Post: #1

It blew my mind, because i have never heard this one before. It caught me off guard.

So i met this cute girl 3 weeks ago for the first time at this club, when i had a bad night out, and was about to head home. We ended up talking for 30 minutes and she seemed so cool, unlike most girls i met that night, she was so energetic and happy. She made me laugh, not many girls do that. I asked for her number before i left. Later that night she messaged me "Where are you? did you go home?". I said yes. She said "Seriously why are you so damn handsome?". I took it as a compliment and said, you're cute yourself ;) she responded awww and sent a heart emoji. A week passed and i thought about her again, i messaged her asking if she's going out tonight, if i will be seeing her again. She said unfortunately she's working all this weekend and next one too. In my mind i thought she probably lost interest, and she's making up an excuse so i shouldn't spend more time on this. But i decided to throw in a last ditch effort. I said, text me when you're free some day, we should hang out. She said "sure, would love to".

2 weeks passed and while im minding my own business gaming others girls, she texts me out of the blue. "Are you going out tonight? let's meet up". I say sure. We meet at the same club and she introduces me to all her friends. They all seem so nice. We sit at the table, having a good time talking about all sort of stuff. She is very open and she wants to hold hands with me whenever i lay my arm around her. She seems very happy. She hugs me and tells me i smell great. Very strong IOI's. We're having the best time that night, dancing, laughing, kissing. This girl has such a good personality man, LTR material.

So it was getting late and we're about to head home. We kiss goodbye and part ways. I get home and she texts me "I want to admit something". I say bring it. "I like you a lot, you're unlike many guys i have met, you seem so genuine, and you make me so happy". I tell her i don't deserve all that flattering and that i like her too. We text a bit then she says "good night, text me when you wake up, if you want to of course <3". In the morning when i wake up i see a message from her saying good morning, and that she enjoyed last night. I recently moved out to my own place, from a small city to this big city to study, and i had mentioned it to her briefly. She asks me if i live alone, and i say yeah, and joke about me being awful at cooking, and that i miss my mothers food. She says "If you're hungry, i can come over and cook for you <3". Perhaps this isn't unusual for many of you, or guys who dated eastern european girls where it's in the culture. But for this feminist filled country, where they expect the man to cook / do everything etc, it's mindblowing. A gem.

Honestly i feel rusty as fuck, the only girl i have had over was my ex. Should i just invite her over to watch a movie? i feel like a pussy right now. I am always so confident with girls up until the point where things move to either my or their place. Maybe for the fact that if things escalate, it wont be a good experience for her i fear. The problem is that im a little bit insecure about having sex with her, since i feel like im lacking experience from my previous relationship. I feel like she expects something more, and i can't deliver.

I feel like if i will be busting in 20 seconds, she will think badly about me. Should i be honest and tell her that im inexperienced and just have her accept it? or should i just play confident and let things evolve naturally. She seem to genuinly like me, so im thinking she won't mind that much and maybe im just over thinking it. Inexperience and cumming in 2 minutes feels like shit man. I suppose i just need practice. What do you guys think? Is this a valid concern, or do i need to man up before i lose this girl.

Post: #2

You're being a pussy. Invite her over, let her cook for you. Fuck her. If you bust fast wait a while and fuck her again. You surely won't bust as fast the 2nd time.

Post: #3

Are you trolling?

I'm happy to alleviate you of your burden. How? Just give me her number. I also promise, I will let you know how good a cook she is and how well she fucks. You can thank me later by buying me a drink.

Post: #4

Like realologist said, just do it. Invite her over, let her cook for you, and go for the bang.

And don't worry about busting right away and underperforming. I recently lost my virginity and before it happened, like you, I too was worried about such -- that I'd bust right away, and that she'd know I was a virgin by how bad I was. But none of that happened. To the contrary, I didn't bust at all. She rode me and after a while got tired; I had no choice but to start pounding from underneath, so I did, and after a while longer she just went completely limp and collapsed on top of me -- I broke her, lol. And then, later that night, she texted me saying that I was really good. That she was sore and could barely walk. So yeah. Don't worry, bro. You'll be fine and even if you aren't, it doesn't matter. You'll get better.

Cheers,

.

Post: #5

(02-26-2018 07:57 AM)chvrches Wrote:  I feel like if i will be busting in 20 seconds, she will think badly about me.

Take a cialis and if you get to bang her once just go again

(02-26-2018 07:57 AM)chvrches Wrote:  Should i be honest and tell her that im inexperienced and just have her accept it?

No,,,just no. Nothing dries a chicks vagina faster than a man's weakness or vulnerability

(02-26-2018 07:57 AM)chvrches Wrote:  or should i just play confident and let things evolve naturally.


She seem to genuinly like me, so im thinking she won't mind that much and maybe im just over thinking it. Inexperience and cumming in 2 minutes feels like shit man. I suppose i just need practice. What do you guys think? Is this a valid concern, or do i need to man up before i lose this girl.

Would you rather only bang her once or only bang her none?

Yes you're over thinking it.

That or youre trolling

Post: #6

Jerk off before she arrives then enjoy your dinner.

Post: #7

There is something about you that she feels is unique and she is focused on you.....for now. But most girls have short attention spans. Invite her over already. Jerk off beforehand or take a cialis or whatever. The most important thing to do is stop delaying.

If she sincerely likes you then she isn't going to judge you on the first time you have sex or the first few times. There are plenty of girls that have boyfriends who they love even though the sex is bad. That doesn't last forever but it lasts longer than you think.

Don't assume she is LTR material just yet. Give that some time. You don't what it is that has her hung up on you. It could be that something about you makes her feel that you are the opposite of her ex-boyfriend or her father who she hates. Take the LTR thing slow.

Post: #8

If you are this rusty don't try to play off as experienced - it seems she will sleep with you either way. See it as a stepping stone for getting in the game. You have to start somewhere.

Post: #9

Re reading this post i understand how it can come off as a troll, but it was my anxiety talking i suppose. I woke up this morning with a much clearer head and is going to approach this better now. Thanks for the comments, i guess i needed to hear the bashing, seriously. It's a no brainer and im just being scared before there's anything to be scared of. And in the end if she's just in it for the sex, i dodged a bullet, but if she's patient and is in it for me, then she will stay.

@Duke thanks man, inspiring words.

@PappayaTapper you're right, i won't say anything, why did i even think about this.

@birthday cat thanks for the tips, makes good sense. I shouldn't rush the LTR, even though i feel like it. In the end the one who chases least is the one with most power in the relationship, so you're right about slowing it down.

@mensch well said, fully agreed about the stepping stone.

Post: #10

Any reason you posted this exact same thread on Reddit?

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comme..._can_come/

Post: #11

DELETE

Post: #12

Thread title has nothing to do with the issue.

She wants to make you food and sex is on the cards. Do it.
Don't forego this opportunity. You'll build experience from it and likely enjoy it a lot!

Post: #13

(02-27-2018 04:34 PM)Turnus Wrote:  Any reason you posted this exact same thread on Reddit?

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comme..._can_come/

Hmmmmm...

Post: #14

@Turnus yeah, it's nice with different perspectives, advanced, intermediate and beginner. But i got my answer from here.

Post: #15

Your response text should be:

"Great! Come over. I am already whipping my dick out."

Post: #16

So when's the date, OP?

Post: #17

@Duke This weekend, either saturday or sunday.

Post: #18

Might be late to the party but I agree with everyone else.
Get her over asap, mention your top 3 favorite dishes, tell her to choose one but not tell you what she will be making, ask her what wine pairing does it go with and there you go. 15-25$ for the bottle of wine.

I have done this a few times, it makes women feel like they're wanted, you added a fun twist and makes a great night.

Post: #19

UPDATE:

She came over to my apartment a few hours ago and this was the first time it was just the 2 of us. First time meeting outside of the club. And i have a lot of confusing thoughts. We talked about things, laughed, made out, talked a bit more, kissed, cuddled and that's it. I told her to take her shirt of so i can give her massage, and she did it instantly, and she seemed super happy to be here with me. I managed to get her down to her bra and even fondle her breasts and she didn't seem so shy laying there with me on top, but when i tried to take her pants off she was resistant. I let it cool down and tried again later, she resisted once again. I asked her why she doesn't fully trust me, she said she does. So i said then why don't we have sex? She said, she doesn't know, she wants to be sure about me first. I thought alright so sex wont be happening tonight. But the way she acted so confident, getting on top of me and stroking my dick and teasing me, riding on top of me with pants on. My dick had the roller coaster experience, it was hard one minute, but soft another. It was confused.

She had even picked a matching calvin klein underwear/bra, and shaved and everything, she told me she had done that last night. I am thinking she did this to be ready, she maybe was expecting sex. Did i do something wrong? I know for a fact that i was slow to initiate, but after i gave her massage things got easier. Still i couldn't force her to anything, after i got the second resistant i let it go. How should i have handled this situation? The thing is, she never actually said no to sex, she was just resistant, she even said herself "i didn't say no to sex, i just said maybe" when i told her i wanna smash right now while she was on top of me. I had my shirt off but we just ended up cuddling..

Anyways the next time we will definitely bang, but it made me think, what did i do wrong here? Did i not create a good enough atmosphere? There wasn't much kissing at first, this might be the reason, maybe i jumped too fast. She texted me saying she miss me a little ago, so it's a good sign. Also she wants to come over again in a few days. Is it a bad thing for a guy to ask for permission before doing things? I heard it might show off as insecurity with some girls, and that i should just initiate everything.

Post: #20

(02-26-2018 08:32 PM)birthday cat Wrote:  There is something about you that she feels is unique and she is focused on you.....for now. But most girls have short attention spans. Invite her over already. Jerk off beforehand or take a cialis or whatever. The most important thing to do is stop delaying.

If she sincerely likes you then she isn't going to judge you on the first time you have sex or the first few times. There are plenty of girls that have boyfriends who they love even though the sex is bad. That doesn't last forever but it lasts longer than you think.

Don't assume she is LTR material just yet. Give that some time. You don't what it is that has her hung up on you. It could be that something about you makes her feel that you are the opposite of her ex-boyfriend or her father who she hates. Take the LTR thing slow.

how do you get ahold of cialis, viagra, etc. without a prescription?

Post: #21

You can buy anything on the internet, dude.

Post: #22

(03-11-2018 01:41 PM)chvrches Wrote:  UPDATE:

She came over to my apartment a few hours ago and this was the first time it was just the 2 of us. First time meeting outside of the club. And i have a lot of confusing thoughts. We talked about things, laughed, made out, talked a bit more, kissed, cuddled and that's it. I told her to take her shirt of so i can give her massage, and she did it instantly, and she seemed super happy to be here with me. I managed to get her down to her bra and even fondle her breasts and she didn't seem so shy laying there with me on top, but when i tried to take her pants off she was resistant. I let it cool down and tried again later, she resisted once again. I asked her why she doesn't fully trust me, she said she does. So i said then why don't we have sex? She said, she doesn't know, she wants to be sure about me first. I thought alright so sex wont be happening tonight. But the way she acted so confident, getting on top of me and stroking my dick and teasing me, riding on top of me with pants on. My dick had the roller coaster experience, it was hard one minute, but soft another. It was confused.

She had even picked a matching calvin klein underwear/bra, and shaved and everything, she told me she had done that last night. I am thinking she did this to be ready, she maybe was expecting sex. Did i do something wrong? I know for a fact that i was slow to initiate, but after i gave her massage things got easier. Still i couldn't force her to anything, after i got the second resistant i let it go. How should i have handled this situation? The thing is, she never actually said no to sex, she was just resistant, she even said herself "i didn't say no to sex, i just said maybe" when i told her i wanna smash right now while she was on top of me. I had my shirt off but we just ended up cuddling..

Anyways the next time we will definitely bang, but it made me think, what did i do wrong here? Did i not create a good enough atmosphere? There wasn't much kissing at first, this might be the reason, maybe i jumped too fast. She texted me saying she miss me a little ago, so it's a good sign. Also she wants to come over again in a few days. Is it a bad thing for a guy to ask for permission before doing things? I heard it might show off as insecurity with some girls, and that i should just initiate everything.

Don't ask permission. Do it. If she stops you, she stops you. But she was expecting to fuck and you did something to convince her otherwise.

Either way you probably pushed too hard and then totally stopped. Scared the cat so bad the hairs stood up. I bet if you moved slowly. Have that foreplay last for a while. Two steps forward, one step back.

Next time she comes over Insuggest not making a move for the first hour but build up the tension. Hug her and have your hand linger on the small of her back for a few seconds. Don't kiss her yet. Just slightly touch erogenous zones to get that tension high. Then when you kiss her it'll drive her crazy.

But now on to the important part. Can she cook?

Post: #23

(03-11-2018 02:17 PM)Dulceácido Wrote:  You can buy anything on the internet, dude.

Yeah, you're right. I'll just slap myself now...

Post: #24

(03-11-2018 02:25 PM)realologist Wrote:  

(03-11-2018 01:41 PM)chvrches Wrote:  UPDATE:

She came over to my apartment a few hours ago and this was the first time it was just the 2 of us. First time meeting outside of the club. And i have a lot of confusing thoughts. We talked about things, laughed, made out, talked a bit more, kissed, cuddled and that's it. I told her to take her shirt of so i can give her massage, and she did it instantly, and she seemed super happy to be here with me. I managed to get her down to her bra and even fondle her breasts and she didn't seem so shy laying there with me on top, but when i tried to take her pants off she was resistant. I let it cool down and tried again later, she resisted once again. I asked her why she doesn't fully trust me, she said she does. So i said then why don't we have sex? She said, she doesn't know, she wants to be sure about me first. I thought alright so sex wont be happening tonight. But the way she acted so confident, getting on top of me and stroking my dick and teasing me, riding on top of me with pants on. My dick had the roller coaster experience, it was hard one minute, but soft another. It was confused.

She had even picked a matching calvin klein underwear/bra, and shaved and everything, she told me she had done that last night. I am thinking she did this to be ready, she maybe was expecting sex. Did i do something wrong? I know for a fact that i was slow to initiate, but after i gave her massage things got easier. Still i couldn't force her to anything, after i got the second resistant i let it go. How should i have handled this situation? The thing is, she never actually said no to sex, she was just resistant, she even said herself "i didn't say no to sex, i just said maybe" when i told her i wanna smash right now while she was on top of me. I had my shirt off but we just ended up cuddling..

Anyways the next time we will definitely bang, but it made me think, what did i do wrong here? Did i not create a good enough atmosphere? There wasn't much kissing at first, this might be the reason, maybe i jumped too fast. She texted me saying she miss me a little ago, so it's a good sign. Also she wants to come over again in a few days. Is it a bad thing for a guy to ask for permission before doing things? I heard it might show off as insecurity with some girls, and that i should just initiate everything.

Don't ask permission. Do it. If she stops you, she stops you. But she was expecting to fuck and you did something to convince her otherwise.

Either way you probably pushed too hard and then totally stopped. Scared the cat so bad the hairs stood up. I bet if you moved slowly. Have that foreplay last for a while. Two steps forward, one step back.

Next time she comes over Insuggest not making a move for the first hour but build up the tension. Hug her and have your hand linger on the small of her back for a few seconds. Don't kiss her yet. Just slightly touch erogenous zones to get that tension high. Then when you kiss her it'll drive her crazy.

But now on to the important part. Can she cook?

I think you hit the nail on the head. I will 100% use your advice next time we meet again which will be in a few days. About the cooking, she didn't cook for me yet, but i expect her to do so next time after we bang. I honestly do believe she wanted to have sex today but something changed her mind, either that or that she feels like she wants to prove something to me. She doesn't want me to think of her as an easy target or a slut if we bang on the "first date". She even said herself "you can't have it that easy". She's worried about what i might think about her, even though she likes me enough to want to have sex with me. If that makes sense. Also you're right, i did initiate it badly, maybe that killed the mood. But she really seemed to enjoy my company nonetheless without sex.

She texted me saying she misses me, and she's looking forward to see me again. Also that her clothes smell of me, with a heart emoji. I think it means she's more trusting in me after this session and that she wants to take the next step next time we meet. Perhaps she wants to know if im serious about getting into this relationship, since she's only ever had sex with her boyfriend before.

Post: #25

But.. can she cook?