Post: #1

I need some serious advice and tips.

Met this hot Puerto Rican girl at a hookah place and we instantly clicked and talked for a few hours. Turns out she's been travelling the world and is now has become a food blogger. Typical rich parent's girl grew up in Connecticut and NYC and joined Peace Corps and lived in Europe and Africa for a while.

She mentioned she has a boyfriend and they live together and he's a workaholic. Boyfriend is a South Indian techie and from her talks seems beta. This girl asked me for my number before I did and next day texts me about how great it was chatting with me bla bla bla and invites to go again for hookah and dinner and also join her on a trip to San Antonio from Austin where we are right now.

I've just met her for 24 hours and she wants me to go on a day trip. Something seems strange. The boyfriend is not interested in museums nor does he smoke hookah so she's taking me as we talked a lot about art and culture and things like that. I've been teasing her a lot on text and she seems to be responding well..we flirted almost non stop today.

But the one thing that annoys me is she keeps mentioning the boyfriend who she lives with. How he's this how he's that. How she talked with his parents and how she's learning Hinduism bla bla bla. I was like oh you guys seem very serious since you're getting introduced to the mom. She says oh no not that serious I'm not dreaming about marrying or anything.

I'm just playing it cool and not getting sucked into the whole boyfriend thing. Today she adds me on facebook and I see her profile and turns out they have been together for about 9 months. We flirted non stop evening and night as if she's really into me and then started talking about the boyfriend every now and then. I asked her if the guy is cool with her hanging out with me and she said yes I told him everything. He's very modern and I dont worship him or take permissions(yea letting your girl go on road trip with strange man is modern).

I'm getting mixed signals. Am I getting friendzoned and she's just hanging out like a friend or is there a chance for something to happen. She cannot take too much alcohol as it makes her have migraine so one of the best tool in my arsenal is out. She's addicted to hookahs. Are there some cool hookah games which can lead to hookup. I'm heading to the trip on Saturday.

So gents any ideas any tips how do I play this hand?

Post: #2

Why would you devote so much of your time to a girl that hasn't kissed you and can't shut up about her boyfriend around you?

Post: #3

Check my hookah bar game post.
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Specifically shotgunning to initiate that kiss.

If you can't get a shotgun, eff it.
If you can, baby step toward her cheating... grab a kiss while you're doing it.

Post: #4

"I've just met her for 24 hours and she wants me to go on a day trip. Something seems strange. The boyfriend is not interested in museums nor does he smoke hookah so she's taking me as we talked a lot about art and culture and things like that. I've been teasing her a lot on text and she seems to be responding well..we flirted almost non stop today."

This could be one of two things. The positive one is that she's tired of the b/f and into you. This is usually good for short-term, but be careful about anything long-term with a woman who steps out on a boyfriend because that sort of thing is a habit and one day you'll wind up the one left behind.

The negative is that she might want to use you for a ride/food/cash and to help underwrite her blog. A lot of women are like this. They find willing nice guys to fund their endeavors and have a guy back home they screw.

If you agree to go on the trip, make sure you don't have to pay, and that includes gas money. If she's going anyway, you should just be company.

And if you have to make up some story about your credit card being temporarily frozen, do it. (Digression: I've used this line - specifically with a girl from a wealthy background. I've found, oddly enough, that rich girls are actually cheaper than working girls. Rich girls never learned the value of money and expect you to pay, like daddy, even if she's driving a car ten times the price of yours.)

And not to be totally paranoid, but who is in San Antonio? Be careful she's not playing you against another guy she might want to meet and/or make jealous. Be sure the destination isn't a hazard.

All of the above examples/worries come from actual real life situations I've been in where I paid for stuff I shouldn't have and/or was used as a pawn to make another guy jealous. I get suspicious when women move too fast.

Post: #5

(07-11-2014 02:43 AM)sinnerman Wrote:  But the one thing that annoys me is she keeps mentioning the boyfriend who she lives with. How he's this how he's that. How she talked with his parents and how she's learning Hinduism bla bla bla. I was like oh you guys seem very serious since you're getting introduced to the mom. She says oh no not that serious I'm not dreaming about marrying or anything.

You seem like you were jealous or frustrated. Instead try "You should marry this guy..he seems like a prince charming." It's called agree and amplify. She'll disqualify him herself at that point.

(07-11-2014 02:43 AM)sinnerman Wrote:  I'm just playing it cool and not getting sucked into the whole boyfriend thing. Today she adds me on facebook and I see her profile and turns out they have been together for about 9 months. We flirted non stop evening and night as if she's really into me and then started talking about the boyfriend every now and then. I asked her if the guy is cool with her hanging out with me and she said yes I told him everything. He's very modern and I dont worship him or take permissions(yea letting your girl go on road trip with strange man is modern).

I am definitely getting a read that this is an Indian girl and if it is, eject.

(07-11-2014 02:43 AM)sinnerman Wrote:  I'm getting mixed signals. Am I getting friendzoned

Not yet, but you already put out your landing gear and about to land there if you don't get a bit more aggressive.