Post: #1

I have started a new job. I'm a lifeguard at an outdoor pool (yep, I'm young so it is ok to have a bad job!)

At this pool I will see some absolutely gorgeous girls. Since the weather is good here, there are loads of them! Every day I will see at least 5 girls that are 8/10 or above. A lot of them seem quite slutty and there are many of them with kids even though they are between 17-20.

The thing is, being a lifeguard means I can't really talk to them (well definitely not for long) and if I do talk to them it can't be in a funny manner - has to be serious. I can't have a conversation with anyone because I need to constantly be watching my zone of the pool.

Any tips on how to attract them? I still have to remain professional when working which is the hard thing

Post: #2

hopefully you can keep your phone nearby, just make sure it doesn't get wet.

This should be easy. Plenty of women should be checking you out, you can offer to help them by asking them if they are enjoying the pool and if they are finding their way around or having any kind of problems. Have you never worked customer service?

If you are on the clock, just cut your conversations short by saying "I am on the clock so can't really talk right now, can I get your phone number and we meet up later. My name is ____"

sheesh, you are a lifeguard, they have to like you, this should be like shooting fish in a barrel, just beware the underage girlies.

Post: #3

(07-12-2013 04:04 PM)master_thespian Wrote:  hopefully you can keep your phone nearby, just make sure it doesn't get wet.

This should be easy. Plenty of women should be checking you out, you can offer to help them by asking them if they are enjoying the pool and if they are finding their way around or having any kind of problems. Have you never worked customer service?

If you are on the clock, just cut your conversations short by saying "I am on the clock so can't really talk right now, can I get your phone number and we meet up later. My name is ____"

sheesh, you are a lifeguard, they have to like you, this should be like shooting fish in a barrel, just beware the underage girlies.

We are not allowed phones on the poolside.

And I don't think they like lifeguards as much as people think!

Post: #4

Tony, If you don't have the time to get into a decent convo with numbers/facebook or whatever, just give her a really easy email to remember, and then tell her to email you later when you get home?

Post: #5

Use the Ben Franklin Effect. The Ben Franklin Effect is when you build relationships by asking people for favors.

This is counter-intuitive for a lot of guys, because we're trained to be White Knights and do favors, not ask for them. But Franklin theorized that people grow to like people they do nice things for. (Complete explanation here.)

Without knowing the Franklin Effect, I found in high school that it worked when I needed change for snacks and asked a girl -- who then started kidding me about being too poor to buy Little Debbies, which got me teasing her back, etc.

My advice to you would be to ask girls to get you ice cream when the ice cream man comes (you can't leave your post, after all). And since you don't have a phone, you can also ask them if they can give some of your workmates (or whomever) messages. Use these things as icebreakers. If a girl likes you a little, she'll do the same. I'm sure you and others here can think of dozens more examples, but I think the Franklin Effect is the way to go.

Post: #6

fascinating post DoBA, i will experiment with this Franklin effect, and watch the results with interest
am perusing that YANSS website now, good stuff
i know some chicks who studied Pysch in Uni, can be interesting sometimes to play little psychological tricks on them, and see if they notice what you're doing(can also have the side effect of amping up the 'intrigue' factor, gets them thinking about you)

Post: #7

Major addendum!! Hope y'all are still reading.

One thing I forgot to mention was that I had developed a semi-comic technique for making the Franklin effect work. I would walk up to a girl, smile, say hi, how's it going, etc. I would set everything up to look like I was going to ask her out or get a number. Then I would start to speak by saying something like "So, look..." (THEN I'D PAUSE -- DELIBERATELY CREATING TENSION.)

She'd brace herself, thinking I was going to ask her out. After which I'd finish the sentence with:

"...can I, like, borrow a quarter for the vending machine?"

Since the end of my sentence was so unexpected, the girl would inevitably laugh and cough up the quarter. She'd be relieved she wasn't put on the spot to give out her number to a stranger, and was all too happy to help out and lend money.

Either this led to jokes on the spot -- after which I'd get a number -- or I would pay back the quarter the next day, which also lent itself to further conversation.

You also need to be ready to counter cutsey remarks the girl makes that open the door for you to converse, like: "So what made you think I was an easy mark?" Or "So I guess I look like a bank?" I never had any snappy answers to things like this, but it might be worth it to think of some.

The kicker: I developed this idea because I actually did need change for the vending machine all the time (I didn't like carrying change in my pocket because it felt weird). Had I known it was a way to meet women and not just mooch money, I'd have done it with better looking girls!

Post: #8

^^ I discovered the same trick by accident a few years ago-I really did need a little help doing something and approached a couple of girls randomly who looked at me suspiciously when I approached. When I asked them for the favor their demeanor changed instantly and they became friendly and flirty.

Franklin effect+flipping the script. Would make a great daygame opener