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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
Age ain't a thing man !

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I like doing interactive things where we can have fun and talk - shooting pool or bowling over a drink are great ideas for a first date. (Afterall you guys met at the gym !)

Just have some fun and don't think about it too much, last thing you need is anxiety before meeting up and during the date.

I usually workout, shit, shower, eat, then head to the date pretty relaxed.

Take charge and make the plans, then roll with the flow - let her do the talking - women love to talk.

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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
- Watch and listen to COMEDY as you get ready..

- Get into that light-hearted, fun loving, wise cracking, burlesque sort of mood

- Talk to a variety of people, including other girls; BEFORE the date

- Get to the venue early but don't go inside -- walk around the neighborhood talking to people and getting socially "warmed up"

- Don't mention age until she does.. Casually play if off as if the age difference is no big deal, which, it is not. (I don't want to advise you to lie about your age because that opens up other potential problems -- Just be honest and live with the consequences.. Or, shave a few years off and live with those consequences.. ? Tough call.. Your decision.. Honestly, the truth is easier in most cases)

- Understand the being nervous is normal and natural -- it's just your body getting ready to compete.. Not a big deal at all!

- Have fun. Entertain yourself.

- Maybe, have one drink as you're getting ready

YOU ARE A BAD MOTHERFUCKER! GO HAVE FUN OUT THERE! IT'S YOUR FUCKING PARTY!

FUCK IT!!!

I will be waiting for a complete report of what happened!
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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
Quote:Do shave.

Should I shave off the stubble I usually keep?

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(10-21-2016 02:46 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  Should I shave off the stubble I usually keep?

If YOU like it, keep it!

Do what FEELS most attractive for YOU!

Do what feels best for you?

Trust your instinct!

(girls like stubble) (especially on friday)
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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
It all comes down to having fun. Just enjoy the time you have, feel comfortable in your own skin. Don't say any stupid shit.

That is the most important thing, make the situation for YOU to feel good. Laugh and lead. Simple and easy.
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(10-20-2016 03:07 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  I have a date scheduled tomorrow and the girl actually seems enthusiastic. Any quick pointers?

Tuthmosis's New Recipe For Securing First Date Bangs


Should be required reading

Even if not going for first date bang the "date plan" is as good as it gets
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(10-21-2016 04:50 PM)BladeRunner Wrote:  Tuthmosis's New Recipe For Securing First Date Bangs

Should be required reading

Holy cow, that Tuthmosis post has 242 likes. Is that a forum record? Don't break the internet.
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(10-21-2016 02:58 PM)Giovonny Wrote:  
(10-21-2016 02:46 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  Should I shave off the stubble I usually keep?

If YOU like it, keep it!

Do what FEELS most attractive for YOU!

Do what feels best for you?

Trust your instinct!

(girls like stubble) (especially on friday)


I hate to disagree with giovanny, but I will. For the most part the women I've banged, said they prefer me clean shaven so my whiskers don't stab them while kissing/ going down on them and eating pussy. But ultimately, it's your call Rex.

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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
and I thought I was bad by not having been on a date in 3 months (since I came back from Russia) lol. Rex, can you tell me what led you to not having a single date in 12 years? Did you completely ignore all women in your daily interactions?
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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
Well I guess this whole thing is a big Facepalm

The date itself was fine, but it didn't take me more than a few minutes to decide I was not physically attracted, and she raised more red flags than a Chinese Olympics.

Summary: early 30's, majored in Sociology and Women's studies, perfumed like grandma so the smell made me a little sick, and...somewhat recently lost over a hundred pounds. eek

On the other hand I was totally fine just staying in the moment and conversing and joking about whatever for 3 hours. I practiced my conversation skills. Anyway, I decided to friend-zone myself by absolutely zero escalation, and hopefully exiting gracefully. However, even before getting home I had a text saying she wanted to meet up again.

Oh well, it was a good experience. But it shows me that I am really at the bottom.

Need some more leads.

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10-22-2016 10:03 AM
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(10-20-2016 03:12 PM)presidentcarter Wrote:  Mindblown3

I am concerned for RexImperator. This is not the first thread of his that has furrowed my brow.

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(10-22-2016 10:03 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  Oh well, it was a good experience. But it shows me that I am really at the bottom.

Need some more leads.

What do you mean by that? I mean, it sounds like you done good and didn't mess up at all and you took yourself out of the game on purpose since you weren't attracted to her. How are you at the bottom?

And as someone whose never had a 'date', tell me how did the first 10 minutes or so go? Was it like a job interview and you asked each other about your work and stuff? Or were you somehow able to get into a fun 'vibe' fairly fast?
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Quote:And as someone whose never had a 'date', tell me how did the first 10 minutes or so go? Was it like a job interview and you asked each other about your work and stuff? Or were you somehow able to get into a fun 'vibe' fairly fast?

It started off with the boring job interview stuff but then moved along to other topics. I didn't really think about it- I guess I just made observations about what was said and then kept doing that. I'd say it was about 85% the girl talking about herself with my various questions and 15% of me answering questions.

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Quote:I am concerned for RexImperator. This is not the first thread of his that has furrowed my brow.

I've been very open about my lack of experience and success with the ladies in many other threads, but I don't want to wallow in self pity. Sometimes it's almost like people don't believe me.

If only you knew how bad things really are.
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(10-22-2016 10:57 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  
Quote:I am concerned for RexImperator. This is not the first thread of his that has furrowed my brow.

I've been very open about my lack of experience and success with the ladies in many other threads, but I don't want to wallow in self pity. Sometimes it's almost like people don't believe me.

Three and a half years on THE Roosh V Forum with one date is either a testament to your efforts or our expertise (I'm hoping it's the former).

Even user "thegreenman" was able to get laid after a year of intense work.

For those that don't remember this was the man who logged 3000 approaches and 0 bangs. He was so inexperienced that CMQ, Giovonny, and others offered free coaching as a service to mankind.

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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
(10-22-2016 11:15 AM)redbeard Wrote:  
(10-22-2016 10:57 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  
Quote:I am concerned for RexImperator. This is not the first thread of his that has furrowed my brow.

I've been very open about my lack of experience and success with the ladies in many other threads, but I don't want to wallow in self pity. Sometimes it's almost like people don't believe me.

Three and a half years on THE Roosh V Forum with one date is either a testament to your efforts or our expertise (I'm hoping it's the former).


For those that don't remember this was the man who logged 3000 approaches and 0 bangs. He was so inexperienced that CMQ, Giovonny, and others offered free coaching as a service to mankind.

Never seen that thread. Gonna read it soon. But it looks like as is often teh case, everyone on the first page is assuming he is a troll. I'm assuming since you used him as an example it turned out he was in fact being genuine?

Anyway, cheers for the link! He sounds about as successful as me. I shall read the thread and maybe learn something!
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RE: First date in 12 years tomorrow. What do I need to know?
Rex,

You've got 2 choices at this point. Feel sorry for yourself that you didn't bang a hottie last night. Or pat yourself on the back that you finally approached, finally got the number, and finally went on a date.

My advice is to choose option 2. Feel good that you made your first step. And try to approach a few more women this week. Keep positive and use the little momentum you have to push yourself forward.
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Nice work Rex, keep it up!

(10-21-2016 05:12 PM)ElFlaco Wrote:  
(10-21-2016 04:50 PM)BladeRunner Wrote:  Tuthmosis's New Recipe For Securing First Date Bangs

Should be required reading

Holy cow, that Tuthmosis post has 242 likes. Is that a forum record? Don't break the internet.

Kim Kardashian already broke it.

(10-22-2016 10:03 AM)RexImperator Wrote:  Need some more leads.

You are middle aged right? Your best bet to funnel some leads is going to be online. I focus on 18-24 year olds so I only use Tinder/Bumble.

A cougar I work with is in her mid-40's. She only uses match.com because she thinks that if guys are paying for the service, they are more serious about dating. I would guess a lot of women over 30 feel the same way.

If I were you, I'd get on match.com and e-harmony. You could easily build up some leads that way. You can run through some dates and get some practice in to knock off that rust. That way, when you meet a girl who is actually worth dating, you have a much higher chance of snagging her.

Even Mario had to run through his share of Bowsers to get to the Princess.
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Online is such a horror show.

Maybe I should research bars that cater to divorced MILFs and cougars.

If only you knew how bad things really are.
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^ you want to get laid? Online is exactly where you want to be.

Is it possible that you're expecting too much? i.e your looks and status (and confidence/game) aren't commensurate with the womens' you're expecting to have sex with.
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You can't give up after a date with one girl.

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Where are you located?

Aloha!
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(10-22-2016 06:50 PM)RexImperator Wrote:  Online is such a horror show.

Maybe I should research bars that cater to divorced MILFs and cougars.

Yeah, that bar is called match.com. It's in every city.
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Rex, what do you look like? Where do you live? I think online may be your best bet. I forgot about that greenman thread -- I wonder how he's doing.

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Best advice i ever got was to grab her right in pussy
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