Jetset
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RE: Girl is stalking me
Sometimes stalking is about control, where the stalker is trying to aggressively force the other person to think about them and pay attention to them.
Other times, it's because they're simply emotionally-led and socially oblivious, believe their behavior is wanted, and maybe the person they're bothering has given them half-assed/incongruous signals and they aren't getting the hint. It's the extreme version of the coworker who finds weird reasons to ask you questions, because they're pretty sure you're just too shy to ask them out but maybe if they come by your desk again...
She says "it's her fault", maybe she really believes she can still save whatever great romance she imagines you're having if only you open the door to talk to her and she has a chance to say or do the right thing.
In both cases, it's very narcissistic behavior. Spending an hour waiting outside your apartment is way over-the-top. Personally, when I had one of these, I finally had to be very clear with her in writing that it was just sex, that I was done with the sex, that her behavior was extremely annoying, and that there was no romance and never would be. I think I may have been angry enough to refer to her as a "cum receptacle", which was probably not a good idea on my part, but she definitely stopped messaging me.
On the other hand, that worked with her because she imagined we were in love and she just needed to get the bandage ripped off. Might provoke far more crazy from some.
Hidey-ho, RVFerinos!
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Keepiticy2
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RE: Girl is stalking me
crazy girls are horrifying mainly because you don't know how far they'll take it. I've had girls key my car, hit my bumper off with a baseball bat, flatten all 4 of my tires, threaten my family, physically assault me, send my friends videos of us having sex, threaten to get pregnant just to keep me in their life, threaten suicide, actually cast voodoo spells on me, gave me a gift and called the police and told them i stole it from her etc etc. Its a scary thought. I'm dealing with a stalker now......My friend said the best thing to do is move or at least fake like you moved
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Keepiticy2
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RE: Girl is stalking me
(02-14-2018 07:32 AM)The Alpha Virgin Wrote: (02-14-2018 07:03 AM)Keepiticy2 Wrote: crazy girls are horrifying mainly because you don't know how far they'll take it. I've had girls key my car, hit my bumper off with a baseball bat, flatten all 4 of my tires, threaten my family, physically assault me, send my friends videos of us having sex, threaten to get pregnant just to keep me in their life, threaten suicide, actually cast voodoo spells on me, gave me a gift and called the police and told them i stole it from her etc etc. Its a scary thought. I'm dealing with a stalker now......My friend said the best thing to do is move or at least fake like you moved
HA! Somehow I got a hard time believing that all that have happened to you. Voodoo spells? You should give the whole story.
lol sad thing is this was mostly the same girl doing this.....she put all my dirty laundry and rotten chicken in a plastic bag and left it on my door step...its suppose to mean something (her family is from mobile, we're from Birmingham Alabama)
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RE: Girl is stalking me
This happened to me once. I made the mistake of letting the bitch in to explain I did not love her and was just sex. I spend the whole night try to kick her out afterwords. Neighbors involved, drama, chaos. Bad plan.
In the end and after she found another cock to jump into, she stopped bothering me.
Stay strong and don't open the door, do not contact her and keep ghosting. She will get tired of it eventually.
If you try to logically explained that you will never be with her, shit can get real serious (Rape accusations, violence, police involvement,etc...)
Since then I try to fuck them ho's in there place. I got a bit traumatized honestly. Sometimes my door bell rings and I still think she is coming to find me, LOL
Just stay chill and forget about that nutter
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RE: Girl is stalking me
I am dealing with one at the moment. I am glad I didn’t show her where I live. She calls her friends at 5 in the morning and tells them that she is in love with me and ask them to call me to speak to me about her (I have blocked her number).Some girls just give you red flags that they will be stalking you if you don’t give them the attention they want. They usually tend to ask a lot of questions, don’t have full time jobs, call you and text you all the time and get mad when you don’t reply to them quick enough, they want to know where you live, they fall in love real quick, they have a past of being violent to men, no father figure, etc. Soon as you see these signs, take precautions.
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Jetset
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RE: Girl is stalking me
(02-15-2018 05:36 PM)The Alpha Virgin Wrote: But at least I think a girl like that must be very unlikely to cheat on you. And that's a very good trait.
Son, no. Just no.
Girls who have this type of obsessive personality are serial sluts every time, and when you catch them, count on them to slam their own head into a wall and tell the police you did it. Never stick your dick in crazy. Always let some other unlucky dude get saddled with this problem.
Like I said above, this kind of behavior is narcissism. They're only thinking about themselves, so never stop to ask if you actually want to answer the door or spend all day texting, and become angry when they don't get what they want. When she gets vagina tingles for somebody else, she won't think about your well-being then, either.
Hidey-ho, RVFerinos!
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Keepiticy2
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RE: Girl is stalking me
(02-15-2018 06:59 PM)Jetset Wrote: (02-15-2018 05:36 PM)The Alpha Virgin Wrote: But at least I think a girl like that must be very unlikely to cheat on you. And that's a very good trait.
Son, no. Just no.
Girls who have this type of obsessive personality are serial sluts every time, and when you catch them, count on them to slam their own head into a wall and tell the police you did it. Never stick your dick in crazy. Always let some other unlucky dude get saddled with this problem.
Like I said above, this kind of behavior is narcissism. They're only thinking about themselves, so never stop to ask if you actually want to answer the door or spend all day texting, and become angry when they don't get what they want. When she gets vagina tingles for somebody else, she won't think about your well-being then, either.
this is so true. the girl I mentioned was and is a super slut. The reason I tried to distance myself from her was because of that very reason......HOWEVER she would text me and call me constantly. if I block her she would text/call me from other numbers.....I still haven't found a permanent solution to this
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"Give her an escape from reality, Give her a personal oasis and she'll always come back for more."
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The Alpha Virgin
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RE: Girl is stalking me
(02-15-2018 06:59 PM)Jetset Wrote: Son, no. Just no.
Girls who have this type of obsessive personality are serial sluts every time, and when you catch them, count on them to slam their own head into a wall and tell the police you did it. Never stick your dick in crazy. Always let some other unlucky dude get saddled with this problem.
Like I said above, this kind of behavior is narcissism. They're only thinking about themselves, so never stop to ask if you actually want to answer the door or spend all day texting, and become angry when they don't get what they want. When she gets vagina tingles for somebody else, she won't think about your well-being then, either.
Ha, ok. Sounds about right, but I'm thinking this might have something to do with her being a virgin, so she put OP on a pedestal, worships him and got a huge oneitis. Because behaviours like this seem to be somewhat commo with a girl who had her virginity taken by a guy.
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Latan
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RE: Girl is stalking me
(02-16-2018 02:49 AM)Bienvenuto Wrote: Why not go to the police on this issue. Tell them it's harrassment and they will tell her to back off.
They do it for women all the time.
A guy stalks, while hoping to get sex.
A girl stalks, while hoping to get attention.
Going to the police will give her all the attention she craves, and the opportunity to potentially claim abuse / violence / rape.
I wouldn't give her that chance : as long as the police is concerned, I don't know her and have nothing to do with her.
Still, if someone went to the police (which I never did), I'd really like to have some feedback on it.
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