Post: #1

i've been dating this girl for a while now. the backstory of this girl is, she's 18, feminine, an energy bomb, the girl literally have a happy gene in her. always so fun to be around.

we went on dates and it felt different than the rest of the shitty dates i've been on. it was actually fun and not just a process leading up to a bang that i felt like i had to force myself through. i enjoyed the time spent with this girl. on the 2nd date i pushed for sex and she told me that she is really tempted and she likes me but she would like to get to know me better first. i said fair enough. 3rd date went by, didn't even think of sex, thats how much fun we had. 4th date i pushed for sex again and she politely rejected it, but it was whatever, i saw long term with this girl so it wasn't just about sex, i figured i could wait.

we cuddled and slept at my place and the next morning when we woke up she wanted to tell me a secret. she told me she has only had sex with one person, her ex-boyfriend and it its been 1 year since her last time. "it's not that i don't want to have sex with you, but i want you to know why im holding back". I legit believe her because that's also the information i've gotten from her friend i met. I guess it was a test waiting until the 4th date to see if i was patient or not and i passed it. Because literally the same day when i got back from school i had a message from her saying "i've been thinking about sex with you since i left, do you have any plans tonight? :)"

i got her over that night and she was very much in the mood. My dick was rock hard throughout the whole foreplay but as soon as she pulled down my pants it stopped working. She gave me a blowjob but it still went soft. I did something stupid, i apologized and seemed frustrated about it, annoyed. I knew it was just performance anxiety and that it could happen to the best of us, but i still acted like a bitch losing frame. i figured it was because i've only slept with 2 girls in my life and this girl is literally an 8.5/10 for me.

my girl was super chill about it, she just laughed it out and said it's all good, we can just try again another time. there was no awkwardness between us after that which is nice. 1 week went by as we were both busy with school when i invited her to come over again. This time the nervousness wasn't as strong as before. But i still had a long dry spell of 1+ year. So i literally busted in 1 minute. We went for round 2 and it happened within 3 minutes. Shit. I felt bad that she literally comes over and wants to spend time with me, and i can't please her well. In my head im thinking, why would she even come over again if the outcome will be the same?

Obviously, she likes my company but she clearly mentioned before she also likes good sex. So after this incident, i don't feel like it's the same as it used to be, where she'd message me almost every day and send me random pics throughout the day. So i guess i fucked up either by showing inexperience or by having a very poor frame. The thing that baffles me though... is that she doesn't seem to mind so much. She's literally just saying we can work on things and "its okay", but i dont know if i should believe it or it's just something girls say to not make you feel like shit. Any tips appreciated to what i can work on.

Post: #2

Did you have sex for you or did you have sex for her? To me it sounds like you already won and got to have sex and ejaculate on a hot girl, why bother?

With a hoe you bring home from the club you might never get a new chance to prove yourself after some bad sex cause they're usually getting fucked by different dudes anyway. But here you're actually with a young girl who had you waiting for a few dates before sex and that's why she'll probably be more forgiving and give you time to improve.

I'd stop worrying too much and enjoy life instead. Of course, you try to make it better in the future with her but even if the worst unlikely scenario happens and the sex becomes bad again and she eventually ends up leaving you for it, you've already won either way.

Post: #3

Take viagra 50-100mg next time or masturbate in the morning the same day before the date (or the prior night).

1 year dry spell? Even without touching yourself? Maybe that's the reason.

About frame, I would act surprised like it hasn't happened to me before and reacting kind of angry to myself.

Post: #4

Been in that situation. I just laugh when girls say "oh wow you're quick", fact is when I'm dicking a girl down I'm there for my pleasure. The male nut is sacred, I don't care if she orgasms or not, that's her responsibility as far as I'm concerned and a girl should not be shy to play with herself after I'm done.

Things get better as you become more experienced but it can happen to the best of us any time. A girl that likes you will be understanding and will give you another chance, just keep working on your technique and... not sure why I didn't mention this earlier but cut down on the porn! Getting soft during sex with a girl is generally a PIED (porn induced erectile dysfunction) symptom. Go nofap for a while and you'll be good

Post: #5

Just play it off as a complement of how tight her pussy is.
Just tell her to give you a few minutes and you'll be ready to go again.
Girls are turned on by a guy that can go more than once a night.

Post: #6

The advantage of dating her a few times and building a emotional connection means the sex slip will be overlooked. If that was a ONS or tinder hook up you'd be ghosted.

Next session, give her long, slow foreplay, use your hand on her for ages, then eat the pussy out. Try get her to come a few times before you enter.

This will make it alright, take the pressure off you, and help you relax.

A large amount of women can't come with dick in pussy sex anyway, no matter how long you can rasp away in there.

Post: #7

The woman will not mind that sex was bad if the man is useful to her.

At maximum maximums, you have to roll sex on the 3rd date!

Obviously she did not have only one man in her life... your naivety to believe in her friend!

Post: #8

Been there. My go to line:

"First round is for me, second round is for you".

Then lay back, put her hand on your dick and enjoy the refractory.

Post: #9

Thank you all for the good replies! Helps a lot

Post: #10

Let us know how this works out for you. There's some great advice here!

Post: #11

This chick doesn't know good sex she's all talk (she thinks she does). Early on the sex isn't always that good. Don't over-think it, don't respond to any sort of conversation about previous sexual experiences... keep sarging on and focusing on you both having a good time.