Post: #1

The biggest mistake in the game is chasing. It is the equivalent of showing your tell – a poker term used to describe when someone is bluffing or if they have a good hand. Basically this means that by chasing, you are eliminating mystery or your true intentions. Why would this be bad? Because for one, women like excitement. If you decide that you want to be exclusive with a woman, then she knows that she has you wrapped around her finger and you aren’t going anywhere; which also helps destroy value/you lose your edge of appearing like a player that gets lots of women.
 
Another reason why chasing is bad is that you tend to focus on one person more than others. Is it wrong that you want the 9 over the 7? No, but you shouldn’t let it be known that one has higher value through chasing. Instead, you should treat all women equal and not let them have a value advantage over any other woman. The moment you tell a woman she is beautiful for example hurts your value because you are giving her value and she has done nothing to earn it. Value should only be given to a woman for good behavior such as she makes you dinner, you can say good job.
 
Another more beta reason why chasing is wrong is that it can be taken in multiple ways. It can be seen as creepy and even like a stalker. Also, if you are chasing the woman will know she has value higher than hers. People want what they can’t have so if you are chasing someone that means to her that you want to have her and you already don’t implying that she is on a pedestal. Instead you always must be the person of higher value and being chased.
 
I realized this morning that I am chasing a woman. 3 weeks ago, I asked a girl to be exclusive because well I wanted her to myself and I thought it would be a good idea to have something consistent because I had to move home until the end of the month. We got into a fight and I apologized which was stupid of me because I admitted I was wrong. I haven’t seen her in 2 weeks because of work and I have been the one initiating conversations to make sure she had not lost interest I guess. Why else would I talk to someone I can’t see? Last night I asked if she was still coming back next week and when I woke up I didn’t have a text. I quickly realized from that text that I was chasing. I sent another text to cover my tracks by saying ‘ok I’ll ask my friend to come with me to it’.. but there is no event mentioned and it was all bs. She doesn’t know what it means and that’s what I wanted.
 
She more than likely won’t initiate anything until the weekend is over because we said we have stuff to do this weekend. In order for one, me in particular to recover, I need to drastically change my game. I need to act as if nothing has changed even though I made a commitment meaning I need to still use my tools I have developed as a player to make her chase. I can have multiple girlfriends and I don’t care what I said about exclusive I will still do things with other girls like tomorrow night – wrong or right -  it doesn’t matter.  This will get my mind away from her and I will not sweat her as much because I will have something else going on at the moment. Being exclusive is dangerous because you put too much effort into one person and start to lose your train of thought regarding your own value. This is never good as your own value is always #1.  I also have to stop initiating conversations with her immediately. No more texts/calls etc instead she has to chase. I am the one of more value and in order to make up for my mistake, I need to make her chase. I am practicing the waiting game because that is really my last card to see her again which I will eventually. If its weeks from now, it doesn’t matter because I will have other women occupying my life.
 
How does one make someone chase? There are various threads here dedicated to this so I won’t go into detail but making them jealous is a good start. I could send a picture with me and a good looking/better looking woman but that may be a bad idea right now. I will use this tool eventually. The fact I said I will bring a friend to an event she doesn’t know about is a good/mysterious start. Also, by not contacting her, it will make her wonder why I am not contacting her.. Have I found someone new/better? Have I lost interest? All this will run through her mind.
 
The key to making a mistake is to realize the problem and correct it. If you do not, you are doomed to repeat it.

Post: #2

Ultimately any girl should be one of your life aspects lets say, revolving around YOU.

You should be the center that everything in your life revolves around. For example, on an average day, you have to go to work, gym after, maybe grocery shop, do laundry, and while you're waiting for your clothes to dry you reply to a girl or two through text. See, you're the center of everything, doing whatever you want at the time of your choosing.

Personally, i've bought a playstation 3 recently and man! i would spend hours shooting motherfuckers online after i get back from work/gym that i would literally be in my own world and end up forgetting to text a girl or two back for a like a day! imagine their reactions.

Bottom line, from my experience, chasing implies that you've got a hell lot of free time on your hands. Occupy yourself, keep yourself busy, be productive which will benefit you personally and game wise.

Post: #3

(06-08-2012 09:40 AM)-g- Wrote:  3 weeks ago, I asked a girl to be exclusive because well I wanted her to myself and I thought it would be a good idea to have something consistent because I had to move home until the end of the month.

There is something wrong with the picture when a guy asks a girl to be exclusive.

Post: #4

(06-08-2012 10:09 AM)Perseus Wrote:  Personally, i've bought a playstation 3 recently and man! i would spend hours shooting motherfuckers online after i get back from work/gym that i would literally be in my own world and end up forgetting to text a girl or two back for a like a day! imagine their reactions.

Lol As far as not appearing overly exited with women, videogames are perfect. I once had some women come over to chill at my house; the only problem was that they came while me and my boys were playing Madden (NFL for non Americans). We kept playing. One massive bubble butt sista' was so incensed at failing to capture my attention she came over drunk and laid down on my lap while I was playing. Damn near ran for 300 yards I was so inspired, tearing that “L2” button up.

In blowing hot and cold...doesn't get much colder than videogames for women. You can almost see the steam coming out of their ears like “He'd rather play that than have me string him along?” Highly effective.