweck.

Bonus Points: Change your username.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #12

You're just looking for excuses.

Grow up. Man up.

Take a trip to a country where you don't speak the language, barter with a realtor, get rejected by women. You'll only ever grow by experiencing things that push you out of your comfort zone, and out of your sense of entitlement.