Post: #1

So it seems that this cute asian chick (let's say...oh 7.5) has decided to join my gym and shares the same schedule as me. I've noticed her a few times now, and I thought I was picking up on some her-checking-me-out signals, but just kind of wrote it off because we were at the gym. She had also been with a personal trainer in all of the previous instances.

But today! She was there without a trainer, and she was giving me some really hard signals: dodgy, nervous eyes, hair flipping, lingering, and twice there was some prolonged gazing with a smile. Now, I'm fairly new to gaming, but from what I understand I would be an idiot not to approach her. And, gentlemen, I did! She had kind of sidled over by some weights in my immediate vicinity, so I delivered my classic line with a slight smirk, "Hi." She looked down and responded with "hi." Progressing, I then asked, "How's it going today?" She said, "alright," with a shy smile and then awkwardly walked back over to her machine.

Okay. Less than optimal results. I think she realized later that I had acknowledged her signals and was trying to hit on her, and that she had blown the chance to talk to me, because the eye contact/checking-me-out-and-looking-away became more frequent afterwards.

I was trying to think of something else to say to her to initiate an actual conversation, but I just couldn't figure anything out that wouldn't be painfully disjointed. I don't want to give her lifting advice, because that seems douchey, and I don't want to ask her for advice because she clearly doesn't know anything about lifting (see: personal trainer). Her clothes were generic, girl, workout clothes. No accessories. I didn't want to go with the "I've seen you around" direction, because that seems weird. Just nothing to work with.

So what was my line? What should I have done?

And what do I do next? I know that a lot of people here feel that gym game is more long game, and I did at least establish contact. Or I contemplated the idea of going direct? But that seems like that could end poorly.

I usually get the Costanza effect pretty hard after an approach, but I'm really drawing a blank on this one.

Thanks in advance.

Post: #2

Your head is too wrapped up in this individual.

You need to get over opening up ANY girl before you can get to the phase of being selective.

Post: #3

easy to go direct, but id try "hey again, hows it going?" and then FOLLOW UP. "alright" ramble, "just alright? are the workouts killing you?"

Edit: introduction happens after you she asks you a personal question. till then you're straight rambling talking about your workouts and gym and life.

high energy (don't over do it). the smirk is good, keep that. introduce yourself and when you shake her hand, hold it longer. look into her eyes until she breaks away. then comes in your ramble from "Day Game" by roosh. if you haven't read it BUY IT. literally best $10 spent on kindle, well after BANG

Post: #4

Women are generally only attracted to men who are less invested in them, than they are in themselves.

Also, how attractive a man is inversely proportional to how needy he is. The needier he is in his life, the less attractive and vice-versa.

The man who always has the perfect line to say to her is a man she will not trust. Because he shows no vulnerability and his words are inauthentic and therefore needy.

So, just ask her out to join you for ______ because it will be fun.

Given what I read, this simple thing could be very difficult for you though.

Good luck.

Post: #5

Chat shit like you're not interested until you get more signals then ask her out. It's not like you won't see her again and if you don't, find another chick

Post: #6

Okay, some clarification. Hopefully this doesn't sound defensive. I'm not wrapped up in this girl. I have more or less decided that the gym is not a place that I'm going to try to meet women. However, she was sending me some strong signals, and I was trying to be impulsive and reactive and I decided to open her. (Which is actually a small victory for me in itself at this stage.)

Now I realize that there isn't a perfect line that's going to make her swoon and soak her panties. That's not at all what I was looking for. I was just hoping to retroactively analyze the interaction, in hopes of improving similar scenarios in the future.

I have read DayBang, and I can generally talk out of my ass pretty well. I just couldn't get it together here. I was looking for props but was drawing a blank. I couldn't frame the exercise angle well in my mind, and I just didn't know where to go from "alright." Blackliter's advice seems good.

So my question, more distilled, should probably read: What could I ramble about at the gym?

Post: #7

workout, your your sore, shit my arm is giving me trouble, does that ever happen to you, injuries hurt my progres, one time my friend lost 5 lb from an injury, those 5 lbs took 6 months to gain.

im trying to work out this muscle group, read this article that this exercise did this and did that. i like this shit and that shit, but this muscle is just so hard to train.

the weather is crazy outside, i literally am dieing of heat or freezing my ass off. blah bla keep going idk how

Much harder on the spot you got it dude!

Post: #8

The answer is keep working out. I workout so hard I don't notice people, sure girls check me out but I ain't there for that.
Eventually she will open you, they always do. I think you jumped too soon and you may have spooked her.

Post: #9

Approach and say hi with a smirk, then after she greets you back say "I like the way you fitness" in a sarcastic, deadpan tone. If she's a cool girl she'll laugh and it'll lighten the approach and allow for less nervous rabble. Beats an interview-like cliché conversation about her workout routine etc.