Post: #1

In my MBA program, I had a Writing Communication workshop yesterday. The professor at the end brought in writing consultants who are mostly PHD students in English, History or any other Arts major, to give us a one on one consultation session in the private study rooms. Before the consulting session sign up, you get to see the consultants and know them by their name.

So, the last time this happened, I purposely signed up with a tall crazy eyed 7 and during the consulting session hit it off well, getting pointers on cover letters etc and then knowing about what she does (PHD Political Science) and each others interests. Left with saying that we should get together and maybe discuss some fun aspects of politics. She seemed eager and excited. But I did not take the number and just said that I would see her around soon.

Today, when the consultants came in at the end of the workshop, the tall crazy eyed 7 was running late but there was also an uber hot 7.5 with a resting bitchface. So I Immediately signed up with her. There was a break of 1 hour before the consulting session where I looked her up online. Then I started thinking what should I use as an opener. Her name was exactly the last name of a very famous Mountaineer and that was enough.

When the time came for the session and as soon as I entered the study room, I hit her with " You are 'her name'? As in 'Mountaineer's name'?" She was surprised and somewhat knew about the mountaineer. So we talked for about 7 minutes related to mountaineering, why I like it, the summits I have done and my plans one day to do Everest. She shared her ideas about it and story of one of her friends who is doing Everest base camp.

Then she initiated that we should do the consulting work though she would prefer talking about mountaineering. I just nodded and brought on the consulting work where I let her review some of my written communication work. After that we talked more on mountaineering. Here she went a little weird where she was fascinated by how some of these climbers die. She was asking me questions on what happens and whether death is peaceful once they lose consciousness on extreme altitudes. She talked about the frozen bodies on big mountains that still remain there. I answered her question non nonchalantly. I also noticed she was drinking some weird organic grass drink. Typical. Then I steered the conversation towards her. I learned more about her (PHD in modern American literature). I then threw in some famous American Author names just to show that I like reading as well. I teased her that she didn't have a Southern accent and asked her where she was from (I already knew from looking her up online that she was from New Jersey). We talked about few more things and then I suggested that we should meet up and discuss more stuff. So I asked her number. She said she will give her email. She gave me her university email. Then I said alright, I would hit her up and she finished by saying that we will discuss more on mountaineering. After that we said our Goodbyes and left.

Now, the reason I went into detail is so that it gives you guys a better picture about the interaction.

Normally, I would think that if she hasn't given her number then she wasn't that interested. But she knew we were in sort of a professional setting and it could also be that she probably was afraid to cross a line.

I dislike emailing in general, even from private emails. This is an official university one. If I do, what should I even message her? Hey 'resting bitchface English PHD 7.5', remember me, the mountaineering MBA dude. Lets catch up on the University Pub or Coffee place and discuss some more mountaineering?' That is lame. Problem is I can't ask her that I would like to meet up and like get to know each other more. Not on an official email.

I have not much to lose provided that I sent a carefully made message but if it goes well then there are good things to gain as I haven't yet got in with a girl from the university. Once that door opens, 100s more will open and so will my SMV easily increase. So I am not invested in it much but want to give it a good shot so that resting bitchface 7.5 at least gets some tingles through an email message and comes out to meet.

So, what would be a proper exciting email, that would seem good on a university email? When should I email her. Its already been a day.

Post: #2

Since you are going to run into her again at the university do not bother emailing . see how your next interaction goes and then decide how to take it from there

Post: #3

I agree with arsenal. Try to talk to her in person. If you don't see her for a while then you could e-mail her about something new in mountaineering and say that it reminded you of her..... but don't expect much.

You are probably an analytical guy and there is nothing wrong with that but try to understand your strengths and weaknesses. I suggest talking to more girls and not analyzing each interaction so much. You might have the perfect interaction with a girl but she might already be fucking Chad regularly (or two Chads) so she won't be interested even though she doesn't have a boyfriend. It's a numbers game.

Post: #4

Send a brief thank you note. with perhaps a light joke, requiring no answer. Most likely she won’t answer. It’s just a prophilactic move to gain some ground. Then forget about her until you meet in person again.
If she does answer, depending on her tone, either try to build a conversation over several days, or propose an interesting date.

Post: #5

Email address vs ph number is not a good sign but an opening nonetheless

Id try"

Quote:"Hey RBF

I enjoyed our chat the other day and appreciate your help with my work (sic). I'd like to continue the chat about dead frozen bodies on mountains. Im going to be at X Pub (sic) on (insert day/time) and would like to buy you a round as a token of my appreciation as well.

Cheers

bk"

Keep it light, short and to the point

In person face to face is better but you certainly cant make the shots you dont take.

There's 4 possible outcomes

1. She doesn't respond at all. No big deal. Nothing lost

2. She turns you down (insert excuse). No big deal. Nothing lost

3. She declines but offers an alternative date (Good outcome)

4. She accepts (best outcome)

If 1 or 2 then leave it be. Dont respond or follow up and just take another shot if and when you see her

If 3 or 4 then game on

In the meantime keep approaching/pursuing other girls

Post: #6

Don't email

Post: #7

Thanks everyone. Id like to take the email shot, especially on the lines of what PT suggested.

There is one more workshop left but its next month and I don't know if she will be there. The other way to see her in person is go to the University Writing and Communication office and see what her hours are.That would seem more like stalking unless I have a good excuse of bumping into her.

Plus, I want to test this scenario of using the email out. Lets see if there is anything that comes out of it. Otherwise meh and next.

Post: #8

(02-13-2018 02:31 PM)bk19xsa Wrote:  Thanks everyone. Id like to take the email shot, especially on the lines of what PT suggested.

There is one more workshop left but its next month and I don't know if she will be there. The other way to see her in person is go to the University Writing and Communication office and see what her hours are.That would seem more like stalking unless I have a good excuse of bumping into her.

Plus, I want to test this scenario of using the email out. Lets see if there is anything that comes out of it. Otherwise meh and next.

Email is like a 1/10 so dont its not likely to yield a response. Her giving you her email rather than ph number was probably her way of soft rejection...akin to saying "I have a boyfriend"

But then again...you never know.

Keep us posted if she responds

Dont wait for her to respond or not though. You should be talking to other girls as often as possible no matter

Post: #9

(02-13-2018 02:31 PM)bk19xsa Wrote:  Thanks everyone. Id like to take the email shot, especially on the lines of what PT suggested.

There is one more workshop left but its next month and I don't know if she will be there. The other way to see her in person is go to the University Writing and Communication office and see what her hours are.That would seem more like stalking unless I have a good excuse of bumping into her.

Plus, I want to test this scenario of using the email out. Lets see if there is anything that comes out of it. Otherwise meh and next.

Update? Did you send the email? Any response?

Post: #10

Couldn't get back earlier as I had Mid terms going on.

I did email her but no response. So next time If I see her in University, Im not going to waste time and be direct, as in would not show that I emailed her or even bring it up, just ask her straight up to meet for a drink or snack.

I know bitches like her are down. They want plausible deniability. Also, I don't care getting turned down as there are way too many hot undergrades to game. Plus the other Communications girl, the tall crazy eyed political science Phd girl, has seen me a few times at campus and is always eager to talk. I just didnt have the time to pursue. Next time I see her, Ill ask her out as well. She likes hanging out at the grad bar where I hang time to time as well.

Anyways thanks for the input. All the stuff you guys mentioned, I believe did play out. Also special shout to PT for showing how in such situations an email should sound like. It will be useful for future similar situations.