Post: #1

Sex with a girl you connect with is very enjoyable, but I’ve realized it’s no quite as exciting as getting a new lay every time. Especially if I feel I’m one of the few guys she’s slept with—that purity and novelty is a huge turn on. But then again night game ONS are also fun if she’s young enough.

Some guys here have a rotation, but I don’t think I see the benefit in that. Most girls are intellectually boring, have no ambition, and can talk of little more than what Netflix show they’re watching. They’re cute and have their quirks, but so common I see no reason to stay with them; you can find these girls everywhere at any time.

Perhaps a better solution to having plates, is making dates with new girls for the companionship, then moving on instead of banging for a second time.

Would this be too mean to the girls? It’s pushing it... I kind of do a variation of this now, but I do bang them at least a couple of times, most of the time 3.

What I’m considering is a merging of night game ONS, and of social circle or day game short term relationships.

I’m really great at dates, and usually have no problem banging on the first, so this should be interesting. Hopefully it’s drama free.

What would be a good excuse to ghost after the lay? I don’t want to go around hurting women, but this solution is just too perfect. Of course some girls you do want to spend more time with, and this method seems to be the logical one to find the right girl, you feel worthy of being given more.

Post: #2

I don't think that's the reason the 2nd time around is not that exciting. Part of getting the flag is the "score" factor. You played the game and won...even if the girl is beneath your level it's still there. You can get excited because you got it so easily or because you broke through her playing hard to get or whatever else. The second time around it's gone.

What I do is this, I have certain things I enjoy sexually that a typical girl will not do. We don't need to get into specifics here, but i'm sure you have yours as well (some hardcore S&M, a threesome, backdoor, etc). If you're not interested in banging the girl for the second time the traditional way, go and see just how far she is willing to go. If she doesn't go for it you're right where you were before, except you don't have to bother ghosting her or doing anything else to break the interaction, the above will take care of that organically. If she does go for it, you will have what you consider the perfect booty call.

Post: #3

I think the opposite, it gets better after multiple bangs (if she is good) as you work each others preferences out and get more comfortable and intimate.

Post: #4

Others hit some of the key points. Basically define your own frame. If you want her as an option for a quick bang, tell her you're really busy lately but we should definitely hang out again. Not rotation but more an random intermittent fb.

Some girls take the hint after the first or second bang, that you're enjoying yourself but not into 'rotating' and will just text you when they're horny. So they're all warmed up from club / party and just want to bang. And mixing them in intermittently every few weeks keeps them interesting.

Also the suggestion of upping the bar sexually is key. See if she's bicurious or ask her to bring a friend. She either will or she'll get the hint she needs to keep it super interesting sexually and you don't feel like you're disappearing because you've made it clear you have a high bar for her to stay 'interesting'.

Post: #5

(10-15-2018 06:42 PM)RatInTheWoods Wrote:  I think the opposite, it gets better after multiple bangs (if she is good) as you work each others preferences out and get more comfortable and intimate.

Agreed.
First time is rarely ever the best.
There are exceptions of course, but my experience over the course of many different girls, it usually gets much better after you gain trust and comfort.

One thing to add to the quote above:
If she isn't good - train her.
You'll appreciate her even more if you can do this right.

Post: #6

The first time is when I can actually best get rough with them because I’m excitied for the new bang, and see them as a novelty to be explored and played with. Like a new toy.

Second time it wears off, I know their body, already fucked them so I start seeing them in a different light. As you get to know a girl better you start to figure her out, and how vulnerable she is, and that makes me want to be gentler...the sex turns out not as fun. I tend to see women as what they are, and that’s a weak person that needs guidance, validation; somebody to help them grow. That’s all well and good, but they lack other parts for me consider them as long term partners, and once I realize this, and the novelty of their body’s gone, there is just nothing left.

As far as comfort goes, I get them to open up really well on dates, and I’m a very sexual guy, so connecting in that way is easy.

Post: #7

One time I stayed at a girlfriend's apartment for 3 days, basically like living with her, going through each day. It was absolutely terrible. The novelty was gone maybe the 2nd day. I can't fathom years of marriage, It was a horrible feeling. When you're around someone all the time it just kills attraction.

Post: #8

(10-18-2018 12:00 AM)Disco_Volante Wrote:  One time I stayed at a girlfriend's apartment for 3 days, basically like living with her, going through each day. It was absolutely terrible. The novelty was gone maybe the 2nd day. I can't fathom years of marriage, It was a horrible feeling. When you're around someone all the time it just kills attraction.

I can second this. It was just a week for me but felt like forever. She stayed with me until she could move into her new apartment. You kind of lose that "miss each other" feeling when you're around each other constantly, or in my case, i also craved some more space/private time. Couldn't really go out without her wanting to join.

Post: #9

(10-18-2018 12:00 AM)Disco_Volante Wrote:  One time I stayed at a girlfriend's apartment for 3 days, basically like living with her, going through each day. It was absolutely terrible. The novelty was gone maybe the 2nd day. I can't fathom years of marriage, It was a horrible feeling. When you're around someone all the time it just kills attraction.

An extended stay can work if these criteria are met (which are rare):

1) I hesitate to use the L word, but it should be a STRONG mutual attraction, not just casual take-it-or-leave-it.
2) You both have very high libidos and a lot of stamina.
3) You both have enough in common to hold a conversation or do things other than just sex when you're tapped out.
4) There aren't any other distractions (work, chores) to pop the honeymoon bubble.

It also helps if you know that AFTER the extended stay there's going to be a dry period, like in the case of a long-distance-relationship. Both people enter into it with a hoarder mentality.