Post: #1

Hi Gurus,

Want to say alot and alot can be said... appreciatable effort... very well done and many thaks to you all who are helping others....

Thumbs up!

I will lnot waste your time...and will come to the point.. Guys, I need your help to sort out an issue which is reallly irritating me and please do not disappoint me by saying to look anone else.

I have read the mission statement but the issue is I dont want to be a looser and need your assistance, I assure I will put my max efforts to make the things workout.

My problem is:

Introduction to situation:
1. I have relocated to a house where she is also renting out a room.
She lives next to my room

2. She is such a nice and kind girl that I was/am in love with her and really want her

3. Initially she didnt tod me about his boyfriend.. she has always (may be pretended) a sort of girl who would not even allow you to touch her.... weird... yes!

4. Due to my several stupid mistakes, I have made an impression in her mind that I am good, nice but not interesting in long term relationships

5. I am 100% confident that she wanted me to spit it out but... (my mistakes)

6. Now finallly when she introduced me with her bf (4month old) I pretended all OK ..... but inside I was ..........Damnn..

like an ordinary guy please dont say that forget her n etc.... as I still belive that I have got the potential... I am her good frend but I want to change the zone to bf.. the issue is that as per my understanding she will never allow me to proceed when she already have one........

PLEASE HELP ME OUT

XXX

Post: #2

Take a risk by going after her by setting up the sexy mood when she feels comfortable with you and you need to kiss her within an hour, however, do not tell her how deep you are on her.
or
Move on, and do not think about depression, there are tons of great girl out there that there will be a chance that is better than a girl you currently like.

Post: #3

Many thanks for the reply kabrino,
now i wil like to add some details and will request you to reconfirm the above steps and then i will proceed towards the next plan of action.

Updates:
1. She has introduced her boyfriends twice to me and I have met him v. confidently buttt last time she had got an impression that I dint liked all this

2. before al this she has come to my room and fully gae me the opportunity to kiss her.....but anyways..i t was my mistake.. inface i planned a very slow game.......

3. we do not meet very often... now... due to work timings.... she is not even texting me thses days.. but hopefully we will meet in few weeks/days may be due to a common friend... (btw- the other friend is girl whose close to her ..she is close to me and wil be happy to help me to get her)

4. At the time when i am acting that i DONT care for her..how can i ask her to come to my room... where I may kiss her... should i give the things more time to get happen (mistake- i have already done) or do it asap

by the way - i was planniing to tell her all in detail as after al once she openly said that will you be mine ... and i pretended that I will have to think...

Regards,
XXX

Post: #4

(02-24-2009 11:02 PM)ahsan Wrote:  Many thanks for the reply kabrino,
now i wil like to add some details and will request you to reconfirm the above steps and then i will proceed towards the next plan of action.

Updates:
1. She has introduced her boyfriends twice to me and I have met him v. confidently buttt last time she had got an impression that I dint liked all this

2. before al this she has come to my room and fully gae me the opportunity to kiss her.....but anyways..i t was my mistake.. inface i planned a very slow game.......

3. we do not meet very often... now... due to work timings.... she is not even texting me thses days.. but hopefully we will meet in few weeks/days may be due to a common friend... (btw- the other friend is girl whose close to her ..she is close to me and wil be happy to help me to get her)

4. At the time when i am acting that i DONT care for her..how can i ask her to come to my room... where I may kiss her... should i give the things more time to get happen (mistake- i have already done) or do it asap

by the way - i was planniing to tell her all in detail as after al once she openly said that will you be mine ... and i pretended that I will have to think...

Regards,
XXX

I find with my somewhat successful experience with women (im only 19 so still have a lot of learning to do), the one thing you cant do is tell her how you feel. you gotta just be confident and do it. Whether it be you take her with you to the club, a movie,or chill at the mall and smoke a joint (obviously this will depend on your common interests and where you are comfortable). Just move in for the kiss and the rest is all yours. Girls like security, and she's most likely on the verge of leaving such boyfriend but wants someone she can go to immediately after. Seeing as she asked you if you'll be hers, I'm assuming that person is YOU. lucky day. Btw, a good response to that question in my books, shouldve been "how much will you pay" teasingly, then just go for the kiss.

That being said, Im like an armchair quarterback right here so dont know what you were thinking of in the situation, lots of times random shit happens and you dont have that gut instinct or smooth talking. Whatever happens, dont pin your whole life trying to get/impress ONE girl. By having many chicks interested in you, you become the prize and sooner or later they'll be fighting over you and the losers have to take the scraps (shithead other guys who dont have fuck all in their lives).

Every morning what I do is I smoke a cigg,shave, and then look in the mirror and tell myself "life sucks, but lets do something to make it better", and once you go through X amount of days your life will start changing for the better and once it does, the ladies will notice it too.

Post: #5

So you come to a game forum, with no game, to figure how to get with one girl who has a boyfriend?

Post: #6

Many Thanks Karbrino and KCT0673
Roosh - Yes, exactly yes!. IS this something wrong with this ? I am here as I have no game but want you to tell the game and take me to the level where i can eb a winner

Right now, I am a looser without playing...

Nodoubt, Ypu guys know more than me but I am unable to understand why do you say "dont let her know that you are serious". why? I think if she is honest type of girl (she is a book reader (philosophy, life n etc and atleast in my understanding genuine girl). Why will be it wrong if I just go to her and tell her that I was interested in her and blalaa baalal balaa...

And I understnad that she has someone now and I just wanted to express all.. After all this if she ever loved me she will get back.... otherwise... i will not c her again......

no doubt it will be extremely difficult to stay in the same house after that ...

can you please advice how should I arrange a meeting with her
1. invite her to my room for drinks (she normally comes but she refuses sometimes.. ) after all the shit doesnt looks nice to me
2. invite a gir who is her friend and say that girl to bring along her
3. ask her to give sometime someday.. and we will go out


BTW - As you have better understanding of the body language and I belive that you can provide me with an better analysis for all this:

1. LAst time when she introduced me with her b.f. I started some sophisticated chat with t hat boy and totaly ignored her.. i wasnt rude .. she tried to speak alot but i creatd an env where we weer talking and she fet left alone....

finally she had to ask her b.f that if he is coming with her or not?

this is strange to me that why was she getting jeaous ? i am a boy and I am talking to her b.f? weirdd?? isnt it?

btw- in all that chat i pretended v sophisticated...

any anaylsis/advices.. please!

Post: #7

You're in the wrong forum

Post: #8

(02-26-2009 03:25 PM)Roosh Wrote:  You're in the wrong forum

have you even read anything to help you get started on your game?
Right now you just sound as if she's the only thing that matters in this world when that shouldnt be the case. Like i said earlier,grab some nice clothes, a watch, and maybe gell your hair in the morning so that you look half decent...if you look as though you know how to take care of yourself and grow some balls and just talk to a chick even without any of the lines etc that you develop over time they'll start to notice you. Once you have a few more girls in your life that will make your friend jealous. Its not like there's a rush for you, she's in a relationship. Normally, if a chick has a boyfriend that ive met before, I dont try to backstab him because ive got a thing called morales. There's 7 billion and probably 300 million of those are hot women. Thats a large number to chose from.

Post: #9

(02-26-2009 03:25 PM)Roosh Wrote:  You're in the wrong forum

sorry roosh, that was supposed to reply to the original poster lol

Post: #10

(02-26-2009 07:10 PM)KCT0673 Wrote:  

(02-26-2009 03:25 PM)Roosh Wrote:  You're in the wrong forum

have you even read anything to help you get started on your game?
Right now you just sound as if she's the only thing that matters in this world when that shouldnt be the case. Like i said earlier,grab some nice clothes, a watch, and maybe gell your hair in the morning so that you look half decent...if you look as though you know how to take care of yourself and grow some balls and just talk to a chick even without any of the lines etc that you develop over time they'll start to notice you. Once you have a few more girls in your life that will make your friend jealous. Its not like there's a rush for you, she's in a relationship. Normally, if a chick has a boyfriend that ive met before, I dont try to backstab him because ive got a thing called morales. There's 7 billion and probably 300 million of those are hot women. Thats a large number to chose from.

Many Thanks KTC.... you are a real motivated man...

cheers..

I will execute your action plan and will update u..

thanks again