Post: #1

I just noticed how much effect has on you meeting people who are doing better than you.

MikeCF emphasizes a lot in the forum how important is to have friends who are doing better than you. Let me just quote MikeCF most recent comment on this before i tell you guys what happened to me recently:

"I have personally always surrounded myself with my superiors because it has always made me better. If I had hung with my equals, I'd still be broke and view meeting women as a matter of luck.
Instead I sought out people who were better than me, and now my life is something that as a child I never imagined it could be"

Anyway, a friend of mine being trying to get me to meet this nigerian cat that is studying here in DR but i have been postponing our meeting because i have been mad busy. So this week i decided to travel to the city where he is staying so we could meet up. What a good decision i made. This cat is 22 years old, from a super rich nigerian family, mad humble and pulls lots of girls too. His lifestyle made me impressed. He lives in a SICK 3 bedroom house, drives a SICK car, has 3 housemaids and definitely has his shit together.

After meeting him, suddenly i have upped my standards in life. Meeting this guy made realize that i can have a better life. Its not wishing a better life as if i was jealous of his lifestyle or as if i was competing against him, its simply because upgrading my lifestyle would give me wider options and make me a happier man in the long run. I think hanging out with average people really makes you stay average and with average wishes.

And no, i wont waste most of my life trying to get rich because thats not my goal anymore. I am looking to simply upgrade my international playboy lifestyle.

I just thought i should share this, this really had a strong impact on me.

Post: #2

I was thinking of making a thread about this, but it seems you've beat me to it. I feel like the mentality that is oftentimes pushed is to 'get yours' without regard to other people, men or women. I sometimes wonder if people associate the independece of traveling and player lifestyle with the abandonment of close companions.

I can unequivocally say that the relationships I've fostered through the years with other people have allowed me access to things I'd never dreamed of. The types of relationships I'm talking about are lifelong, we'll be sitting back at 60 laughing about the life we live type of relationships. IMO these relationships that I share with some of my best friends and closest confidants are just as important as familial or female relationshionships. In fact, I probably devote more time to cultivating these relationships than I could ever imagine doing with a woman.

Without waxing poetic about my friends, the effort on my part is to surround myself with people who offer value, challenge my beliefs, and push me to become a better person. I've got player friends, I've got omega friends, I've got smart friends, I've got dumb friends, I've got friends who disagree with my beliefs, and friends who also live similarly to me. One way or another, they all present tangible real world value to me. However, from what I've learned, it's important to give something back if you want to truly build these relationships. I notice people without many friends, and the subtle commonality is that they're very hesitant to present anything of value, be it financially, or emotionally. They play their cards unnecessarily close to their chest, and ultimately to the detriment to themselves.

I've got a lot more to say about this topic, but I'd like to see where this goes.

Post: #3

Agreed. I recently read about an experiment where researchers showed a series of photographs to participants. They showed a series of faces which had different expressions such as happy, sad, fearful, etc. What they noticed was that over time the person began to mirror the expressions that they showed them.

I believe this applies to cases like this as well. If we surround ourselves with people who are better and more successful we begin to mirror them and desire to achieve the same things.

There is a flip side of the coin as well. That's letting go of people who hold you back, even if they are family members. In my case I didn't have a lot of money growing up, and my dad imparticular had such a negative view on money, stating that it didn't matter and it was evil or some other bullshit. On the other hand I was lucky to have a mom who believed the exact opposite and always told me that most problems can be fixed and that if we work towards it becoming wealthy is possible. She's the only one in my family who supports my efforts at starting projects/businesses from scratch, my dad calls me selfish for wanting to be wealthy.

Bottom line, I agree with this principle. Surrounding yourself with successful people brings success. Just be careful and avoid those who want you to fail.

Post: #4

"You are the average of the 5 people you speak to most"

It sounds rough but it is the truth. How do you get better by staying with the same people over and over? In addition, just because someone is doing better in one area my or may not be helpful in your life. Ex: I am not going to take life advice from a 40 y/o with $2M that has negative game and looks like a troll. Sure you can take money advice from them, however they gave up wayyyy too much to get that $$ IMHO for the life I want to live today and 10 years from now.

So if you meet someone who has what you want (the guy in your story) find a way to keep that person around.

A rising tide lifts all ships just as you are as important as your weakest link in your top 5.

By continuing to stay in your comfort zone you're drifting in the wrong direction. The guys you want to keep around you'll touch base with now and then and don't need to talk to them 24/7. Pay that info back as well, help people younger than you look up to you as well.

So go out there and find people who will make your life better and help guys that you believe have potential. Starting today.

Post: #5

WestCoast and I have helped each other bang 18 and 19 year old Latinas.

I don't think you would have banged that 19yo from the mall if I not for me.

I don't think I would have banged my recent 18yo if not for you.

From him, I learned fashion. From me, he learned day approaching.

Post: #6

(11-24-2012 02:04 AM)Giovonny Wrote:  WestCoast and I have helped each other bang 18 and 19 year old Latinas.

I don't think you would have banged that 19yo from the mall if I not for me.

I don't think I would have banged my recent 18yo if not for you.

From him, I learned fashion. From me, he learned day approaching.

If only we could make this a new girl every week on the regular!