Post: #1

I understand the concept in principle that I should be trying to have more conversations to build my comfort level, but I worry that just randomly talking could get me in hot water with jealous boyfriends or professional victims. Some amount of bravery and gambling is needed with social outreach, but I'm wondering if anyone has advice on how to prioritize certain settings or pick people out of crowds who are safer and would mitigate this concern.

Post: #2

The ladies that are worth talking to for relationships or casual sex?

Post: #3

Body language
Is she alone in the club/bar ?
IOI's

Post: #4

There's a bar/restaurant on my street, not a big enough town to have a club. I have misgivings about women who go to those kinds of places. How do you gauge receptivity to conversation in places where respectable women might be found, such as a supermarket or a library?

Post: #5

If you are merely trying to increase your comfort level with women, and you are starting from a fairly "undeveloped" position, have you thought about engaging with them socially? I mean, without the pressure of potential sexual escalation.

If I was a newbie - at least newbie enough to be asking this question - I would focus on a sort of modified social circle game. I would look to things like local events, church, school stuff and reunions, meetup, etc. I would pack my social calendar and befriend a handful of women. Yes, I would literally put myself in the friend zone. The purpose of this is to naturally and gradually expose yourself (not in the physical sense, obviously) to casual social interaction with women.

You can then go two ways. Keep up at social circle game and attempt to convert something to a bang or relationship. Or, you can convert your newly-developed social and banter skills in to a more traditional day/night game.

Have you read Game or any of Roosh's other game books? You might benefit from a more "structured" program, like the Roosh Program. If you can get through it, it would certainly break down a lot of hangups that most guys have when they start approaching.

As to what women are good to approach in whatever setting?

My go-to's are; 1) attractive to me and within my "attainable range" - unless I am going for the Hail Mary, and 2) "open" - so, lots of eye contact, turned towards me, etc. Once you get used to it, it seems (at least to me) that a lot of women will be fairly obvious that they want you to come over and talk to them.

Post: #6

Which type of woman do you desire?

Post: #7

(09-21-2018 08:07 PM)icyT Wrote:  I understand the concept in principle that I should be trying to have more conversations to build my comfort level, but I worry that just randomly talking could get me in hot water with jealous boyfriends or professional victims. Some amount of bravery and gambling is needed with social outreach, but I'm wondering if anyone has advice on how to prioritize certain settings or pick people out of crowds who are safer and would mitigate this concern.

Tat my friend, is what is known as a "buffer". You try to find some sort of "rejection proof" solution. Suggest you start with indirect approach and work your way to feel if you come across a "pro victim".

Basically on day game you should look for the girl wandering around, browsing or window shopping. This is an indication that she is more open to approach.

Post: #8

use iois to your advantage. basic principle is to say hello or hey,whats up to any female that make basic eye contact with you or use the environment around to start a convo with her and guage her interest from there on.

Post: #9

(09-26-2018 02:25 AM)Tiger Man Wrote:  My go-to's are; 1) attractive to me and within my "attainable range" - unless I am going for the Hail Mary, and 2) "open" - so, lots of eye contact, turned towards me, etc. Once you get used to it, it seems (at least to me) that a lot of women will be fairly obvious that they want you to come over and talk to them.

Tigerman is spot on. However, OP is also right. There are always a lot of girls looking for validation, so you approach thinking of scoring a date only to be rejected or get the 'I have a bf' line. If so move on and don't look back.
Non-verbal cues are often more reliable than the verbal ones. It doesn't really matter what she says unless she agrees to meet you one on one without flaking. Push for the date to avoid wasting your time.

Post: #10

Girls that give blowjobs are worth talking to.