Post: #1

Let me gush. TL;DR in bold

The last girlfriend I loved was about a year and a half ago, we broke up because I found that even though she treated me perfectly, I'm not happy being content. So we broke up and now she's married to some other man. After going through a small parade of women here I am,

I met a girl who is wife material, and if I have children I'd like it to be with a trustworthy woman like her who is very rare. I can have sex whenever I'd like, She doesn't get angry and she is submissive to my wishes. She let's me see her phone. She also doesn't have grand career ambitions and would like to have a family.

But I just can't seem to make up my mind to make this new girl my girlfriend. I feel like I'm addicted to the chase and the uncertainty, I love the game. In my busy life gaming women is the only thing that I do for fun. I really love it. What will miss if I date her? If I had dated the last girl who treated me well and didn't continue the chase then I wouldn't have met her, but there isn't the challenge and drama I enjoy.

But I just can't seem to make up my mind to part ways with her either. I think about the life we could have.I've typed out the text message to say goodbye and I just don't send it. I would be happy if I could just learn to be satisfied. Also, Because I spend all my time going on dates I really don't have any close friends, I really enjoy hearing the nice things she says to me and having a friend, but can I make up my mind to resign myself to this simplicity?

This issue has forced me to realize that I may value adventure more than love, that I may value self improvement more than being happy, that I may value chasing random women more than having one who would be a good wife. What kind of picture does that paint of my character? I am uncomfortable thinking about it and part of me just wants to say fuck it and leave just so I can be free and not have to confront myself about it anymore. If it wasn't an option it would be easier. She's not a perfect woman but her flaws are permissable, if she had some deal breaking flaw I would know what to do but she doesn't.

Am I in love? Should I date her? Even though I want to pursue other women when she's away, The time that we are together is always happy.Usually when I get enough love I feel fulfilled enough to get back on the chase but she's already caught me with another woman and I feel guilty about bringing her emotional pain. I suppose that most of all I see value in her as a potential wife and I don't want to let her go. But when I see other beautiful women I feel that not chasing them is against my nature, which also makes me unhappy.

I really don't know how to relax and be happy. I think being content is a bad thing most of the time because it prevents people from greatness, if people were content they wouldn't try for more. "This is a core belief of mine" I, the unhappy man, say to myself as I wonder and wonder what I'm going to do, if I will pass up a good life with a loving woman, feeling downcast about the situation like it's a lose lose situation rather than a win win situation. Maybe I am a fool.

Post: #2

Why not both? Love won't last forever. Sometimes I believe we as men can be too logical in our decision making instead of just "going for it". Since you really like her at this point, why not have a kid with her and stay together for as long as it lasts. Once you feel the urge to get some side pussy, you may do that at that point (without ever admitting it to your woman, obviously). Either way, getting into an LTR, getting married or having a child is not a life sentence. You may choose to change your mind down the road at any time. It is completely acceptable in this day and age.

Most real men settle with a good wife and then cheat on the side. I think this is the best way to play the game.

Post: #3

Props for the TL;DR in bold!

Post: #4

Well the first question is how old are you? I think we can all agree that one woman for the rest of our days sounds like a death sentence. Are you lonely? Why do you feel like you have to force some action now? I know I feel some of the same things myself when I get a girl that I vibe well with and enjoy being around. Just remember that after a while the same old thing gets old, and you're gonna want out.

The best thing to do is just forget about all of this IMO, kids and wife are the ultimate commitment, you have plenty of time for things to fall in place. If she likes you and you like her keep it going by all means, but the power shifts as soon as you make a commitment to this girl regardless of how strong your frame has been or how much you've worked on gaming her.

One thing I would respectfully NOT recommend is "going for it" and going for the "good wife and some action on the side" plan. I think not committing to a full on relationship and only dealing with a few angry texts and drunk dials when it finally blows up is a lot easier than being fucked over by legally committing to stay with someone by choice.

Life is what you make it, don't worry so much, have patience and remember the only limits are the ones you set yourself.

Post: #5

I think first of all if it was true love, ie mutual, you wouldn't ask this question, that feeling would not leave you a choice. The key to remember is that that feeling is merely an illusion, though it seems real to you. Real love, soul mates, all that fine stuff does not exist, except in our imagination.

If I were you I would definitely game until you get tired of it. THEN pick one and wife her. But be careful, though you can change your mind, divorce, once you marry and have children the price is extremely high. Better not to do that. Better to be sure.

Post: #6

I appreciate your introspection and your realness in this post, it resonated with me. It's always said that "ignorance is bliss," and maybe if you weren't game-aware you'd be "happily" tied down to dutiful wife with some kids in tow...but as bearers of the Crimson Capsule, we understand that in this modern age, this is an unlikely scenario. You'd probably agree that your freedom is worth the burden of the knowledge we have and these struggles we deal with.

Being game-aware gives you options as you've described, and while options are great in that they give a man power, option paralysis is definitely a thing. Your struggle of "do I keep/limit myself to this woman or do I keep playing the field and risk not finding another deep connection/quality woman I click with" is something I suppose a lot of game-aware men go through.

I relate to your post as my connection with a girl I've been seeing for a year or so has gotten deeper with time, and the vast majority of modern women are garbage, so I find myself thinking less about gaming and dealing with other chicks as sometimes it really seems as if the juice isn't worth the squeeze (yes, I'm still out in the field just not as hardcore about it lately.) On the flipside, while this girl is very high quality, I cannot ignore the stirring in my loins when my eyes happen upon an attractive female. I'm still pretty young so tying myself down completely would be a dumb move.

I wish I had some good advice for you but I'm still trying to figure all this out for myself. As someone mentioned above having her as a main plate and discreetly getting some on the side would probably be the ideal situation. Good luck man

Post: #7

I'm watching for new posts often and I appreciate everyone's advice.

To answer some questions: I'm 26 which is very young I know. One of the reasons I'm feeling the urge to get more deeply involved with her is because through my experience with many women I know now that so few women are trustworthy and I do want to have kids someday but women stop being able to have kids around 35.

There's a lot of irony in this situation because I don't actually want a kid right now and I don't want to be married right now yet the idea enters into my considerations. I talk about women not being trustworthy but actually I'm open to the idea of keeping her as my girlfriend and cheating on her from time to time but if she cheated on me I think it would be a deal breaker.

There's a Chinese saying I learned recently: 鱼与熊掌不可兼得, “the fish and the bear's paw, you can't have both at the same time” but that's ancient and I don't think I can cut off my bear paw, also what bear paw doesn't also try for the fish? Some of the best things in my life have come in the midst of a crowd of voices telling me I can't or shouldn't.

I think I really just need to do what I want.

Post: #8

Absolutely. Game until you get tired. Then you can always grab a woman and have kids.

Maybe you're overthinking it.

Post: #9

This is something most serious players deal with, especially those of us who travel often. I have met and been with countless amount of women who were marriage material, faithful, and sometimes virgins. But I always left them because my freedom was more important to me.

But I realized some things on the way which I won't go into here. But I will tell you how I solved my problem.

I am in a faithful relationship now. I have no plans to cheat on my girl. But she understands that I have been chasing women my whole life and I have problems when I am not. So we chase women together. The only kind of game I run now is threesome game. There are no secrets. This keeps me in line and we both enjoy it. I am not suggesting you become a swinger, I do not think that is healthy in a long term relationship, but going out once a month to chase a woman in the club is a lot of fun.

You may have trouble at first getting her to commit to this, so ease into it by taking her to a massage parlor where they give you an erotic massage and then leave the room so you two can fuck. After that, she'll be more comfortable with women and open to it. Also bring some sex toys into the picture for the threesomess like a Hitachi and naughty nurse or nun costumes. Every man should at least fuck two nuns or nurses in his life before he dies. It is an amazing feeling.

If you need more advice on this PM me.

Post: #10

"The answer— and, in a sense, the tragedy of life— is that we seek to understand the goal and not the man. We set up a goal which demands of us certain things: and we do these things. We adjust to the demands of a concept which CANNOT be valid. " - Hunter S. Thompson

Figure out yourself and then settle when you are ready. It's evident you are conflicted from this post.

Post: #11

(07-10-2018 12:08 PM)LINUX Wrote:  This is something most serious players deal with, especially those of us who travel often. I have met and been with countless amount of women who were marriage material, faithful, and sometimes virgins. But I always left them because my freedom was more important to me.

But I realized some things on the way which I won't go into here. But I will tell you how I solved my problem.

I am in a faithful relationship now. I have no plans to cheat on my girl. But she understands that I have been chasing women my whole life and I have problems when I am not. So we chase women together. The only kind of game I run now is threesome game. There are no secrets. This keeps me in line and we both enjoy it. I am not suggesting you become a swinger, I do not think that is healthy in a long term relationship, but going out once a month to chase a woman in the club is a lot of fun.

You may have trouble at first getting her to commit to this, so ease into it by taking her to a massage parlor where they give you an erotic massage and then leave the room so you two can fuck. After that, she'll be more comfortable with women and open to it. Also bring some sex toys into the picture for the threesomess like a Hitachi and naughty nurse or nun costumes. Every man should at least fuck two nuns or nurses in his life before he dies. It is an amazing feeling.

If you need more advice on this PM me.

Can you clarify, when you take her to the massage parlors are you letting her fuck the masseuse, or are you fucking her and the idea of doing it in a place like that is what helps her get more comfortable/excited

Post: #12

(07-10-2018 02:10 PM)Repo Wrote:  Can you clarify, when you take her to the massage parlors are you letting her fuck the masseuse, or are you fucking her and the idea of doing it in a place like that is what helps her get more comfortable/excited

I think he means the masseuse will give both of them a somewhat sensual massage and then leave the room for the two of them to fuck each other privately. LINUX correct me if I am wrong.

Post: #13

(07-10-2018 02:10 PM)Repo Wrote:  Can you clarify, when you take her to the massage parlors are you letting her fuck the masseuse, or are you fucking her and the idea of doing it in a place like that is what helps her get more comfortable/excited

Repo. Usually with the erotic massages, one woman jerks you off and the other woman rubs her off while you’re holding hands and when you’re both excited , they leave the room and let you finish by fucking. Some places have women specifically trained to rub other women. We try to do this in every county we visit. The best so far has been in Budapest. We don’t try to fuck massage women. We fuck the women from the clubs and/or tinder. The massage place is just for fun and I recommend it for guys trying to get their women to explore a little bit with other women without having to see her man fuck someone else. It’s like first base. I am in no way recommending pay for play. I’m just talking about a massage that will help open her up more for the idea of a threesome.

Here is an example of a place I went.

https://g.co/kgs/jYZbXU

Post: #14

Ok, here they have those wishy washy spots that are basically brothels, so wasnt sure if that's what he meant or not. Thanks I got it now.

Post: #15

How long have you been together? Was there any time when you felt that you don't care about being single and in the game?