Post: #151

(10-06-2013 12:31 PM)Que enspastic Wrote:  "Gaming black guys as a white woman"

For the box set.

Bust out a datasheet.

Post: #152

(10-06-2013 04:08 PM)RougeNoir Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 12:31 PM)Que enspastic Wrote:  "Gaming black guys as a white woman"

For the box set.

Bust out a datasheet.

Smile at a black man. Done.

Post: #153

(10-06-2013 04:31 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 04:08 PM)RougeNoir Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 12:31 PM)Que enspastic Wrote:  "Gaming black guys as a white woman"

For the box set.

Bust out a datasheet.

Smile at a black man. Done.

Not even that. Just be in the presence of some black men, I guarantee that at least one black guy is thirsty enough to hit on her. Tell her to act rude, but some black guys see that as a challenge to hit on her even harder.

Post: #154

(10-06-2013 05:15 AM)Sebastian Wrote:  Do you guys ever get an attitude from white bouncers after they see you hitting on a white woman?

(10-05-2013 11:26 PM)RougeNoir Wrote:  Last night I went out with a younger buddy. He's black too. He was rejected by a white woman in the streets and tried to continue the conversation, and I kid you not she walked and called the police who were wondering nearby. The cop snatched my buddy on his ass and hacked him up against the wall next to the white woman for them to "discuss" what happened. I told the officer, "my buddy was having a regular conversation with the woman, nothing illegal occured, sir." Of course, the cops didn't want to hear that and threatened to tackle me. The cops end up releasing my buddy since they found no crime occurred. Ironically, two hours later, we see her again with the same cop targeting another black man and telling him, "you can't talk to women like that" and "fuck this motherfucker." I'm like, "oh my god, is she really getting the cops to act upon her behalf like this for them to white knight in this fashion." She even used the same narrative as she did toward my black friend. "You can't talk to women like that." She called the police for bad/mediocre game. These white women have wayyyyyyyyyyyyy too much power. I've never witnessed anything like that in my life.

Black bouncers are often times worse to black guys than the white bouncers. Most of the rude bouncers I've seen were black. It didn't matter that I was black to them, they didn't tolerate anything from black men.

Post: #155

I never have problems with bouncers but, then again, I can be one myself if I wanted to.

Post: #156

Distant Light - you have the right mindset and once again you are a reminder why as black men we need to travel.

Post: #157

(10-05-2013 11:26 PM)RougeNoir Wrote:  Last night I went out with a younger buddy. He's black too. He was rejected by a white woman in the streets and tried to continue the conversation, and I kid you not she walked and called the police who were wondering nearby. The cop snatched my buddy on his ass and hacked him up against the wall next to the white woman for them to "discuss" what happened. I told the officer, "my buddy was having a regular conversation with the woman, nothing illegal occured, sir." Of course, the cops didn't want to hear that and threatened to tackle me. The cops end up releasing my buddy since they found no crime occurred. Ironically, two hours later, we see her again with the same cop targeting another black man and telling him, "you can't talk to women like that" and "fuck this motherfucker." I'm like, "oh my god, is she really getting the cops to act upon her behalf like this for them to white knight in this fashion." She even used the same narrative as she did toward my black friend. "You can't talk to women like that." She called the police for bad/mediocre game. These white women have wayyyyyyyyyyyyy too much power. I've never witnessed anything like that in my life.

I realize it is not practical, but especially since it happened twice, you could sue this woman and the officer under 42 USC § 1983. She is using the color of law to deprive you of your rights.

Post: #158

(10-06-2013 10:38 AM)CThunder86 Wrote:  Come on man. You've never had someone other than a black dude disrespect you?

Not out of the blue and like this.

Post: #159

(10-07-2013 12:09 AM)LowerCaseG Wrote:  

(10-05-2013 11:26 PM)RougeNoir Wrote:  Last night I went out with a younger buddy. He's black too. He was rejected by a white woman in the streets and tried to continue the conversation, and I kid you not she walked and called the police who were wondering nearby. The cop snatched my buddy on his ass and hacked him up against the wall next to the white woman for them to "discuss" what happened. I told the officer, "my buddy was having a regular conversation with the woman, nothing illegal occured, sir." Of course, the cops didn't want to hear that and threatened to tackle me. The cops end up releasing my buddy since they found no crime occurred. Ironically, two hours later, we see her again with the same cop targeting another black man and telling him, "you can't talk to women like that" and "fuck this motherfucker." I'm like, "oh my god, is she really getting the cops to act upon her behalf like this for them to white knight in this fashion." She even used the same narrative as she did toward my black friend. "You can't talk to women like that." She called the police for bad/mediocre game. These white women have wayyyyyyyyyyyyy too much power. I've never witnessed anything like that in my life.

I realize it is not practical, but especially since it happened twice, you could sue this woman and the officer under 42 USC § 1983. She is using the color of law to deprive you of your rights.

THis is basically why i dont talk to white girls in the states to much. Im trying to get out of that mentality, but I've seen this type shit so much. But thats mostly 18-21 yr olds. i look more for 21-24. Thats just my niche

Post: #160

(10-05-2013 11:26 PM)RougeNoir Wrote:  Last night I went out with a younger buddy. He's black too. He was rejected by a white woman in the streets and tried to continue the conversation, and I kid you not she walked and called the police who were wondering nearby. The cop snatched my buddy on his ass and hacked him up against the wall next to the white woman for them to "discuss" what happened. I told the officer, "my buddy was having a regular conversation with the woman, nothing illegal occured, sir." Of course, the cops didn't want to hear that and threatened to tackle me. The cops end up releasing my buddy since they found no crime occurred. Ironically, two hours later, we see her again with the same cop targeting another black man and telling him, "you can't talk to women like that" and "fuck this motherfucker." I'm like, "oh my god, is she really getting the cops to act upon her behalf like this for them to white knight in this fashion." She even used the same narrative as she did toward my black friend. "You can't talk to women like that." She called the police for bad/mediocre game. These white women have wayyyyyyyyyyyyy too much power. I've never witnessed anything like that in my life.

This is one of the unspoken realities of the Black male-white female relationship, which is in the relationship, you never hold the power, and even in non-romantic relationships and interactions between Blacks and whites, the threat of law enforcement is used to get you to fall back because the system is designed to protect them from you.

Look, I just accept things as the way they are. I understand people would like things to be different, I want the same, but they're not going to be, mostly because you don't really have a populace of people that wants change as it pertains to the treatment and behavior exhibited towards minorities, a code word for "losers".

So does that mean don't game white women?

No, but it does mean don't think grabbing one is some sort of come up, as if you're no longer Black, but accepted as something else, "different" even, especially since it is fact that even though you are the man, you NEVER hold the power in the relationship, the system will always defend her from you, and just the fact that she has it at her beck and call is Exhibit A has to who holds the power over whom.

Post: #161

(10-07-2013 09:46 PM)jariel Wrote:  the system will always defend her from you, and just the fact that she has it at her beck and call is Exhibit A has to who holds the power over whom.

Nicole Simpson might disagree. Just sayin'.

Post: #162

(10-07-2013 10:08 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

(10-07-2013 09:46 PM)jariel Wrote:  the system will always defend her from you, and just the fact that she has it at her beck and call is Exhibit A has to who holds the power over whom.

Nicole Simpson might disagree. Just sayin'.

OJ is paying her family like $33 Million so they do have power.

Post: #163

(10-07-2013 11:22 PM)Dex Wrote:  

(10-07-2013 10:08 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

(10-07-2013 09:46 PM)jariel Wrote:  the system will always defend her from you, and just the fact that she has it at her beck and call is Exhibit A has to who holds the power over whom.

Nicole Simpson might disagree. Just sayin'.

OJ is paying her family like $33 Million so they do have power.

Well, he did murder someone after all. I don't think that has anything to do with power. The guy did walk from what was pretty much a slam dunk murder trial.

Post: #164

Ceorab!! I knew I recognized the username hahaha...What up!?!?

This thread got very off-topic, so one chick disliked you O WELL. Just to give a quick FUN fact. Every chick I banged this year was white. (with exception of a dominican/black chick)

Regardless of RACE all men should have a criteria and if some chick even tried to BE THAT WAY she'd instantly be screened out. At the sametime, I don't roam around like a "thirsty" dude trying to bang some random chick.

People sometimes mistake me for someone famous because I roll into venues with ENERGY whether it is very relaxed or "I'm ready to live it up" type of vibe.

(10-06-2013 10:37 PM)rudebwoy Wrote:  Distant Light - you have the right mindset and once again you are a reminder why as black men we need to travel.

Hopefully next year I get to travel and see what's what...

Just based on how I am I feel it's highly probable that I'd be have some rather insane adventures abroad

Post: #165

The point of me posting that situation was not to propagate a victimhood mentality among black men. It was to illustrate some of the realities black men can experience when dealing with white women in 'Merica. Hell, the same night I number closed a white 7 in the club from dance game (probably a 6 with the lights on) who was there with dark skinned Asian looking women (Indian? Cambodian?).

Post: #166

How should I approach a white girl who used to date a black guy? (I am Asian)

They used to come to my store. She is petite brunette, sweet next door type girl (but has that sexual look) and the guy was a huge college athlete.

When I met her at the bar, she looked familiar but I couldn't recall.
She acted like she's never been to my store. When I came home, I remembered them.
So basically she doesn't want me to know that.
I am not going to bring it up.

I feel like I should go more aggressive, confident and take a full charge.
(I can't think of this big black guy acting beta)
If I didn't know she dated a guy like him, I would go in 'regular mode' though.

any suggestions?

Post: #167

(10-06-2013 04:31 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 04:08 PM)RougeNoir Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 12:31 PM)Que enspastic Wrote:  "Gaming black guys as a white woman"

For the box set.

Bust out a datasheet.

Smile at a black man. Done.

You saying this as if every black man is desperate to fuck a white chick. Anyway in the states it may be different but in the UK for example, majority of black cats (specially in London) are not into white women.

Post: #168

(10-09-2013 08:11 PM)pitt Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 04:31 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 04:08 PM)RougeNoir Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 12:31 PM)Que enspastic Wrote:  "Gaming black guys as a white woman"

For the box set.

Bust out a datasheet.

Smile at a black man. Done.

You saying this as if every black man is desperate to fuck a white chick. Anyway in the states it may be different but in the UK for example, majority of black cats (specially in London) are not into white women.

Maybe not the African cats, but I recall a stat where almost 50% of Caribbean men in the UK marry non-black women. In contrast, Pakistani men outmarry at the rate of 8%. I think African out-marriage figure rates are low as well.

Post: #169

(10-10-2013 09:11 AM)Vronsky Wrote:  

(10-09-2013 08:11 PM)pitt Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 04:31 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 04:08 PM)RougeNoir Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 12:31 PM)Que enspastic Wrote:  "Gaming black guys as a white woman"

For the box set.

Bust out a datasheet.

Smile at a black man. Done.

You saying this as if every black man is desperate to fuck a white chick. Anyway in the states it may be different but in the UK for example, majority of black cats (specially in London) are not into white women.

Maybe not the African cats, but I recall a stat where almost 50% of Caribbean men in the UK marry non-black women. In contrast, Pakistani men outmarry at the rate of 8%. I think African out-marriage figure rates are low as well.

Link?

You ever lived in the UK?

I was actually thinking about blacks from the caribbean when I said that.

I am almost sure that this statistic about 50% of caribbean men marrying non black women is bullshit, interracial marriages are not so strong in the UK.

Post: #170

(10-10-2013 10:41 AM)pitt Wrote:  

(10-10-2013 09:11 AM)Vronsky Wrote:  

(10-09-2013 08:11 PM)pitt Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 04:31 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 04:08 PM)RougeNoir Wrote:  Bust out a datasheet.

Smile at a black man. Done.

You saying this as if every black man is desperate to fuck a white chick. Anyway in the states it may be different but in the UK for example, majority of black cats (specially in London) are not into white women.

Maybe not the African cats, but I recall a stat where almost 50% of Caribbean men in the UK marry non-black women. In contrast, Pakistani men outmarry at the rate of 8%. I think African out-marriage figure rates are low as well.

Link?

You ever lived in the UK?

I was actually thinking about blacks from the caribbean when I said that.

I am almost sure that this statistic about 50% of caribbean men marrying non black women is bullshit, interracial marriages are not so strong in the UK.

Here is the link to an article summarizing the report from 2009:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/caribbean/news/stor...race.shtml

Looks like almost half of West Indian men marry non-black women, in the UK. The outmarriage rate for other ethnic groups, including Africans, is much lower.

Post: #171

(10-10-2013 11:25 AM)Vronsky Wrote:  

(10-10-2013 10:41 AM)pitt Wrote:  

(10-10-2013 09:11 AM)Vronsky Wrote:  

(10-09-2013 08:11 PM)pitt Wrote:  

(10-06-2013 04:31 PM)speakeasy Wrote:  Smile at a black man. Done.

You saying this as if every black man is desperate to fuck a white chick. Anyway in the states it may be different but in the UK for example, majority of black cats (specially in London) are not into white women.

Maybe not the African cats, but I recall a stat where almost 50% of Caribbean men in the UK marry non-black women. In contrast, Pakistani men outmarry at the rate of 8%. I think African out-marriage figure rates are low as well.

Link?

You ever lived in the UK?

I was actually thinking about blacks from the caribbean when I said that.

I am almost sure that this statistic about 50% of caribbean men marrying non black women is bullshit, interracial marriages are not so strong in the UK.

Here is the link to an article summarizing the report from 2009:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/caribbean/news/stor...race.shtml

Looks like almost half of West Indian men marry non-black women, in the UK. The outmarriage rate for other ethnic groups, including Africans, is much lower.

Pitt, if you're interested this is the gov't commissioned report. Pg 7 is where the relevant section starts.

http://www.equalityhumanrights.com/uploa...report.pdf

Post: #172

(09-24-2013 10:00 AM)Hencredible Casanova Wrote:  I think many of the guys who say white girls don't like black guys are the guys that don't really go for white girls. I have friends like this who make that claim but when it comes down to it, they never actually approach white chicks with any serious kind of effort, if ever. They may lust after a bad white chick but they just assume they are unattainable and don't really make the effort. These guys are accustomed to gaming black chicks so they just stay in their comfort zone with no real intention of ever branching out. Some of these guys are professional blacks who can deal with white people at work but in their free time they don't really associate with any. Many guys like this in DC.

It's not really that complicated. Just go out and approach. Travel. Get outside your comfort zone so that you can feel comfortable gaming any chick. Put in the work. The results will come.

Right on, it's like you read my mind. I had this exact realization recently. I'm not Black, but belong to a different ethnic minority and I've observed the exact same phenomenon with some friends of my ethnicity.

They will complain about how hard it is to get a White girl, say White girls don't like us, act super impressed if one of us gets with a White girl, etc. After a while hearing these statements even had an effect on me. But when I really thought about it - most of the girls I've dated have been White and these guys who complain never make a sincere effort to go after white girls.

One friend I remember ( who did the most complaining) came to a white bar with me and he literally just froze up and couldn't even talk to anyone. Finally later in the night he hit on the one non-white girl in there. That's when I realized these guys are just projecting their own discomfort. It really is more about culture, ability to relate, and attitude than race.

Post: #173

Whether we care to admit or not, alot of black men have a fascination with white women.

There is a high rate of famous black men that have married white women, this has gone on for years.

The media bombards us with images of white women being "beautiful" and other races being not as beautiful, this week alone we saw Scarlett Johannsen being named the most sexiest women alive or some nonsense.

The UK may not have alot of interracial marriages but is has a shit load of interracial kids, the most I have seen in my travels.

Post: #174

I think famous black men marrying white women is about access. I don't know about a lot of black men being "fascinated" by white women. I think many black men want to fuck women of all races if they consider them attractive enough, but long-term relationships and marriage has always been a whole different issue. I think it boils down to where you live, and how much access people have to each other. I know black guys like this, that grew up and went to school in predominantly white areas. None of these guys were really attracted to black women at all.

Scarlett Johansson was voted "The Sexiest Woman Alive" by Esquire Magazine for the second time - the only woman to receive the honor twice from them. I have no problem with Scarlett - I agree that she's incredibly sexy (sexiest in the world? That's always subject to debate). I also know that black men in general don't buy in to that - while a great many will agree that she's sexy, and would smash given the opportunity, they wouldn't necessarily give her the automatic nod over a fine Latina, Black, or any other woman of color. When all of these media lists for most beautiful, sexy, etc. are debated and compiled, there aren't a lot of people of color in the room, if at all.

Post: #175

Here's an overarching theme I've always wondered but have no clear answer. Is beauty objective or is it truly in the eye of the beholder? Do people only like what they like because they were conditioned to like a certain thing?

Virtually every man on the planet would take this:



over this:



But is that because of conditioning or because there's something in our genetics that makes us gravitate toward certain features? If you found a group of Bolivian men deep in the Amazon who have had zero exposure to Western culture, would they prefer someone who looks like Kate Upton over one of their own women? I wonder about that. Did Africans think whites looked ugly when whites first arrived in Africa?

It could very well be the case that our preferences are 100% ingrained by social conditioning. Maybe if all we saw from birth were indigenous Bolivian women on the cover of magazines and as lead actresses, we'd grow up thinking they are gorgeous. I'm sure Quechua men found them perfectly satisfactory in pre-Colombian times. As for non-white guys who are crazy about white girls, I think it's often nothing more than fetishism. Not much different than white guys who fetishize Japanese school girls or who want to go to an Asian pussy paradise and have their run with the women. Is it unhealthy? Well I guess it is if you have no access to those women and you drive yourself crazy with frustration. For some as well, I think it may stem from an inferiority complex of being a non-white living in a society where whites dominate. They may have internalized the notion that they are an "outgroup" and dating/marrying women from their own group would reinforce their outgroup status.

And in some cases, maybe some people just have a natural preference for a certain look and it doesn't stem from self-hatred or fetishism. They just like a certain thing and prefer it over others while still respecting the others. Members of that group may fulfill certain qualities that they have a hard time finding in their own group. For example, if a man wants a small-framed and demure woman that ages well, he may gravitate toward Asian women. If a woman prefers tall, alpha, outgoing, athletic guys, she may develop an interest in black men.

And obviously it could also be a combination of all the above.