Post: #1

I see a lot of threads on this forum that ostensibly seek advice, but are really excuse porn. Examples are:

I'm not tall enough
I'm not rich enough
This country is play out
This app is played out
So and so celebrity is only successful because of plastic surgery
Women are sluts and not worth my time
I'm a slow gainer.

Some of those threads have some good advice if you read them with a goal to improve yourself. But its too easy to dwell on things that need to be improved and use that as a reason to not take the first step.

I'm closer to 50 than 40, balding, and overweight. I reentered the dating market on Labor Day and I"m +10. All were under 30, most under 25. All were 7 or above. My friends saw the pictures, they can vouch for that.

The first step in success is believing you can do it. I know a guy who is 40+, has less hair than me, and probably more overweight than me. He had 2 girls last night. He brough 3 girls to a sex party the week before. Now this guy has some stuff going for him, but if he can do it you can.

What is his secret? He's constantly learning and trying to improve. He's taken stuff from my game and made his own game better, a lot better. He reaches out to people on this forum to learn from them and to help them. I owe 95% of my results to him.

Him and the other 40+ friend I made on this site had been over 300lbs!! They both lost 50+ pounds. They and I are dealing with divorces and a lot of other shit in their lives. But we made a decision to put one foot in front of the other.

Too many people on this site want to make excuses or say such and such isn't possible. No, you don't want to admit its possible because to do so is an admission that you have failed, or at least not succeeded yet.

Once you accept that its possible, you then have to determine how to make it possible.

One step is to be thankful for what you have. One of my friends is well over 6 feet tall. He doesn't realize that his height is the equivalent of DD tits with no bra. He was asking me for fashion advice as if that matters. If a girl with DD tits had poor fashion sense and wasn't wearing a bra, would you care?

Take an inventory of what you have and what you don't have. Bolster your confidence about what you have and get out there. And make a plan to improve what you don't have. But don't dwell on what you don't have.

Right now I don't have any living room furniture. All I have is a leather chair. For a year I used that as an excuse to not bring girls back. Now, I bring them back, fix them a drink and tell them to come sit on my lap. I massage them when they are sitting on my lap and they forget I don't have any furniture. I'm finger banging them in 5-10 minutes, and throwing them down on my bed a few minutes after that. Thank you to the poster who started the zero date bang thread. Thank you to my friend who showed me how easy it was to have dates meet you at your house instead of a bar or restaurant. Again, once you realize what is possible, you can make it happen.

I'm not trying to call anyone out. But if you are not having the success you want, ask yourself why? Are you making excuses? Do you believe its possible? If us old farts can do it with our bellies and thinning hair, you can do it if you just let yourself believe you can do it.

My game is no where near complete. I learn something new everyday. I'm by no means a game master. I'm not posting this to try to pretend I am better than you. Quite the opposite. If an old fart like me can get these results, than you can. If only you humble yourself and let yourself believe it can be done.

Post: #2

Wow, I admire your diligence, I'm sure it wasn't easy.

I'm 6'1 in my early 20s, good looking, and I have good game, yet I didn't get any this weekend because of my bitch attitude and pickiness. I fall trap to what you're saying all the time; we all have feelings of inadequacy regardless of how we look like.

Anyway, you should play the cards you're dealt gracefully for every card has its advantages and disadvantages.

Complaining is for women.

Post: #3

Dude, you're great. How did you start? Was it gym? Did you immidiately start aproaching? Really wish to hear your and friend of yours story.

Post: #4

My excuse, despite being 25, 6’3, articulate, great fashion sense, 5 LTRs and 22 notches under my belt, is that I’m black, skew nerdy, and have bad logistics & not enough money/time to properly develop my game.

Rep point for you good sir. This thread is a breath of fresh air here.

Post: #5

I got divorced and didn’t leave the house for a year basically. Started on TRT, started eating better, started going to the gym, read this forum every day. Kept going even when I wasn’t having success, and wasn’t afraid to do things differently since what I was doing was not working. But the first step is realizing that it can be done. The second step is getting rid of your self limiting beliefs. I’m still overweight, I have less hair than when I started because of TRT, but I’m having even more success. Women are much less concerned about your hair or your weight than they are with your success and your attitude.

I didn’t start this thread to brag about myself. I’m not an overnight miracle, I didn’t start at zero. My only point is that there are guys were older than you have less money than you or shorter than you or balder than you, I have bigger problems than you, that are having more success than you. Why? Because they believe success is possible, and then they put in the work to achieve it.

I really started this thread to brag about my friend, and how much his success has inspired me. Because I know he’s able to do it, it makes me know that I can do it if I just keep trying different things.

Post: #6

My excuse is that I'm a dark triad alpha. It wouldn't be fair to other guys if I ran game.

Post: #7

(12-10-2017 01:32 PM)Rhyme or Reason Wrote:  My excuse is that I'm a dark triad alpha. It wouldn't be fair to other guys if I ran game.

A real dark triad wouldn't care about other guys

Pickiness is certainly my biggest "excuse" though I don't really see it as a negative.

Post: #8

This is a great thread.

I agree, it's better to be grinding through life's little setbacks and disadvantages.

Playing to your strengths instead of wallowing in your weaknesses.

Post: #9

Great wall of text with lots of pics. Thanks TS. My life has changed. I am a bit taller and my dick is slightly smaller. Wait wut?

Post: #10

No excuses, just laziness to grind if things don't go super smoothly. Laziness has always been an awful trait of mine.

Post: #11

Got fucking DEEZED tonight boys. Chatted up some skanks. Digits but, tonight was all about gains. Seriously, I would make a woman wait while I go lift. I know so many punks that get jacked up, jump on a cycle, get a gf, stop, and she finds a man to give it to her good. If the sound of a man's urine hitting the porcelain sounds feminine, some guy is doing the robbery on his little cherish. Real talk!