Post: #1

I'm in KL right now. Met this girl through online game, went out for a few drinks then took her back to the apartment and she let me smash after a bit of LMR. She was drop dead gorgeous as well, mixture Malay with a little bit of Filipina mixed in.

Anyway, the next morning she asks if she can borrow 10 MYR (about $2.50 US) to get a cab to her work a few blocks away. Or if I could just order her an Uber through my account. I know the amount seems ridiculous but as soon as I heard the word 'taxi' money I had flashbacks to all the other threads I read about this.

So where does it cross the line between a legitimate request and looking for some payment for the events of the night prior?

And yes, of course I gave her the 10 MYR

Post: #2

Honestly it's nothing to worry about.
If she's only asking for a few dollars to get home it wouldn't even think twice.

$2.50 is like going to a festival and buying her an ice cream when you are getting yourself one as well.

Do you want to see her again?
If yes then you did an ok thing.
If not, then tell her you aren't interested in giving her money next time she comes over.

Post: #3

Obviously the amount means nothing, it was more the principle. As in , did I bang this smoking hot chick becuase of my looks and game or was she just after a small payday

Post: #4

In a poor country, I usually just automatically give the girl a small amount to get a taxi in the morning. If she then asks for more money, you will know what her deal is and just next her.

I don't really know if Malaysia is a poor enough country to warrant this approach. Asking local men (or girls you are not fucking) about local norms is also a good idea.

Post: #5

(01-12-2018 05:03 AM)kimura89 Wrote:  Obviously the amount means nothing, it was more the principle. As in , did I bang this smoking hot chick becuase of my looks and game or was she just after a small payday

Most likely a small pay day in that country.

Post: #6

She was happy enough for me to put it though my Uber account (no cash), and was adamant about paying me back so I don't know.

Post: #7

According to some RVFers...it's not p4p if it's in a developing country because "her familuh is poor". If you're in the Anglosphere, heaven forbid you pay for appetizers because then you're a beta whoremonger.

Post: #8

Lol it only becomes obvious when girls want a 1000 for taxi money. Don't worry op 2.50 is too small to scam.

Post: #9

If this girl is as hot as you say, it is a bit strange she doesn't have that money on hand. However, to take a more optimistic approach, maybe she genuinely feels that it's warranted and appropriate for the guy to cover her ride home, since you after all dislocated her in your dastardly plans to take her home, you sly dog you. Is 10 Whampums actually about the cost of a ride home and a (small) ice cream along the way? Then no sweat. If that amount starts getting any higher, or if she asks for it even after you meet close to her place (that would be a good test actually), then that's some sketchy ish.

But you prepaid with Uber? I'm not sure why that is not considered anything other than magnanimous on your part.

Post: #10

No didn't end up paying through Uber.

What happened exactly was that she originally asked for 5 MYR ($1.25) becuase that's how much she thought it would be to her work. Then she showed me on the GrabTaxi app (similar to Uber) and there it was 10 MYR becuase of high demand which happens. So just gave her the cash.

Post: #11

I can't believe what I am reading, dude paid her taxi and now he is wondering if she banged him over his game or she was just looking for taxi money. Smh

Post: #12

I'm socially retarded for the most part (though I have my moments) and not too experienced with SE Asian women, obviously if she was asking for an over the top amount like another poster pointed out it would be cut and dry...so would actually be keen to get your thoughts.

Post: #13

the average malaysian graduate(early 20s) is earning 1700 MYR to 3000 MYR a month if they're working in a corporate environment. An average meal in a mamak(road side stall) starts around 3-5 MYR for a simple plate of fried rice. These numbers should give you a clearer picture of whether this girl came all the way to bang you for money.

Regardless, you got the bang and you did the right thing in giving the 10 Ringgit, it's nothing to you and you ended things on a pleasant note, increasing the chance of a second bang if you're interested in her.

Post: #14

She works in an operations role for a hotel.

So you're saying she did come for money? Sorry as mentioned im retarded when it comes to this shit, plus only running in a few hours sleep.

Post: #15

And yeah she's become a stage 5 clinger after we banged.

Post: #16

(01-12-2018 07:46 AM)kimura89 Wrote:  She works in an operations role for a hotel.

So you're saying she did come for money? Sorry as mentioned im retarded when it comes to this shit, plus only running in a few hours sleep.

No she didnt. Calling it USD 2.50 is easy for us to understand but since this chick is Malaysian drawing a Malaysian salary, you have to think in her perspective. I doubt any girl would travel out of her way to bang for what is to her USD10.

Furthermore, you're in KL. Its a shithole but it is the capital afterall with a subway system and much more developed infrastructure than most other SEA cities. Hell, even the hookers down at the Chow Kit district probably charge more for a handjob.

If you need someone to spell it out for you: Relax, you gamed and banged this chick and gave her 10bucks for a ride home. Pat yourself on the back on a job well done. Rinse and repeat.

Post: #17

Relax man, she could make far more than that in a couple hours at the Beach Club if she was a pro. Pribably didn't want to do the walk of shame and had no cash.

Post: #18

Scammers and hookers don't offer you to order via Uber.

And like the other guys said, nobody will fuck a client for $2.50 (or even $10) and then become clingy. That hooker would starve if she puts that much time investment in a $10 client...

Post: #19

If it was about $3.50, I’d be asking questions

Post: #20

In time, a person's true character is revealed. This goes for men, as well as women. There is no way to know her true character at this moment. Perhaps she is an honest woman in need. Perhaps she is a black-hearted trollop, ready to pounce on the next victim.

Your best approach is enlightened detachment. Enjoy what comes your way, but withhold your final judgement. In six months of continual contact, her true nature will become revealed. Patience is your best friend, kimura.

Post: #21

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Post: #22

Bro, event 2.5 USD is a lot of money...that's like 4 sausage burritos from McDonalds so it must be enough for a meal in KL. To top all of this off, she is FILIPINA! It doesn't get any more stereotypical than this. Next thing she is going to mention is a sick water buffalo or a family member who needs surgery.

Never give money to filipinas, thais, colombianas, devushkas, or any girl for the matter...no matter how "Poor" their country might be. Thinking of a country's condition is beta/scarcity mentality right there.

Post: #23

Post: #24

This is the dumbest thread in a while.

Post: #25

Lol silly thread. But serious answer: When you give her significantly more than the price of a taxi ride.