Post: #1

Over the years I've learned that no matter how tight my game, there will always be a significant percentage of girls who will never be into me. Gaming them is not only a chore but also counterproductive because deep down I'm not really attracted to them either. I'm just trying to fuck them for self-validation with no further interest.

There will also be certain types of girls who despite their physical attractiveness, will never do anything for me besides being a temporary cum receptacle.

If that shit goes emotionally ... does that work sexually too? Are there certain girls you just "click" with sexually? Nothing to do with your or her actual "skills" in bed. I'm talking about sexual chemistry.

Are there certain girls you just click with sexually despite them not being as attractive, wild or sexually experienced as others? I've had 6.5's I literally dream about fucking and 8's I just lackadaisically go through the motions with. It had nothing to do with their skills or anything. It was more profound.

How do you screen for these types of girls?

Post: #2

(03-16-2016 06:40 PM)Anabasis to Desta Wrote:  Are there certain girls you just click with sexually despite them not being as attractive, wild or sexually experienced as others? I've had 6.5's I literally dream about fucking and 8's I just lackadaisically go through the motions with. It had nothing to do with their skills or anything. It was more profound.

How's that old saying go; those who say they want to sleep with a model have never actually slept with a model?

I always say that arm candy is nice, but I prefer a girl who I click with sexually any day of the week. If you give me a 7 who's a minx in the sheets vs. a 9 who's a stiff, I'd go with the 7.

I don't even think it's about being 'experienced', it's more about girls who are sexually compatible with you. I've had virgins who are better than experienced girls. Recently, I was with a girl who wouldn't shut up during sex - very attractive, but the sex was awful. Emotional and sexual calibration are pretty important, and make for the best sex partners. I personally can't really sleep with a girl if I can't enjoy a conversation with her. If I'm drunk, however, this rule does not apply

Post: #3

I see exactly where you are coming from. Regarding your first point there are abosultly women no matter how advanced you become that will disqualfy you for many arbitary reasons. She may have a miniumum height, dislike red heads etc I mean I'm 30 now and I'm slowly norwooding up top and i'm sure there are girls that next me based on that alone but there are just as many that don't notice nor give a fuck.

Sexually/emotionally? Thinking back my best lays were actually not with my top tier notches. My most recent LTR that I had genuine feelings for was objectively a standard lay but my feelings for her definelty elevated it.

Screening? for me it just comes from the gut man!

Post: #4

(03-16-2016 06:40 PM)Anabasis to Desta Wrote:  How do you screen for these types of girls?

I just try and fuck em all (that I can of course) and sort em out later. Yes some girls I click with more in bed but I actually I prefer the 2-4 fuck as the truer test than the first as first is just about closing and getting my jizz on and her squirt on. It also seems to usually take me a couple rounds to get a chick to relax and let her true freak flag fly. But thats just me

Post: #5

I dont think you need to screen for them. I usually need just a few minutes to see if that kind of chemistry is there or not. I broke up with a 6.5 who I had mind blowing chemistry with (in and out of bed) because my ego got in the way. She was also a sweet, caring and kind girl. I was at my prime then and had a string of recent 8's, so this slightly above average girl wasn't good enough. I learned my lesson, I will take chemistry with that kind of woman now over sheer beauty without the chemistry.

Post: #6

I think part of the mistake we all make in this is thinking that attractiveness exists as some kind of external standard. Some girls would be quite plain if you saw them still and expressionless, yet they come alive at every thought and emotion and wear it beautifully across their faces. Consequently some girl who might have quite an average face can suddenly become very pretty as she becomes animated - a real genuine smile, an unself-conscious laugh, the twinkling eyes, a bunch of sexy mannerisms - all these things go towards beauty. I think as well this is why the Victoria Secrets girls are as sought after as they are - beyond the fact that they are in fantastic shape, they all always seem to be having so much fun. You see the backstage videos, the playful fashion shoots, the interviews - these are all heavily edited I'm sure, but you really get the impression that these are sweet, fun, confident girls who are loving life in what is actually a fairly wholesome way.

The appeal to some kind of external objective standard in this arena holds many men back I think. Some girls are physically beautiful, and have beautiful charming mannerisms as well, and these are of course what we should all aspire to. But that girl who is sweet and fun and drives you wild still once the absolute novelty of her has gone is probably closer to being a 10 for you than someone physically more beautiful but who lacks those quirks of character that suit her to you.

Post: #7

(03-17-2016 05:05 AM)H1N1 Wrote:  I think part of the mistake we all make in this is thinking that attractiveness exists as some kind of external standard. Some girls would be quite plain if you saw them still and expressionless, yet they come alive at every thought and emotion and wear it beautifully across their faces. Consequently some girl who might have quite an average face can suddenly become very pretty as she becomes animated - a real genuine smile, an unself-conscious laugh, the twinkling eyes, a bunch of sexy mannerisms - all these things go towards beauty. I think as well this is why the Victoria Secrets girls are as sought after as they are - beyond the fact that they are in fantastic shape, they all always seem to be having so much fun. You see the backstage videos, the playful fashion shoots, the interviews - these are all heavily edited I'm sure, but you really get the impression that these are sweet, fun, confident girls who are loving life in what is actually a fairly wholesome way.

The appeal to some kind of external objective standard in this arena holds many men back I think. Some girls are physically beautiful, and have beautiful charming mannerisms as well, and these are of course what we should all aspire to. But that girl who is sweet and fun and drives you wild still once the absolute novelty of her has gone is probably closer to being a 10 for you than someone physically more beautiful but who lacks those quirks of character that suit her to you.

Exactly.

Beauty should never be judged statically but rather, on a holistic level.

I think deep down we are all looking for a woman (or many) that lets us be our true selves, unapologetically. A fun, feminine, playful woman helps us get there. Adding in some semblance of physical "beauty" (and an intoxicating natural body aroma/pheromones/clean tasting pussy) into the mix helps even more. Combine all that with a high level of both sexual and cerebral compatibility, and that will serve as the icing.

If those things aren't present, we know that there's always something better out there for us.

Having said all that, I've had off-the-charts purely sexual compatibility that did not correspond in any way to every day social interaction with the chick, just too different. I happily forgave her for her (our?) shortcomings in that regard for a piece of that delicious pie on an ongoing basis.

Post: #8

^ Agree with all of the above.

That being said, I also don't think anyone is saying the above helps the below:

Post: #9

I know exactly what you mean, and that deeper sexual connection and the physical hunger that comes with it have started to become what I seek. The last few girls I've been with, after a bang or two and I realise that deeper chemistry isn't there, I've let go. The sex was fine, they were cute and pleasant, but just didn't bring that next level shit.

I've started to wonder if it's somehow instinctive, based on genetics. Just like how exotic girls might be hotter to you because they've got a totally different genetic mix and getting your two sets of DNA together is a good idea from an evolutionary standpoint, maybe we just instinctively know if someone is a good genetic match from subconscious cues. That would explain why the 6.5 inexplicably inspires greater lust in you than the 8.

I think pheromones are part of it too, and even maybe a way to screen. I've noticed that for me, when I have that deeper chemistry with a particular girl I'm also more likely to find her scent more intoxicating - and the few times I've consciously noticed beforehand "damn this girl's smell wakes up something animal in me", the sexual chemistry has been great. This is her natural skin scent, regardless of perfume, so I'm assuming it's pheromones. I'm also more likely to really enjoy going down on these girls, and get lost tasting and smelling them.

Would be interesting if anyone else has made the same observations. I don't see an effective way to experiment with it to find out.

Post: #10

Life is too short to masturbate inside women you don't vibe with.

Post: #11

(03-17-2016 05:33 AM)262 Wrote:  ^ Agree with all of the above.

That being said, I also don't think anyone is saying the above helps the below:

It's what's on the inside that counts!

Post: #12

(03-17-2016 03:21 PM)WeekendCasanova Wrote:  

(03-17-2016 05:33 AM)262 Wrote:  ^ Agree with all of the above.

That being said, I also don't think anyone is saying the above helps the below:

It's what's on the inside that counts!

Bacon?

Post: #13

Feelings lead to better sex. Whether they are a 9 or a 7.

Post: #14

Every time I'm with an 8-9 especially an American 8-9 I assume she is too hypergamey to take seriously. With the exception of a few foreign 8s, my experience has proved this right every time so far. It is always the 6s and 7s I fall for.

Post: #15

Yea now that I'm getting older I can sense when I really click with a girl. I know when the sex is going to be good just by the way we interact.

I've had chicks that were hot but I just wasn't really into it, it seemed fake and boring. I had a couple girls that were super freaky and it didn't do it for me at the time, like they were overdoing it.

Its like a nice symphony when it all goes down perfect, I would say its with less than 10% of the girls I meet.