Post: #26

Quote:So what? Good. The fact that you fear your loneliness means you should do it.

Before I met this girl, I had 0 girls and 0 experience. She is my first girl. I wasn't lonely at all and just wanted some pussy. Now it's difficult seeing myself without female companionship. Actually, my life was much better before having a GF. More money and time for myself.

Quote:And to make it granular, you said: "She has mostly guy friends." .. Maybe the biggest tell off an untrustable girl for an LTR.

Yes I should have called it off a long time ago before it got serious. Also, she fucked most of her guy 'friends' too. She says she hates girls because they are drama.....???

Quote:-You're posting on the forum because deep down you know you should dump her, but seeing our responses will validate that gut wrenching feeling you have. That's good, it's what the forum is for.

Correct.

Guys this is my first ever LTR and im 20 so this breaking up thing is all new to me.

Last week she was trying to 'break up' with me as well. I said "OK, good luck finding someone new." Showing almost 0 emotion

She immediately started crying and said that she was just testing me and didnt want to break up.... wtf? im 100% sure if I started crying liek most guys, the ending wouldve been different.

i already go to the gym and work on myself, always been doing that. Im not the type of guy who quits lifting because of some girl. gonna start approaching starting today, time to find more girls and dump this girl.

Post: #27

(02-13-2014 01:46 AM)Every10GivesMeA10 Wrote:  gonna start approaching starting today, time to find more girls and dump this girl.

You said just what I, and most other guys on this forum, would advise you to do. Approach, approach, approach. Set some stuff up. Get some new pussy. It will be much easier to drop this chick then. Drop her or have her walk in on you with new pussy.

Post: #28

You should, but plain forbidding her to have any contact with males at all is way overboard and will come back to bite you in the ass. There's a fine line between playful dominance and a wrathful jealousy.

Post: #29

Don't wait to get new pussy before you cut her loose. That's weak.

Just dump her and completely cut contact.

Then go open some girls afterwards.

Post: #30

(02-13-2014 03:04 AM)dreambig Wrote:  Don't wait to get new pussy before you cut her loose. That's weak.

Just dump her and completely cut contact.

Then go open some girls afterwards.

Isnt it funny how bitches always make sure they have a new dick lined up before they break up with their BF?

Why cant we do the same?

Post: #31

(02-13-2014 03:41 AM)Every10GivesMeA10 Wrote:  

(02-13-2014 03:04 AM)dreambig Wrote:  Don't wait to get new pussy before you cut her loose. That's weak.

Just dump her and completely cut contact.

Then go open some girls afterwards.

Isnt it funny how bitches always make sure they have a new dick lined up before they break up with their BF?

Why cant we do the same?

Having girls on the side as a matter of course = position of strength

Putting off breaking up with a slut until you find more pussy because you are scared of being alone = position of weakness

Post: #32

As an older guy I tell you this : you can't control what other people do! Men or women. Do what makes you happy. If someone contributes to your unhappiness - try to avoid them. Examine your thoughts on occasion as well. Read Echart Tolle on that.

Post: #33

Cut her out.

You're feeling crappy.

It's always better on the other side.

I've been there.

Post: #34

Read carefully what Nascimento wrote, that was a nice post.

btw how old are you?

and why do you feel you are going to be alone and so on? What kind of life is this one who a person stay in a bad relationship for purely "not used to live without a woman"? That's exactly a life without future. And also, there are A LOT OF GIRLS everywhere!

Listen, almost one year ago, I broke up with my ex-GF. Honestly, she was a very cool girl, we had almost the same tastes, she was hot etc. Everything should be perfect (we even lived together) but things did went well. We lived for one and half year together, but even we being a very good match, things didn't work well and I knew it wouldn't in a near future. So, we broke up, each one followed his/her own life and that's all. When things don't make out as you want, you have to cut of, even if you love her. Be a man, face the truth and raise like a phoenix from the ashes: Relationships that don't go well and you are a blue pill man will turn you down a lot. Use it as a motivation to become a stronger man.

What makes life enjoyable are the challenges you are going to face and what will make you stronger. Move to another country, save money, try to hook up girls, gym, learn new things with your experience or by other men experiences and so on. I'm not saying to never have a LTR but these bad moments you are having right now should make you think better what you are losing with this girl.

Release the chains of your life, go live it, you have just one life, enjoy it as much as you can.

Post: #35

(02-13-2014 03:41 AM)Every10GivesMeA10 Wrote:  

(02-13-2014 03:04 AM)dreambig Wrote:  Don't wait to get new pussy before you cut her loose. That's weak.

Just dump her and completely cut contact.

Then go open some girls afterwards.

Isnt it funny how bitches always make sure they have a new dick lined up before they break up with their BF?

Why cant we do the same?

We can.

Beyond All Seas

"The individual has always had to struggle to keep from being overwhelmed by the tribe.
To be your own man is a hard business. If you try it, you'll be lonely often, and sometimes
frightened. But no price is too high to pay for the privilege of owning yourself." - Kipling

Post: #36

No one has suggested to try to gradually detach yourself from her emotionally while being together and banging her, as well as looking for new chicks concurrently. If you do get caught, so what? You were going to dump her anyway.

Post: #37

(02-13-2014 03:41 AM)Every10GivesMeA10 Wrote:  Isnt it funny how bitches always make sure they have a new dick lined up before they break up with their BF?

Why cant we do the same?

Ever had a co-worker quit and then the very next week, begin working for your companies competitor? The instinct for self-preservation is strong in all humans regardless of gender.

Post: #38

If it crosses your mind, then you have your answer. Do her a favor, and more importantly, do yourself a favor.

Next time, have a 2-3 others in a rotation. You can have your main girl, but have a couple side girls. By doing this, you won't need to drive yourself nuts putting up with her horseshit. You can just say: here's how it is, I don't like this, I'd like it if you could stop. And if she doesn't, pull the 'chute. Go upgrade one of your side girls. They will have been waiting in the wings for so long that you promoting them will be the answer to their dreams. Plus, because she's been happy taking a back seat for so long, you'll know she's loyal. Then, go game a replacement for the now-vacant side girl position.

It's a big step up to be willing to drop a girl because she isn't buying what you're selling. But when you get there, you won't end up in situations like this anymore.

Lastly. If a girl is texting a guy and a). won't show you the convo; or b). he's a former FB, 100% of the time she's either banging him, it's imminent, or she did it last weekend.

Sorry about saying this, but it's a fact.

Post: #39

(02-13-2014 03:41 AM)Every10GivesMeA10 Wrote:  

(02-13-2014 03:04 AM)dreambig Wrote:  Don't wait to get new pussy before you cut her loose. That's weak.

Just dump her and completely cut contact.

Then go open some girls afterwards.

Isnt it funny how bitches always make sure they have a new dick lined up before they break up with their BF?

Why cant we do the same?

You can, but in this case you are postponing the breakup so you can have a safetynet.

I'm not saying you're a bitch, but that's bitchwork right there.

This is the only time I'll use this phrase, but "man up" and dump the bitch.

I understand it's hard. I didn't break up with my first girlfriend until I was 23, and I made sure to have a backup supply of pussy. I'm telling you as I would tell my younger self: Do it. Do it. Do it.

As the years go by, your memories and character will not be shaped by the times you sought comfort and safety. They will be shaped by the times you took a risk, said "fuck it", and did something that terrified you.

Do it. Now, today.

Post: #40

I think you are screwing yourself more by staying with her because you don't want to be alone.

This is one of those situations that you need to take ownership of. Meaning, you need to face your fears so it won't take control over you.

I actually love being alone. I hate having someone around me all the time. The minute I blow a nut I want to go on with stuff that is important to me. I never run out of things that can consume my attention.

You are allowing your fear to run your life. I understand, we have all dealt with fear and will always deal with fear during our lifetime.

It's very liberating to be in control of your own life and that typical means facing our fears and overcoming them.

Post: #41

(02-12-2014 09:29 PM)Every10GivesMeA10 Wrote:  tuthmosis its actually the bff that told her she saw the guy in a store. She's trying to hook her up with him probably.

id just fuck her in the ass be rough with her...then ignore her ...girls hate that , whilst your ignoring her go out and find other girls to fuck, all men need two or three women on the go at the same time anyway..if you had other girls to fuck you wouldn't give a shit about who she is texting..let her run after you , don't run after her..

Post: #42

(02-13-2014 01:46 AM)Every10GivesMeA10 Wrote:  Guys this is my first ever LTR and im 20 so this breaking up thing is all new to me.

Last week she was trying to 'break up' with me as well. I said "OK, good luck finding someone new." Showing almost 0 emotion

She immediately started crying and said that she was just testing me and didnt want to break up.... wtf? im 100% sure if I started crying liek most guys, the ending wouldve been different.

Handling this was very tricky back when I went through it the first time, you're definitely handling it better than I did. Good job remaining aloof.

If anything, I would say you've probably learned so much from this 1st LTR, that when you get into another, you won't make nearly as many 'mistakes.' You've learned enough from this experience, it seems… that alone is reason enough to move on to the next.

Oh yea, and I second trying to get kinky with her. Detach yourself from her emotionally, and make a video. Who knows, that may actually improve her compliance.

Post: #43

Agreed dump her and don't give it another thought.

Post: #44

Yes of course break up with her. And do it today, if you wait until tomorrow that would just be mean(tomorrow is the 14th)

Everyone else already covered the other things I wanted to say so I just went ahead and "liked' their comments

Post: #45

What if the biggest fear isn't that loneliness might come out of it, instead the biggest fear is that it could be heartbreaking? Would that change a situation like this? Fact is that riding out a bad relationship could make it to a point where you could break up without any "miss her" feelings..

Post: #46

Been there man, wasted years. You're looking for someone to tell you that breaking up with her is the right choice. But fuck that, be a man and make the decision yourself. You know what you have to do. No sympathy here..

Post: #47

Holy shit man. Why are you even asking this? Your gf is a slut bro, sorry.

Post: #48

(02-13-2014 03:41 AM)Every10GivesMeA10 Wrote:  

(02-13-2014 03:04 AM)dreambig Wrote:  Don't wait to get new pussy before you cut her loose. That's weak.

Just dump her and completely cut contact.

Then go open some girls afterwards.

Isnt it funny how bitches always make sure they have a new dick lined up before they break up with their BF?

Why cant we do the same?

We can do the same. But needing to do it is what makes them women and us men. Men can have abundance or not, its our conscious choice, most women need abundance to justify their existence and do so in an automated manner, right in front of our faces. But that's their nature.

A good friend of mine said it best: "Women.., they're like monkeys swinging through the trees.. they never let go of the last vine (cock), before grabbing another one. If they did, they'd fall into the jungle and get eaten alive (by their own emotional instability)."

You're 20, learning this shit now and adhering to it throughout life will put you ahead of the pack quickly. I wish I had at your age.